I have studied for years now how a "loving?" mother, could get away with alienating children from their loving father. This supposedly responsible woman tries to find excuses for her actions in teaching her children to hate their Dad. There is nothing that can justify this immoral behaivor.
In my research and inquiries to experts, there is something called Parental Alienation. I had never heard of this. If you look up PAS, you will discover that John's ex wife Kelly is a "classic" alienator. Under the guidlines of Alienation, there are 3 types of Alienators. Kelly Baker Barnes is the most extreme. She is labled as the Obssessed Alienator as defined below:
The
characteristics of an obsessed alienator are:
- They are obsessed with destroying the
children's relationship with the targeted parent.
- They having succeeded in enmeshing the
children's personalities and beliefs about the other parent with their
own.
- The children will parrot the obsessed
alienator rather than express their own feelings from personal experience
with the other parent.
- The targeted parent and often the children
cannot tell you the reasons for their feelings.
- Their beliefs sometimes becoming delusional
and irrational. No one, especially the court, can convince obsessed
alienators that they are wrong. Anyone who tries is the enemy.
- They will often seek support from family
members, quasi-political groups or friends that will share in their
beliefs that they are victimized by the other parent and the system. The
battle becomes "us against them." The obsessed alienator's
supporters are often seen at the court hearings even though they haven't
been subpoenaed.
- They have an unquenchable anger because they
believe that the targeted parent has victimized them and whatever they do
to protect the children is justified.
- They have a desire for the court to punish the
other parent with court orders that would interfere or block the targeted
parent from seeing the children. This confirms in the obsessed alienator's
mind that he or she was right all the time.
- The court's authority does not intimidate
them.
- The obsessed alienator believes in a higher
cause, protecting the children at all cost.
This blog has been about me and my struggles with Domestic Violence, divorce, and healing. I am stronger today than I have ever been before so I want to change the focus for now to John and his 5 children and the hate that he has to now face. When you watch the video below, you will understand why I have to post this on John's behalf.
"I have nothing to fear for honesty is my deadliest weapon"~Catherine Ann Landers
Please view Video below. It may be John's last one.
Watch John's Video
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