Relief, Reunions, Triumphs and Rejoicing

It is said quite often that we alienated parents abandoned our children when if fact, our children were stolen from us and hidden away from our love. The more we try to reach our stolen children, the more the alienators scream stalking, harassment and fear that we alienated parents will harm them. My story is not unique. Just like all of you, I have been accused of cyber-stalking, insanities, and horrible parenting by threatening to harm my ex and his wife. Anymore, I chuckle at their accusations and words because alienators may have an isolated audience with their peers, but the children hold the truth. That's the audience they should focus on. The truths cannot be erased and the ONLY audience I care to listen to, respect and embrace are the ones that harbor truths-the kids. To me abandonment is when you choose to leave your child, ignore your child and pretend like your child does not, nor ever did exist. I have and will never stop trying to reach the only child I have not had contact with-my baby boy-Justin. I worked feverishly for years to track down my children and I did. One by one I re-engaged with my 3 older children. If I abandoned my son Justin then why would Melody and Kevin claim that all I did was harass them, the schools, their churches, ect.? Every time Melody speaks, she contradicts herself. I've no desire or need to point out the obvious lies that everyone already sees. But let me stress that if I never wanted anything to do with my children, why are they in contact with me today? Why is Justin not allowed to communicate with me if I was truly the one who abandoned him? Why is Justin's every move, cell phone call or whereabouts always monitored by his father and Melody? If I want nothing to do with Justin because I "abandoned" him, then Kevin and Melody should have nothing to worry about. Seems logical to me so why all the hiding and damage control? Having said that, why does John's ex wife Kelly make her children fear her outbursts if they even breathe their father's name? Because John's oldest son Nathan has chosen to love his father openly, he catches the most grief from his mother. It is quite sickening and disturbing as to how these fearful parents act under the pressure that their children will expose them and the lies.

I have a step daughter through my ex husband. My step-daughter is my ex's husbands wife-Melody's, biological daughter. Her ONLY daughter and Melody has abandoned her emotionally, physically and psychologically. Melody post pictures of her late son Kyle but there is never even an acknowledgment by Melody that her daughter, Kyles sister, even exists. I have had many long talks with my step-daughter and her strength and resilience is extraordinary. This has not been the first time her mom left her. With my step-daughters maturity, she has learned that its not her fault and no longer her burden-its her neglectful mothers burden. Is Melody embarrassed by her only daughter?  Is Melody just selfish and self-centered? Or most of all, is Melody afraid that her daughter may expose her past and all the secrets behind her lies? 100%. My younger daughter Amanda is estranged from me right now. We are going through a rough spot but I still see her in town, and I know that she is safe and thriving. Amanda knows, that I know that her well being and safety is not at risk and for that-I am at peace. She needs and wants to grow to find her own way. I can respect that but I never left her and I ALWAYS acknowledged her existence whether she and I are getting along or not. She is my baby girl and no matter the words, actions or circumstance-that will never change. She has never been abandoned by me. So for you alienators out there that have to tell anyone that you can corner that your child/step-child was abandoned by their "biological parent-give it up already. The more you try to convince others, the more hell you will have to pay when the child/ren call you to the carpet. And for the alienated parents like me-keep pushing through the heartaches-know that the day will come when your children, families, friends and society will see that you were with your child all along. Love can travel through space and time. To all you parents that are drained from the battle, keep using your voices. Keep posting publicly on YouTube, Twitter, Facebook how much you love your children. Keep writing in journals and blogs to document the time away from your child, so that when you reunite with them-and you will-your child/ren have a history of time lost. Trust me-your words and memories will be treasured by the children that so desperately need and deserve love from both their Mom and Dad without conditions or control. 
 How I do look forward to those moments of relief, reunions, triumphs and rejoicing with the children and the ones they've missed and loved all this time.
Let it begin with me and let it end with Our children.