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Friday, December 20, 2013

Unification trumps Manipulation...hate never prevails



In lou of the fact that I will once again be reunited with my eldest daughter , I wanted to share this video again. This video was tapped in Jan. 2011. Please keep in mind that when I divorced my ex husband, Ltc. Kevin Paul Landers sr., I never left my children. He took them from me through lies and hate. He thought by trying to alienate me that I would give up and that I would lose credibility with our 4 kids. His downfall in all his hate was that he also alienated our children if they chose to love me openly. As all of you know-I did not give up nor will I ever. I wanted to re-share this video to show the raw emotion these innocent sisters- now young adults- have had to endure because their father hated me more than he loved our girls. I now understand today that my ex hates women. No money can make up for the time he has stolen from these two sisters. He couldn't buy my love and he will learn that he can't buy his kids love either. His superficial ego thinks that if he throws money at our children that he should have supported years ago, that they will forget the past he and I both lived in. No amount of money or material items will ever wipe out memories of the insanities our kids endured. He truly is selfish fool to believe otherwise. His moments of being a 'sugar daddy" are temporary. Kevin has no long term capabilities of unconditional love and once the money runs out so will the kids. Kids that deserved their fathers unconditional love from the very beginning. 
Please read this entry and watch the video. There is no denying that these kids have endured much pain. As their mom, my intent will always be to help them heal.

 My daughters reunited after years of separation because of the hateful actions of their father. John videoed this reunion at our home in San Miguel de Allende in January, 2011. My daughters were not allowed to see or speak to each other under the custody of their dad. Not because of a court order but because of their father’s intimidation's that “if I find you spoke to “them” you will be punished” My older daughter was sent away to Job Corps in Anaconda Montana for 2 years without any financial, physical or emotional support from her father. He is a US Army LTC. Officer that could have paid for her to go to school anywhere in the world but he chose a Government funded facility so he would not have to pay out of his pocket. If you look at the pay scale of these officers, he could have afforded to help her in a better manner. Basically, he took advantage of a system that is trying to help those that can’t afford education because he loves his money more than his children.  The ONLY time my daughter had communications with her father is when she would ask permission to have a break from school. She had to ask permission because she was a minor. She was only 16 years old. Keep in mind that Job Corps is run and granted federal closure/vacation. The students that attend are allowed to leave to spend time with their families. My older daughter spent 2 years in this facility without a vacation over the weekends, Christmas, Thanksgiving ect. She also did not receive a visit from any of her family or friends because her father convinced others that it was illegal unless he gave permission.  Her father demanded that no family was allowed to visit, no friends…no one. “M” was told she was forbidden to speak to me, her sister, her brothers- her family and anyone else that her father deemed unfit in his eyes…not the courts. He was going to teach her a lesson because she and her siblings got sick and tired of lying for their dad. Because “M” was 16 her father could send her away to Job Corps.
It was a different story for my younger daughter who was only 14 and was not old enough to be sent away to a hidden facility by her father LTC. Kevin Paul Landers demands.

At this moment in time, my daughter “A” was living with me and John. None of Officer Kevin Landers accusations made any sense. If there was a “No contact” order against me to include all the children because of his claims that I was unstable then why would he send his younger daughter into my care? One or two things are going on. Either Kevin Landers does not care about the well being of his kids or he’s lying. I have proven time and again through the kids and myself-He lies all the time.
After months in a battle with the facility of Job Corps. Please refer to my blog entry my battle with Job Corps
 We established that a “no contact” order was a lie and we were finally able to communicate with our daughter “M”
When “M” turned 18 on October 13th, 2010, she told me she wanted to come to me. So, John and I worked diligently to make that happen. I encouraged “M” to finish her education in Job Corps as she only had 2 more months and then we brought her to us here. We kept it a secret from her sister “A” per “M’s” request. This is the video we documented so we could share their reunion after over 2 years of not being able to have contact with each other. For me-it had been 5 years. This was one of the most wonderful, emotional, spiritual moments in my life.

I am so very thankful that it’s happening again.
Please view this video and watch the emotion that these two sisters have. None of this hate or separation should have happened. Time is lost but today, memories can be gained. I use to get so sad that I lost so much time with my children and they lost precious time with each other as siblings. But for today and the tomorrows we have the power to create new memories that will last a lifetime.

Let it begin with me. Let is being with all of us that love each other.



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