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An Update-Col Kevin P. Landers Admits To Abusing Me

Update: 
I want to bring you to the current events. I have stated that Col Kevin Landers had dismissed our children from his life as long as they were in contact with me.  In 2012, Kevin Sr. had re-engaged with our younger daughter here in Mexico in an effort to bribe her with his money. He wanted her to help aide in his goal to take me to the courts over my blog and degrade me and John's outstanding reputation in society. It didn't work. As a matter of fact, the judge here in San Miguel along with the Embassy basically told Col Kevin Landers and Melody to stop wasting their time on frivolous lies against me and John.

Col Landers got on a new job in North Carolina in hopes that his lies will not follow him. In an effort to do this, he and Melody tried to display on public media sites and to "new friends" that our four children and Melody's only living child have been a part of their lives. It's a lie. Now they claim that I have convinced our children to hate them. I have NEVER brainwashed our children against their father nor Melody. My oldest son chose to not want to be in his fathers home and my two daughters were kicked out of Col Kevin P Landers home and he chose to put them into government funded facilities because he didn't want to supply monetary needs for them. Once he locked them away, he ignored them. I had to track our daughters down and was able to gain custody after a horrendous battle. Bottom line-Col Landers didn't want our kids, but he didn't want me to have them either. 
In the midst of all this insanity, our youngest son Justin was still a prisoner by his father and Melody. Justin was not allowed to communicate with any of us freely for 10 years. Kevin Sr. lost our 3 older children because of his anger so he kept tight chains on Justin who was just a little boy at the time. Why? It was a sick way to torture all of us that left him and his abuses. This is who Kevin Sr. is behind closed doors. He is mean when the blinds are drawn and we are living witnesses as to why he lost the loving family he had in his life. His anger, greed, infidelity and self-righteousness is why he lost 4 kids and a wife that loved him more then he will ever understand.

Justin has been used as a tool by Col Landers to control his siblings and once Justin was out his fathers home, classic Col Kevin Landers did bribe our kids with money, cars, vacations and, material items or worse-"I won't love you if you don't abide by my demands of hating your mother" 
Kevin Sr. hates those who hold him accountable for his behaviors especially if its his loved ones.

Please read this entry below and understand that I am posting public facts based from the internet. Truth speaks loud on these public sites. So do our children, but the children are afraid to talk out-loud. They fear their fathers threats that he will ruin their lives if they ever speak the truth. I can understand their fear as Kevin has taken me to court to try to silence me. A task that he will never achieve. 
Col Kevin Landers Sr. will go to any lengths to hide his secrets and get his way no matter who he hurts in the process.

I cannot paint a clearer picture in this entry as to how unstable, mean and manipulative Col Kevin P Landers and his wife Melody Wilson Landers truly are to the children they claim they tried to protect and loved for. Col Landers in all facts-threw his daughters and son away because they did not fit the mold of the perfect family he has to portray. Our children were becoming outspoken, hurt and withdrawn under Kevin and Melody's care because Kevin and Melody wanted the children to hate me. Col Landers didn't want nor know how to parent our kids after the divorce but now that the kids are healing and doing well after he abandoned them-he tried to bribe them back into his life so he can portray publicly-
"See what a great father I am and have been." 
However, because of Kevin's hateful ways in the past-the kids will not allow him to portray that lie any longer. In typical controlling abusive behaviors and in efforts to hide their lies-Kevin and Melody now only have a shrine of Melody's late son Kyle in their home. Kevin and Melody don't acknowledge our shared children in their lives so that others won't ask questions about what truly happened to the 5 kids they put on display in the past. This is very bothersome to Kevin's paternal/maternal family members, friends and past acquaintances that know our children personally. 
There is no acknowledgment in the Landers home that Kevin has fathered 4 other children and that Melody has given birth to a daughter. A daughter that deserves a nurturing mom and 4 kids that deserve a loving  father. 
How sick and unstable is it that Kevin Sr. and Melody dismiss 5 children because these kids refuse to live with lies and abuse? These now adult children only require unconditional love and stability and deserve(as all children do) to be able to live happy, productive lives with the joint love and encouragement of all parents involved.

It will be said that our children's instabilities are because I left Kevin but in essence-my filing for a divorce in 2005 was a result of a very unstable, abusive 18 year marriage and those are the scars our children carry.

Please keep your eyes wide open when you encounter Col Kevin P Landers Sr. and Melody Landers. They are not what they portray themselves to be and they will continue to "hide" behind any child or the shrine of a child that portrays them as "loving parents" 
The challenged children in Kevin and Melody's lives have no voice or freedom to expose the lies hidden behind the doors of Kevin Landers Sr. home. 
But, others do and we will continue to speak for the sad, lost and abused until we can speak no longer.
"Let it begin with me"

Entry from June, 2013

As I write this next entry, I’m reminded of the shape of Wall Street & private companies and the shambles CEO’s have left them in as they depart. I’m reminded of the demise of our USA government & political offices & it causes me to ponder, “How in the Heck did they get there?”. I wonder how some priests ever became much less remained priest amongst all their abuses? And how a person like Col Kevin Landers, continues to soar in the US Military (specifically US Army). Because I was this officers wife for over 18 years, I am extremely knowledgeable of my ex-husband’s abuses, negligence and lies. I am at a loss as to why a corporation/employer (the US Army) continues to “look the other way & turn their head concerning Col. Landers’s obvious dysfunctions in his performance as a soldier, a husband, a father, an officer and a peer.

I want to begin with Col Landers dysfunction as a father and a husband and how obvious it is that this man neglected & perverted his personal life. He runs on resentment and hate. If you don’t do as he says, and act as he commands-you are nothing to him. My children and I have felt shut down, beaten down and left to feel unloved and alone at least once if not more than once by the temper tantrums from Col Kevin P. Landers Sr.  Let me share with you some public examples.

After Col Landers lied to the court & had our child lie to the court, he succeeded in obtaining physical custody of all 4 children in July 2005 (the children had chosen to live with me). He made it very difficult for me to have any contact with our children but through the world wide web, family and loyal friends I was able to gather whereabouts of my children’s location(s). Although he lied, stole & cheated in an effort to gain possession of our children, he immediately started discarding them as he realized I was not going to return to him…he continues to use our children as pawns to try & silence me.

In this first article dated January 11^th 2008, Kevin accepts a promotion and he claims 6 children.

“LTC Landers and his wife Melody currently reside in Fayetteville, North Carolina. He has 4 children, Kevin Jr, Megan, Amanda, and Justin all of Fayetteville, and two stepchildren, Kyle Wilson of Fayetteville, and Kayla Wilson of Big Springs, West Virginia”-

 http://www.hurherald.com/cgi-bin/db_scripts/articles?Action=user_view&db=hurheral_articles&id=26892

8 months later, Lt. Col Kevin accepts command of the 4^th Engineers Fort Carson, Co. In this article, Kevin claims 5 children.

Col Landers now only claims 5 children

“Landers is married to the former Melody Wilson of Grantsville, West Virginia. They have five children: Kevin Jr., Kyle, Megan, Amanda and Justin.”

I acknowledge that errors & oversights occur but honestly, how could the number of children and the name of a child be mistaken? This is a red flag in the household of Lt. Col. Landers and his wife Melody.

So let me continue further to show you that there were no mistakes in the details of these articles. These articles were approved for printing by a man that is bitter because his mentality as an abuser is to turn away anyone that acknowledges my existence. US Army officer Lt. Col Kevin Paul Landers wants people to hate me because I hold his secrets. When any of our children refused to denounce my existence, Lt. Col. Landers would put them out of his home & into government funded (free) facilities. My children were begging to have contact with me and to silence them in an effort to hide his secrets and lies-he tried to hide them from society and me. This way, Lt. Col Kevin could lie about his own children and me without rebuttals and do what Col Kevin Landers does best-Damage Control. 
He would proceed to tell the people that inquired about his children that use to be in the "happy family portrait" that the kids were having emotional problems because of the divorce but the bottom line is the children were having emotional problems because they were to act as if I never existed. 
This "family" portrait below was made and hung on the wall within months after I was forced out of my children lives. I know this because once the children were in my life again-they started to share the stories of what life was like with their father and Melody. If you look closely, it appears Col Kevin Landers is not wearing a wedding ring but my computer resolution may not be as good as some.

Our divorce proceedings barely started and Kevin is living with a woman, and insisting that our children accept the fact that this woman (Melody) that they hardly know-is going to be their new Mother. According to my now adult children-they shared that their father told them that Melody was going to be a better mother than I ever was and that they better accept that fact without questions. What children wouldn't have rebellious behavior or emotional issues after being told something like this by their father? My children told me they had to secretly cry because if they said one word about me their father and/or Melody punished them by yelling, degrading or locking them away. Once again-how can any logical person not see how unstable Col Kevin Landers behavior is? He had or has no desire to raise our children. His goal in our divorce was to "win" but once he "won" our children-he left them behind while he pursued what he loves best-himself. All he cares about is-himself. No matter how much he has to lie, cheat, manipulate or abuse-his goal is to take care of himself. 
Once the kids were secure within facilities, he would ignore them. By that I mean, he had NO contact with them. He supplied no emotional, verbal or financial support. Our daughters M and A begged for their father to speak to them. M in particular, would asked her father if he would give her permission to graduate early from Job Corps because she was excelling rapidly. His response-"M, you only contact me when you need something." Really Kevin?

Here is the daughter that he manipulated into breaking into our kitchen window to try to steal court documents and then had her lie to a judge on his behalf? Then, after he didn't need her help- threw her away in the world with no support what so ever. A came next. So, conclude that the bottom line is-Kevin hates women even if they are his precious "little girls"
Here is a video that was recorded on January 11th, 2011 at my home here in San Miguel de Allende. My daughter "A" was already living with me and John. "M" had just graduated from Job Corps and wanted to live with me. These two sisters were forbidden to see or speak to each other in over 4 years by the demands of their father Col, Kevin P Landers, How much crueler can a father let alone a human being be? We did not tell daughter "A"that her sister was coming just in case Kevin tried to prevent daughter "M" from living with us. He did try but "M" was of legal age to choose and she chose to be with me.

I have all the emails and hateful responses to both of his daughters that he so carelessly threw away into the world. The allegations of drug abuse and lying by his 2 little girls is Kevin's written excuses in the emails to ignore his daughters. A tactic he used on me as a grown woman-his wife. Really?? An abuser, cheater, and swinger that happens to be an officer, father, and claimed christian that is acting self-righteous and continues to as long as society allows him.  

A little over a year later, in 2009, another article was posted. This article reveals that Lt. Col. Landers is willing to claim NOT 6; NOT 4 but now only 4 yrs after having obtained physical custody of our children, their father has “put 4 of them away”. In 2009, he only claimed 2 children: J Landers & Melody’s son Kyle Ray. How can the US army not question the stability and integrity of a solider that does not even claim his own children publicly or privately? I do believe that in Kevin’s mind, moving to Colorado would enable him to “start anew” where he could lie to a new audience. How sad it is that he would not acknowledge & would lie about 3 of his own children & Melody’s daughter.

“The Landers' reside in Fort Carson, Colorado Springs, CO with their two sons Kyle, 17, and Justin, 12.”
Col Landers now only claims 2 children

In an effort to start over, Melody and Kevin decided to create their own business called Kyles Home Health Care. A business in name & photo’s only.

http://www.kyleshomehealth.org/about_us

above: Melody, Kyle & Kevin

Our Family

In the Kyle’s Home Healthcare website, once again, only two children’s pictures show up-Kyle and Justin. What about Kyle’s sister that adored every breath he took? Why was she not honored as also being a part of a miracle in the life that Col Kevin Landers and Melody claim they want to live? What about Kyle’s other siblings (my & Kevin’s children)?” I have heard wonderful stories shared by my older children about how sweet and funny Kyle was. Where are the pictures of the siblings that became a part of Kyle’s day-to-day life in July 2005?

The words “Our Family” does not apply to those that refuse to lie on their father’s behalf. Does it seem strange that there are no pictures of the other children? If a father is not going to claim his 3 other children and his wife is not going to claim her only daughter, then why should the US Army be upset when their Lt. Col. Landers chose to ABANDON his post & troops in Afghanistan! It is understandable to have a strained relationship with one child that is a young adult. But Col Kevin Landers not only denies one child - he denies the existence of 4 of his 6 children!  Can the military and the public in general not see that this man, husband and father has a lot of internal issues.

Within a year’s time, Lt. Col. Kevin Landers and his wife Melody went from claiming 6 children to acknowledging ONLY two sons-Kyle and J. What happened to Kevin’s oldest son-K.? Where are M and A? What happened to Melody’s daughter Kayla? I can answer those questions and so can Kayla, K, Jr., M and A. But the one child that has much to say but has not been permitted to speak out or allowed to maintain contact with his siblings is the one child that sat back in a dark corner crying and watching his siblings being verbally abused and kicked out methodically one by one. That child is the ONLY child that did not have a choice because of his age. The child that had to say goodbye not once, not twice, but several times to the siblings that refused to allow the hate to continue by their father; a child that was not allowed to speak, exist, or breathe without permission from his dad. Let alone, talk about his mom or brother or sisters. A child that is now 8 years older than in 2005; once an 8 year old that has matured into an almost 17 year old young adult. Yet he, J, is still terrified to pick up the phone or computer and try to contact any of us without his controlling father’s permission. This Lt. Col. father that lost control over me; lost control of his oldest son; lost control of his two daughters. Kevin lost this control because all 4 of us stood up to him and refused to be abused any longer. Our son J (he will turn 17 in September this year) has not been permitted physical contact with his immediate family for 8 years because Kevin Sr. decided that it would be best “for Justin” to: Forget about his mother; Denounce the older brother that he adored (6yrs difference in age); Have nothing to do with his 2 older sisters. Although daddy beat me out of the relationship and kicked his other 3 children out of his life, Lt. Col. Landers insisted that J MUST forget about all 4 of us because,  “They left us and don’t care about us. They don’t love you the way we do and all of our lives are much better without your mother and sisters because they tell lies about me.” Lt. Col. Landers professes to all that will listen, “Your mother is trying to ruin my career!” Kevin has a history with me and our children of treating us like garbage, and then in classic manipulator form, crying on the beaten down person’s shoulder as he (Kevin) tries to justify to himself & convince others that HE is the true victim. This act does have success with one that is scared, hurt & lonely. I observed his game often & can spot it in its infancy. Observation & studies indicate that the abuser is weak, mean and insecure. They only prey on ones that are vulnerable which includes young children-my children.

It is important to set up a clear, honest picture of how a man that portrays himself as a “honest”, “accountable”, “fair”, “caring”, “respected”, “responsible” man/soldier can be a mass manipulator that only cares about one thing in life-himself.

So having said that let me continue with my writings about how one man can abuse a system if that system allows him to do so.

Anymore, our leadership seems to have become more about seniority and not performance. Of course with every situation, there are always exceptions. For instance, I personally know of two officers that stand above many of those with equal rank. Both of my younger sisters(Debbie Milhorn and Sue Benson) husbands are exceptional military officers. These officers are very recognizable and are respected on their own merits. My brother-in-laws stand stable and respected for their performance as sons, brothers, husbands, fathers and soldiers. These two men (both officers in the US Army) take care of their families with pride, protection and love. They transfer these same attributes to the troops that serve with them. These outstanding soldiers that have to share a rank with Col Landers who doesn't deserve to be in the same “arena” as my sisters husbands. It's quite frustrating and disappointing to them, their families and soldiers because all are well aware of Kevin's unmeritable life with me, our 4 children and the soldiers that don't respect him yet under the ranking system-must keep their mouth shut-or else. It is evident that Kevin leads his troops the way he leads his children and wives...shut up-OR ELSE!!

“In the military there is no distinction between conduct in personal life and that of the military life. The two are one.”  
Military Code of Ethics | eHow http://www.ehow.com/about_6825168_military-code-ethics.html#ixzz2WZFGhaD4

It is unfortunate, that our country has embrace the mentality of, “the pursuit of power at any cost including the abuse and neglect of our colleagues, peers, communities and worst yet, of our own children…success at any sacrifice!” What is happening to integrity, pride and accountability? Where is the feeling of accomplishment that comes from making an “honest living”. How can one find fulfillment knowing that their successes and promotions are bogus & not warranted?

In every high ranked position or company, there are certain ethics that are expected.  As a society, we are starting to lose the expectation that people are to earn excellence through hard work, honesty and respect. Respect from their families; respect from their peers; respect from co-workers; respect from one’s competition. In this case, respect from the soldiers you command as well as your peers & upper command.  No matter what position one holds, the ethics are universal, simple and obvious.  Yet my frustration is that we are losing our pursuit of accountability for leaders that abuse their rank and power.

“In my 39 years in the military, I have learned that you are not a profession just because you say you are,” he said. “You have to earn it and re-earn it and re-evaluate it from time to time.”~ General Demsey

As an Army officer’s wife, I am very familiar with The Code of Conduct and Ethics. As you all know, I left my ex-husband on Monday January 17, 2005 after years of abuse. We had lived a secret life behind the walls of our homes and our children witnessed years of verbal hate and physical beatings/abuse of their mother at the hands of Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers. I had been raised to “stand by my man” period. I agree that I should & would perform my responsibility to support, protect and stand by my man-my solider. I did my best for 18 years to protect Lt. Col.  Kevin Landers in an effort that would allow him to appear to be one of integrity, accountability, respect, caring, fairness and promise keeping.  Yet Lt. Col. Landers chose not to control his anger. Anger directed towards me and our children.  I knew that I had to make some changes or all of us were headed for disaster. I feared that I may not wake up one day after a classic episode of rage because Kevin hates himself. After a “typical” beating, with blood coming from my nose, and hand prints embedded on my neck, I asked Kevin (who at this time was in a panic crying state – he panicked when I lost consciousness from his strangling me) as he cried and held me stroking my forehead with a wet cloth, I asked, “Why do you beat me?” Without missing a tear, he said, “I see orange”??? Back then, I didn’t know that no matter what I did to try to please Kevin, he would never be happy with me, no happiness with his kids nor has he found fulfillment with himself.

The only time that Kevin appeared to be happy is when things were going his way. I knew Kevin had anger issues but I truly thought I could help him control his anger if I would just do what he asked... “Stand by your man” at any cost was expected and I did the best I could. Unfortunately, this perverted relationship has caused my children to conclude, “Dad will stop if you (mom) will stop…(whatever demand his current mood presents)”.

I questioned what role Kevin thought I should perform. “What can I do as Kevin’s wife to make him happy?” When I asked him this question, he immediately took this as an opportunity to share with me his “late night work” of surfing porn & video chatting with other men & women. I was devastated and felt humiliation. It was at this time that I was introduced to my husband’s porn addiction.  Now I knew what role he wanted me to play as his wife. I longed to make him happy & decided to support and please him at any cost. Please read this blog entry. It will explain Col Kevin Landers infidelities and eventually his pursuit of the "Swingers" lifestyle that he secretly wanted to do with me.  
Col Landers Infidelities, Fear of an STD, and Swingers 

Col Kevin Landers has stated that he NEVER surfed porn and states that all the things I write about his sex addiction is a lie. However, I have the hard drive to the computer he used to surf porn. Screen shots of him exposing himself to women & men. Photo’s of others doing the same, along with names, locations, etc. I can produce all if ordered to do so.

In 2005, Kevin tried to break into our home in Fayetteville, NC after I was granted a restraining order against Kevin. He was going after a few things but primarily the hard drive.  I have hours and hours of Kevin’s infidelities and addictions

“Anyone who approaches an abuse situation with the notion that somehow through kindness and love, through behavior changes by victims, etc., the "good part" of the abuser can be reached and appealed to, needs to step down off of their high horse and just stop it! Stop giving advice to victims of abuse. Stop counseling abusers or even listening to them. This kind of thinking is foolishness at best and rank arrogance at worst. And it is dangerous.”~ Jeff Crippen

As John’s father once said to me when I could not grasp WHY my ex was and is still so hateful, “Sometimes there are just mean people in this world and we will never make sense of it. Mean is just mean. It can’t always be explained.”

Col Kevin Landers does not care if I or we think he is mean, UNLESS it affects his career or ambitions. If he starts to be exposed, as I have done with this blog, he goes to great lengths to 
(1) Try to bully me to stop talking by taking me to court with his 5 inch binder of lies, or 
(2) play the victim to his peers, family, township or worst of all his kids.Col Kevin Landers has and continues to display typical behaviors of an abuser. 
One of Kevin’s main characteristics of a classic abuser is that he blames everyone else for his anger, abuses, neglects…pretty much does not take accountability for anything. And when confronted with “no way out”, it’s because of the “orange”. He has tried to convince society that I was unstable and he had to protect himself.  
Note that Kevin has never denied beating me and he justifies it in a court order. According to Kevin’s falsified court order filed February 17^th 2012, he states that I would throw things at him, antagonize him and he “may have restrained me physically” in an effort to protect himself. A typical excuse by an abuser, “He” had to beat me in an effort to protect me from harming myself or him so punching me in the face, slamming my head against the wall or throwing me across the room was acceptable? Keep in mind that my children knew of his abuses. Kevin also states in this court order that because no police reports were filed it clearly proves his innocence. What terrifies this abuser the most is that our children witnessed beating after beating…too many for them to count.  After conversations, some counsel and support our children know that a man should NEVER strike a woman; a man should never strike his children in anger; heck a person should NEVER strike another…ESPECIALLY a person that is an easy target – a 180# officer punching, kicking, choking, raping his 125# wife. Good example Lt. Col. Landers. Sad.

"Abusers lack empathy which is why they can bloody your face and throw you a towel in disgust – “Clean yourself up, you are a mess!”  They will never admit fault for your pain, because you – according to them – “Brought it on yourself!” Abusers are very capable of fake empathy, especially when the abused threatens to leave them. The false tears only serve to melt the heart of the abused, and the cycle of torture will repeat itself. This is how the crazy making stage begins."

Col Landers knows this and he knows that the kids understand this. He cannot bully our kids into silence anymore because of their ages & lack of dependence on his “orders”. But abusers like Kevin will always find antics to protect the lies they continue to live by. Kevin’s biggest fear - now that our “young adult children” are free to speak – is their voices that confirm the “Family Picture” I have blogged. Voices that he silenced as minors…voices he continues to try to silence with unfulfilled promises of: financial assistance with college, cars, payment of future weddings, all paid joint vacations, down payments for a home…and then the worst of all – you can see/talk to your brother if you silence your mom & help me expose her “lies”. I call these “The Bribes of Silence”.

 “…you can have someone who is intensely competent, who is steeped in the skills of the profession, but doesn’t live a life of character.” General Dempsey

It has also been stated by Kevin’s second wife that Lt. Col. Landers is suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) caused by “the war.” Hence, he has severe anger issues according to Melody. I would dare say that Kevin may have or will try to convince his peers, family and children of the same-“War has changed me…I have anger and abuse issues because of my battlefield exposure.” I do agree that the horrible acts in war do have unimaginable effects on soldiers & I know that PTSD is legitimate and a huge concern for our men & women. BUT, please keep in mind that civilian Kevin Paul Landers of Hicksville, L.I. New York started beating me in 1987…well over 2 years of beatings were taking place before Kevin in 1989 joined University of Georgia ROTC.  As a matter of fact, according to the Dept. of Veterans Affairs (http://www.ptsd.va.gov/) Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and my personal experience in helping others with PTSD, this disorder can occur following a life-threatening event like military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious accidents, or violent personal assaults like rape.  In our 18 years of marriage, Kevin never experienced any of these. Being that 15 of my 18 years of marriage included the US Army, I supported officer Landers through every deployment. I was involved in family support groups and saw first hand what facing combat close up can do to a solider and family. Kevin never faced any combative situations or imminent dangers in the 18 years we were together. The only deployment in our 18 year marriage was when Kevin was part of Operation Restore Hope. We were stationed at Fort Benning, GA under Col. Robert (Larry) Davis’s command. However, no deaths, shootings, or the “theater of war” ever occurred in Kevin’s company. It would be very insulting for Lt. Col. Kevin Landers to dilute other soldier’s experiences of tragedy by comparing his decision to beat women & denounce his children as being a result of PTSD & combat. No matter how one tries to justify Lt. Col. Landers behavior, this/his behavior is NOT becoming of an officer. Not the measure of a man -period.

It is common and well documented knowledge that after I filed for divorce in 2005, Kevin eventually was given command of the 4^th ENG. (engineers) Fort Carson, CO and there were unfortunately casualties within his unit/command. I note these casualties because I want to acknowledge my awareness of my children’s father being in harm’s way since their parents’ divorce. However, Lt. Col. Kevin P. Landers needs to be very careful in blaming circumstances for his treatment towards his children. Lt. Col. Landers carried his lack of leadership within the household with him to the volatile environment in Afghanistan…perhaps it was a “orange” sighting that prompted Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. to abandon his troops In 2010 while being the commander of the 4^th Engineers, Fort Carson, CO.  

FACT according to this news article written by family members from the 4th ENG Batallion, it is a direct slam against the role as commander by Lt. Col. Landers. 
Please read comments from very distraught families and soldiers in below link-

LTC Kevin Landers abondones troops in Afghanistan 

You can quickly assess that the families of the soldiers Lt. Col. Landers was suppose to protect were very upset with his leadership and selfishness. According to the news, Lt. Col. Kevin Landers arrived 2 weeks prior to the planned return of himself & the 500 troops under his command…he left behind his troops (.) Lt. Col. Landers left behind the very soldiers that followed him into combat!

The comments on this article caused a lot of turmoil. In their “5 inch binder”, Kevin & Melody claim that I set up fake accounts and all 23 comments were from me. The US Army is a small enough community that I am quite certain Kevin’s peers can determine the truth of these articles. Once again, abusers will go to any lengths to manipulate and lie to hide their true colors.

Having said that, no apology or explanation was issued; nor were there any logical excuses for this commander to abandon his troops. How can the military continue to allow this US Army officer to wear the uniform and excel in a military that prides themselves on “taking care of their own”; “An Army of one” – unless you’re Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers? Sickening.

“Some wonder whether its top officers have forgotten the lessons of Bathsheba: The crown of command should not be worn with arrogance, and while rank has its privileges, remember that infallibility and entitlement are not among them.”

Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. is paid to be a leader. He is paid to be respected. He is paid to play a role as a soldier leading soldiers. Kevin does well performing tasks he is being paid to do. At one time I claimed Kevin to be a good soldier even though he lacked in the unpaid role of husband & father.  Yet with his 2010 “troop abandonment”, he has proven to be an unworthy officer/soldier as well.

One may ask, “Catherine, who are you to judge what Kevin’s qualifications are?” I have answered that question in this entry. 

So, here I end with this paragraph. Our military leadership is to be based on the below attributes and are required of the US military & its members:

Honesty, Integrity, Accountability, Fairness, Caring, Respect, Promise Keeping, Responsible Citizenship, Pursuit of Excellence

Col Landers has not proven that he is capable of any of these. His pattern of abuse, lies and continued slander against me and his kids is obvious.

I know Kevin very well. Better that anyone. I was married to him for 18 years. I can predict his moods, his moves and his motives. He currently is working towards a new position and he will go to any lengths to ensure that his lies are not exposed. His tactics will once again include an attempt to use our children in an effort to “protect him” by convincing them that he was the victim all along. I dare say that as I write this, in Kevin’s mind, he is already planning on blaming Melody for all the horrible things that happened to our children after I was out of the picture. I can hear him now, “I had no idea what was going on because I was always deployed”; “Melody has a lot of psychological issues and I didn’t know that when we married”; “I just love you so much and I am sorry Melody was so mean to you”; “Your mom really hurt me when she left me for ‘Uncle John”.  Blah Blah Blah-

Melody has never had legal say in any of our 4 children’s lives. My daughter’s could have not been sent away from facility to facility without their father’s approval. There is not one power that Melody has or has ever had to determine the suffering my children endured during these past 8 years. Their misery was at the hands of one person- their father. Hurt per the choices of a father that only contacts them when he needs something. My children do not understand how far their father will go to try to use them to help him gain a goal…he will turn on the crying while on his hands and knees professing his victimization. Oh how I have seen him do that time after time after time. He does not stay on his knees long. He is like a wolf crouching for the next hunt. All that come in his presence need to keep their eyes wide open. Do your own background check on his history (personal & military). Beware. You have been informed. 

A recent side note as of 2014:
Col Kevin Landers and his second wife Melody are trying to convince society that our children were aloud to have contact all along but they chose not to. I can produce emails where our children begged their father to permit them to speak to each other and me. Col Landers is a mass manipulator and if all else fails, he threatens to take our now adult children to court if they speak openly. He is the meanest, most unstable man I have ever met.

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