Kelly Baker Barnes and Col. Kevin P. Landers disown their behavior

I have stayed quiet for some time on my blog. I told myself that as long as my ex and his wife stopped the harassment, then my effort to defend myself and my children would no longer be necessary. However, per recent harassment,  I thought it would be a good idea to use my voice once again.

That moment is now.

My children are now free from their father’s home and this is a good thing. Although they long for their father's love, their father is incapable of giving love without conditions. Conditions that benefit him...not them. One firm condition he insists upon is, he will have nothing to do with them unless they hate me.

John's 4 younger children will be walking away from their mother Kelly's home to go to college, but better yet, a road to their freedom to live outside of their mother’s daily monitoring; monitoring to ensure that Luke, Samantha, Evan and Ethan do NOT communicate with their dad, John. They can think and breathe openly with their own beliefs and choices. What an exciting time for LSEE! We are so happy for them.

John's oldest son just got married on June 24th. John could not attend for reasons that all of you are aware of and although Nate and Katherine also invited me, I gracefully declined. I told Nate that as much as I would love to be there, I thought it best to not attend because it would have caused quite a bit of a distraction from him and his new wife. Nate agreed. However, a dear friend, MaryLou Couch streamed the entire wedding for us so we could see the ceremony unfold in real time. MaryLou is like a mother to Nate and we are grateful that she and her family have also embraced us.

What a lovely gesture from a very sweet woman.

My children were also invited to the wedding but for various reasons could not attend.  When they found out their father Col. Kevin P. Landers and his wife Melody were not invited, that made their inability to attend even more disappointing. As you remember, Kevin Sr. tried to ruin our oldest son's wedding.

(Col Kevin P Landers gets reprimanded by law enforcement) Nate made it very clear that he doesn't respect nor like Kevin and Melody and DID NOT want them at his and Katherine’s wedding. His mom Kelly was insistent that her oldest brother and Melody be invited. However, Nate held his ground to ensure that Kevin Landers Sr. and Melody did not come any where near him or his new wife. Nate is a very kind, forgiving, devoted soul and rarely dislikes anyone and to be honest...if someone doesn't like Nate then you assume that there is something wrong with them, not Nate. However, over the years, things have been said about Nate and things have been done by Col. Landers and Melody that have made Nate put up boundaries with them. Many times, Melody has posted lies about Nate's father John on Nate's social media sites to try to degrade and humiliate John. Nate is very close to his father. Nate and John have one the closest father/son relationships I have ever seen and they are very devoted to each other. So Melody's continued antics to attempt to lie and harass have cost her and her husband to not be invited to not one but now two weddings in the family. If their hatred continues, I dare say family gatherings will not include Colonel & Mrs. Kevin Paul Landers of Wilmington, NC.

Now I'm sure it was said that Col. Landers could not attend because of his job, but that is a lie. The Colonel just retired from the US Army, so his job was of no issue. His behaviors and his wife's are why they were not allowed to attend the happy, special occasion.

Below is a screenshot of just one example of many I possess that shows how Melody tried to discredit Nate's dad publicly with lies. This was very upsetting to Nate that someone this evil was trying to hurt his father with lies. It was also said publicly by Melody and Kevin that Nate is a disrespectful, disobedient child that needs reprimanding. Even worse, when Nate was 15 years old and an excellent student and well behaved young man, his mother, Kelly, threatened to put Nate in a boarding school for unruly boys because he was talking to his Dad. I am sure that Nate’s siblings have heard similar threats from their mother over the years i.e.”your dad is on the run and if you talk to him, you will go to juvenile detention”; or, “my attorney and the counselor said it is against the law for you to communicate with ‘him”.  What kind of mother threatens their children with such atrocities because they want to communicate with their father? Kelly also told Luke, Samantha, Evan and Ethan that they would go to jail if they talked to their father. She started telling them this from the age of 6. Pretty disgusting when a parent forces a child to live in fear because she was afraid that her lies would be exposed. One of the many reasons I write a blog is to stop the liars from continually lying and not taking responsibility for the damage they have caused 10 children(to include Melody's daughter Kayla), myself and John.

As far as the Landers family and their "damage control" to try to preserve & present their reputation as God loving, law abiding citizens...well, their ploy to try to bury years of lies is quickly coming to an end. Society sees them through their fake smiles, made up faces, fancy clothes and material possessions. Looking successful means nothing if your kids, family and others don't admire the person you are behind closed doors. By that I mean, words mean nothing unless you live them in your everyday lives. People can say, "I have changed" or "I want to get better" or

"I have rededicated my life to (my god)" but that means nothing unless you live it and show it to others everyday....especially your spouses and children.

It was brought to my attention by several persons that Kelly is going around telling people that she and her brother Colonel Kevin have re-dedicated their life to their god. First of all, why does Kelly need to defend her brother? He is a big boy that is capable of standing on his own merit and that is for him to share...not her. Secondly, if Kelly is truly repenting then she must admit all the lies she told to the courts, to herself and especially to her children that have lost many pivotal years with their father. Kelly used the courts and Judge Caldwell (he was a judge disbarred for sexual, disorderly conduct: see Judge Johnnie Caldwell perversions with women in his courts ) and claims that she is only following court orders. However, she refuses to cooperate with authorities that have requested that she cooperate with negotiating for John to return to GA to be with his children (these requests were made from 2006 thru 2016). Kelly is adamant that John have his parental rights terminated; charged & convicted with 5 counts of child abandonment and serve maximum time in prison; her reply to attempts to settle CSR arrearage, “All or none; plus time in prison”. Yeah, she’s charming.  No one is making her continue to demand an ungodly amount to money from John. Kelly knows John can't pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to her. Kelly can drop all falsified charges but she won't because if John can travel back to the states and try to engage with his 4 younger children, then Kelly will have to face her demons and lies, something Kelly does not want to happen because - bottom line -  John's children will realize what an awesome father John was and still is. Turning your life over to your god does not mean just parts of you. You must hand over ALL of you. Take a moral inventory of yourself, admit to others your lies and sins, repent and ask for forgiveness and that is what rededicating your life to the one and only God entails. But, I know that Col. Landers nor Kelly Baker Barnes are actively doing anything to help mend the people (fathers, mothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, daughters, sons) they methodically and actively broke. It has to take someone to bring accountability and exposure to their abuses. Otherwise, these abusers will live their lives with no accountability for destroying others because they care more about denying their lies than caring about the people that try to love them.

"The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians, who acknowledge Jesus with their lips and walk out the door and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world finds unbelievable."~Brennan Manning

I am a Christian and I love my God. But, my 4 children are not sure there is a God. Why would they? They have witnessed their father beat me. cheat on me, lie to me, and lie to them. Their father made them lie in a courtroom(or else), lie to neighbors and family, and demanded our children consider me dead...that Melody was now their mother. A step-mother who continually degraded my name, threw away all existence of me once she moved in with Kevin(while he and I were still married) and then abused my kids. Their paternal grandfather(Poppy) who was an elder in 3 different churches but was told he had to resign because of his anger outbursts. Poppy-who was verbally abusive to his wife, and once my children publicly loved me-their Poppy disowned them. A paternal grandmother(Magaw) who acts as if my children don't exist because they love and embrace me and John. An Aunt Kelly who yells all the time, only cares about her looks and material possessions, and cheats on her husband. These listed people go to church every Sunday and point fingers at everyone else. Why would my kids want to embrace our Father when their own father has lied, bullied, and cheated his way through our marriage and his life. Being an officer in the Army is not impressive if your immediate family has fallen apart and fears your anger outburst and abuses.

The Landers, to include Kelly's mother Becky(Magaw) will never admit that they were active in trying to hide their family secrets and knowingly lie, neglect and harm the children involved....especially my children. Becky has chosen to ignore 4 of her grandchildren for over 10 years now. Becky was invited to her grandsons(my son) wedding in November, 2015 and did not attend because she hates me more then she loves her Grandchildren. What kind of loving grandmother does that? My children have lost 3 grandparents over these last few years and Becky is the only living grandparent they have left. A loving grandmother would not alienate children of divorce...NO MATTER WHO SIDE SHE CHOOSES! A loving grandmother would love ALL of her grandchildren unconditionally-something the Landers family to include her late husband Jim(Poppy) are incapable of doing. They are vengeful and mean.

So as it stands today, there are new chapters in our children's lives that are forming and for this we are thankful. John and I love our children and pray everyday that they succeed in whatever they choose and that they live happy, healthy, productive lives. That they find love and give love unconditionally in spite of their upbringings by unstable parents. As you all know, I have re-united with my 4 children even though their father and Melody did everything in their power to convince them to hate me - it did NOT work.

I pray that the 4 younger Baker kids seek their father John out when they feel ready and do so no matter what their mother Kelly threatens or bribes them with. I know that they will find that their dad has loved them since the day they were born and never stopped trying to reach them through phone calls, videos, letters and gifts.

I will close with this thought. Parents that alienate their kids can do it so easily when the children are younger and not as free to think on their own. It's easy to intimidate a child when you are bigger than them. But, one day, those little children grow up and start making choices of their own. They start seeking answers for questions that have been unanswered or worse - lies told. Kelly may think she has gotten away with all her vengeance and lies because years have passed and her god has forgiven her. Maybe God has for I am not one to judge what God decides. But, when the Baker children find out what she has done to try to destroy a relationship with their father, there will be hell to pay and they may have a hard time forgiving her. If she doesn't believe me, she can ask her brother.

“You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”~Matthew 1:36-37

Rest..Regroup..Return and Let It Begin With Me

This picture above was posted by Melody while Nate was a coach at Georgia Southern. She had the audacity to post this publicly because she was upset with a video John had posted to warn his 4 younger children how evil she is. Here is that video-

John warns his kids LSEE

Please keep in mind that John is not a felon nor am I. Another one of many lies produced by the Landers family. It is well known that I have traveled to the states and abroad several times without any legal issues. As far as Melody stating that Col. Kevin Landers cannot lash out because he is a "High Ranked Army Officer" That is also a lie. Kevin and Melody have pursued me in courts many times to try to silence me with their fabricated lies but each time we went to court, the judge dismissed their hearings. Col Landers recieved reprimand by his upper command to control himself and Melody and their hateful, exhausting antics. He also received reprimand from the courts and law enforcement to stop wasting their time and to leave John, myself and John's family alone. Melody, on the other hand doesn't follow authority and I dare say that over Kevin's career has embarrassed him to his soldiers and upper command with her evilness.

In reference to John and the lies being told about him-John is in touch with Child Support and has offered a settlement to Kelly many times. Kelly refuses as stated in this blog.
Melody also mentioned in this Facebook post below that she and Kevin are not alienating because they have no children in their home. At the time Melody posted this-that statement is the truth. But, my youngest son Justin was forbade contact with me or his three older siblings for over 10 years. Kevin Sr. held Justin as collateral to punish myself and my 3 older children for not wanting to be around his abuses. But as soon as Justin turned 18, he left his fathers home. In typical abuser form, Kevin Sr. has now disowned Justin as well. Justin was the one that suffered the most because he was forced to live with his father and Melody's abuses the longest. Kevin Sr., Melody and Kelly are active alienators. Parental alienation is mean, it's wrong and it's child abuse.

My intention with the blog was not to try to destroy lives or ruin careers. Kevin Sr. and Kelly are doing just fine. Kevin Sr. just retired as a Colonel is the military and Kelly is making plenty of money with Chick-fil-a as a corporate secretary. One of my intentions in writing this blog is to ensure that these liars not rest until they admit what they did wrong and fix the children they have broken all these years.

This picture above was taken at Col. Kevin P Landers Sr. retirement ceremony on Friday July, 7th, 2017. It is public record that Kevin and Melody will retire in Wilmington, NC.

Survivors of Parental Alienation by Col Kevin P. Landers

In the 10 plus years that I have lived in San Miguel de Allende MX, I have frequented the consulate's office several times. Of course I must go there to update my paperwork, but for the most part I have been in that office because of the lies that Col. Kevin P. Landers and his wife Melody concoct.
I have been to the Municipals (Mexican Court) to debate & defend myself against the false allegations made by Kevin Sr. and Melody...I'm still standing. Because I have been to these buildings often, I have made acquaintances and friends. This past Saturday, one of these people told me that my ex-Col Kevin P. Landers is once again trying to file something against me. She said that the service that my ex-husband has hired to find me is becoming very frustrated because the consulates office will not help him locate me. 

I am not sure what this is all about, but Kevin Sr. has been stalking me for the past ten years now and it doesn't look like he will stop this hatred. Once again, this prompts me to write a blog entry as a reminder to my readers that:
>Abusers will always Abuse
>Haters will always Hate...and
>Survivors will ALWAYS Survive!
As I have said before, I started writing this blog for a few reasons. One was to defend myself from all the lies and accusations made against me by Kevin Sr. and his wife Melody. The second reason was recommended to me by a mentor that told me that I needed to tell my story. It felt safe to me to write as I have always been a writer. I didn't want to speak out loud just then, so a blog seemed to be a good avenue for me. And thirdly, so that my children, family and friends could learn more about the lies that Kevin Sr. and I tried to hide for 18 years. My children saw their father beat their mom. They saw the bruises, the blood and heard the cries but there are some things that I protected them from like their father’s infidelities, his excessive porn addiction and his desire for him and I to live a "Swingers Lifestyle." As I have built my confidence up in telling my story, I do now publicly speak about the silent crime of Domestic Violence. My journey has been a long one...but more so...a healing, powerful crusade that has led me to a better understanding of how I ended up being an abused woman, why Kevin Sr. chose to abuse and why he still denies that he has ANY responsibility in our divorce and the instabilities that our children have endured over the years.
It is necessary for me to go into a little bit of the past once again to try to paint a picture of the insanity in my marriage to Kevin. I should have left him years ago and I see that as a stronger woman today. But coming from a very traditional home where women raise the children and "stand by their men" no matter what abuses take place, I was not as strong as I thought I was. I was terrified that my children and I would end up on the streets (as Kevin Sr. had promised) and I truly felt that I had no way out.
Kevin Sr. and I had a very toxic relationship. A relationship that needed help many years ago. I was willing to go to counseling but he was not. I was willing to share all of our secrets but Kevin had too much to hide and he still, to this day, blames everyone else for his problems. Things have run rapidly through my head like, I should have called the police the first time he smacked me across the face. I was 6 months pregnant with our first son, but I didn't report him. I thought it would be the first and last time. I do honestly believe that if I did call the police, he may have decided to get help, but to this day I will never know.

When Kevin Sr. and I were living in England in 1998, he was very stressed. He was failing his Topography masters and came home very angry and unorthodox. The children and I were afraid of him most of the time and I did my best to try to intercept his temper tantrums by trying to calm him down or just making sure the kids were not present when he went into rages.
One incident in particular stands out to me because there was a moment that people were willing to help me. Several times they witnessed Kevin Sr.'s outbursts and they were concerned.

Kevin Sr. was pissed off at life so therefore, he was pissed off at me. He always found a way to make his stresses "my fault." We had been invited to a neighborhood BBQ. The Brits are very much about family and friends and on the weekends, there was always something going on. Kevin Sr. told me and I quote, "I have to go to this family BBQ, but I am not going with your disgusting ass so don't go."
Those words stung me but I held strong and said, "But the kids are excited about this."

Kevin Sr. told me that he would take the kids but I could stay home. Please keep in mind that the home we were invited to was our next door neighbor. I buckled because I knew he was going to cause a scene. I had been crying so I didn't look that great anyways and I didn't want to tell another lie as to why I had been crying. I got the kids ready and told them that Mommy couldn't go because she had a tummy ache. So, Kevin took them and I stayed home and cried.

About an hour later, a Canadian friend (I will call her Dana for her protection), walked through my front door and demanded that I wash my face and get dressed because I was going to this party. Of course, I told her no, but she didn't take no for an answer. Let me stress, that Dana and her husband saw Kevin yelling at me at public functions and knew he was mean to me and the kids.
I did go with her but I was afraid at how Kevin would react. My children were playing outside with all of the other children so I felt comforted by that. Dana took my hand and we walked into the house. Kevin was sitting on the couch along with other officers from the Royal school of Military Survey in Curridge, England 

Col Kevin Landers Masters in England 
When I walked into the room holding Dana's hand, Kevin saw me. And his exact words were, "Well well-the neighborhood whore is here."
Dana gripped my hand and told me not to move. I literally froze and kept starring at Kevin Sr. The entire room looked in his direction in shock that he talked to me that way. He got very nervous and said,
"I have studying to do and as he walked passed me, he bumped me with his shoulder. I was afraid.

After Kevin left, I still just stood there frozen. But, to my surprise, everyone rallied around me and started handing me food and cracking jokes and I started to feel more at ease.

My children had a great time and when they asked, "Mom where is Dad?"
I told them that he had to study and they almost seemed so extremely relived that he was not there.

We had a great evening without him.
I started to forget my fear of Kevin because I thought he had enough time to cool off. It wasn't until I gathered up my kids to go home that I was reminded of how abusive he was. He had locked all the doors. Here I am carrying little Justin and Amanda in my arms with KJ and Meg in tow and we couldn't get in our home. It was 11pm.
Kevin wouldn't answer and my kids started crying. The BBQ was still going on so our neighbors could hear me asking Kevin to open the door...SILENCE from inside our home. Kevin was playing a cruel game at the expense of his young children that were tired & had to pee and now becoming terrified.
I tried to hold back the tears but I was so humiliated. Kevin Sr. wanted to show me and our 4 young children that he was in charge and if it wasn't for him, we wouldn't have a home to go to.
Dana and the rest of the neighbors heard me knocking and the begging for Kevin to open the door. I was trying to be quiet, but I truly think that they knew Kevin was not going to be nice after his display earlier that evening. So, Dana walked over and brought me to her and her husband’s home. They had a son that I babysat quite often so he was thrilled thinking we were having a sleepover.
The children and I stayed overnight at their home and the next day Kevin Sr. came to get me and the kids. He tried to barge through the door, but Dana's husband told him to leave. Kevin snapped his head and sneered at me and said through his gritted teeth, "We are going to talk about this when you get home."
I knew that frightening look in his eyes. That dark face, with his lips pulled in tightly as a little spit came out of his mouth. I had not seen him this angry before and I started to shake inside. If I went home, he was going to hurt me or worse kill me because I believe he was very concerned that I told everyone his secrets. Quite honestly, after Kevin Sr. stormed out of the BBQ, his name never came up.
I started crying and of course the children were concerned. I tried to hold the tears in, but I couldn't. My friend Dana brought the kids outside and her husband told me that if I wanted, a few of the officers were willing to put money towards a plane ticket for me and my children. I looked at him shocked and said, "Why?"
He said, "Because we know how Kevin treats you and we want to offer you a way out to try to get your life together and leave him if that's what it takes."
I was stunned. I thought I did a pretty good job at hiding the abuses, but as I ran scenarios in my mind, there were other incidences where Kevin displayed his abusive behavior and I would cover for him, apologize and tell the neighbors, "He's just really stressed with this Masters program."
Obviously, they didn't believe me as these other officers were in the same exact program & it did not appear that their spouses were suffering the abuses that Col. Landers was inflicting on his family.

I didn't know what to do. I wanted to leave him then and I had free tickets. But a million things were running through my head. He told me many times that if I ever left him, he would take my kids and make my life would be a living hell and I believed him. Kevin Sr. was not threatening me. He was giving me a firm, harsh warning and his warning was inflicted on me years later when I filed for divorce.
I told my friend that I had to think about it but somehow Kevin Sr. found out about it and he begged, pleaded, got on his knees, cried and promised me that he would get help when we got back to the states. God, I wanted to believe him but I had been through this before with him. He promised to be a better father...that he would be more attentive to me and the kids...that he would stop the porn and Swingers addiction...That he would stop bringing his anger out on me....all the things I wanted to hear. So, I did something I regret today. I believed him for the 100th time and chose not to take the free tickets. Every promise he made to me on that day was all a lie. He manipulated me once again and I endured his hatred for another 6 ½ more years. Seven years later, what jolted me to leave Kevin is when he went after my older son (6-7 days before he deployed to Iraq) then I knew I had to do something. His anger was turning onto our children. I knew that if Kevin Sr. was able to break down our son’s door, he was going to hurt him and I wasn't going to let that happen. I would use whatever strength I had inside me to protect my children from their father’s wrath if that meant doing something extreme to stop him I was willing to follow through. That thought frightened me. It was time to end this cycle of abuse and it was going to have to start with me taking extreme, necessary actions to ensure my safety and the children's. Hence is why I waited for him to deploy so that he could not try to stop me from divorcing him. I felt I would be safe if he was a million miles away, but I was wrong. Col. Kevin P. Landers knew I was going to leave him, so he either was suicidal or faked that he was, so that he could get on suicide watch to gain an early release home from the war. He had only been deployed 3 months on a 1 year deployment. He came in under my radar and it was then that he started campaigning against me. He was on a mission to destroy me no matter what hell he put me and our children through.

On April 11th, 2005 I filed for divorce. That was our wedding anniversary and we had been married 18 years.

I did not pick that date but I thought it ironic that day was chosen as my court date to go through the divorce proceedings.
I held pretty strong in our divorce battle but the day finally came...He achieved a promise he made to me many times, "If you EVER leave me, I will take your children away from you."
And he did just that. He concocted a lie that I had kidnapped our children and he feared for their safety because I was abusive to them. That lie didn't hold up with the judge and the judge was extremely disgusted with Kevin Sr.’s plot. What did hold up was the fact that I took the kids across the state line (something I did not know was wrong) and the judge had to follow through with the law. As a matter of fact, the judge reprimanded my attorney Mrs. Heather Nichols for not giving me good legal counsel. Heather had encouraged me to take the children to GA for a visit. I fired H. Nichols on the spot and slowly walked out of the courtroom. I didn't look in Kevin or Melody's direction because I didn't want to see the satisfaction on their faces.
The breath was knocked out of me and I was still in shock as to what happened. When I left the courtroom I was thankful for the wall behind me that was holding me up.
What happened next was one of the most evil moments Kevin Sr. displayed. He went out of his way to seek me out in the hallway and started chuckling...an evil chuckle of victory. My lawyer actually had to ask him to leave me alone so he just walked away still chuckling with a strut in his stride. He wanted to see me crying and in agony and he knew that taking my children from me would achieve more pain in me than broken ribs he gave me years ago after he kicked me repeatability on the ground. Kevin knew where to hurt me, so there were rarely visible bruises and the ones that did show-I lied about. Like the blows to my head that can be hidden by my hair, my broken rib could be hidden under clothes and with my lies of, "I think I pulled a stomach muscle at the gym."  I once again chose to protect Kevin Sr. over protecting myself and our children. But, there was no hiding or lying about the pain I felt that day when I saw Kevin's face and heard that evil chuckle. I knew he wasn't going to back down with trying to damage me any way he could because I finally did what I should have done the first time he struck me-I should have left him and then maybe I could have saved our kids years of pain and insanity. Well, Kevin did follow through with his hateful games of trying to destroy me and he did use our children to try to achieve that.

The mind games of Parental Alienation (read definition below) became Kevin Sr.’s focus of strategy and he recruited a team player, Melody Wilson Landers, to help him try to brainwash our 4 children against me.  I have lost much time with my children. Especially with our youngest son. I lost 10 years. 10 years that were taken from us by a mean, selfish, hateful man/father and his second wife Melody. Milestones were stolen from me that can never be replaced with hugs or words.

In those 10 years, his father made sure our son did not have access to me. Col. Kevin P. Landers and his second wife Melody did everything in their power to try to get Justin to hate me but it didn't work and here are some reasons why-
I spent a lot of my time with my 4 children when I was in their lives and I treasured those moments. I was active in their lives. I made sure that my children knew that I wanted to be a part of their days. I treasured being a stay-at-home mom and I took that role very seriously.
I volunteered at their classrooms. I made sure that I had lunch with each of them once a week.
I created a night called "special night" which meant that each child got to stay up an hour later, without their siblings, and got to choose what they wanted to do and eat.
My oldest son wanted to get on his PlayStation and I learned the fine art of "trying" to maneuver the paddles as he would giggle and say, "Mom, you know I am going to win this game."
Yeah....I knew he was going to kick my butt but that didn't matter. What mattered was the sound of his giggles. I can still hear his giggle and I miss it.

My older daughter was very much into to soccer so she wanted to go outside and kick the ball back and forth. I had some of the best conversations with her as she proceeded to show me her fancy moves with the soccer ball. Let’s just say that I never got fancy like her, but none-the-less, I got to know her just a little bit better on her "Special Nights" and she inspired me with her confidence and strength.

My younger daughter is a fashionista. So, on her special night, it was dress-up time from my closet and makeovers. I was shocked at how brilliant she was with make-up and style. She would tell me,
"Mom, you need to get some fancy high heels."
Being athletic, volunteering in numerous venues and a proud "soccer mom"- I had a couple of pair of heels for formals or events that I had to attend with my ex Kevin, but other than that-it was sneakers, running shoes, flats, and sandals. I asked my daughter, "Where would I wear fancy high heels?
She said, "Walmart."
I still giggle about this.

And then my youngest son...
On his "Special Night" he of course wanted to first eat. Justin loved cookies. I am not a cookie fan but the rules of special night consisted of doing what the kids wanted to do, so I indulged in more Oreos and chocolate chips than I care to admit! Justin showed me how to dunk the cookies in milk. An art I already knew how to do but he took so much pride in showing me. After the cookies, he wanted to read dinosaur books and stuff about outer space.
The reason why I think it is imperative to share this is because I did everything in my power to create happy memories with my children. I wanted to dilute the sadness, anger and fear that was present in our home. I wanted my kids to have happy memories to hold onto. Happy memories that would overcome the scary, sad ones. I tried. I truly tried to be a protective, happy, loving Mom that wanted to create a safe, healthy, happy home for our kids. I thought that I had failed but overtime, my 4 children have told me that they remember my time with them and they treasured it.

My youngest child recently told me, "Mom, I would close my eyes and remember all the happy times I had with you and I never hated you."
He told me that he would look at his baby photo album almost every night and smile. I asked him if he still had that album, but he said it disappeared one day when he was about 14 yrs old. Considering that Kevin Sr. threw away any memory of me to try to erase my existence, I am sure it ended up in the dumpster. What a cruel thing to do to a child that had lost his siblings, all his memorabilia that had anything to do with me, and now the one possession he treasured was thrown away as well.
In order to deflect off of arguing and persecution from his father and Melody, Justin said that he would pretend to hate me so that his father and Melody wouldn't get mad at him. He cried when he told me this because he was afraid I would be angry with him. Quite the opposite. I knew he was just a little boy when his father started to put hateful thoughts in his head to try to get him to hate me. 

Things Kevin Sr. said like,
-"Your mother doesn't love you. She left you"
-"She's just a whore who is sleeping with men to make money"
-"She NEVER cared about you. She ONLY cares about F-ing Uncle John."
-“As far as you’re concerned she’s dead! Don’t you ever mention that skanks name!”
What kind of father would say that to his children?
Things Melody would say were:
-"You don't want to live with your mother. She lives in a shed with bugs and only has beans and rice to eat."
-"It’s a third world country and the only people in Mexico are felons, drug addicts and prostitutes like your mother."
-"All your mom does all day is drink and smoke weed like your sisters do."

I still will never absorb or accept that two grown adults (that are parents) would inflict a little boy, who is already hurting because his parents divorced, to all these lies and abusive actions just to try to brainwash him into hating his mom. Better yet, let’s look at it from a different aspect. What if all these things Kevin Sr. and Melody said about me were true? WHY would two "loving?" parents burden an 8 year old boy with such horrible images about his Mom? Kevin Sr. and Melody have told their friends and families that all they wanted to do was protect Justin from me. Well, if what they said was true about me, how would they expect a child to deal with those adult issues...and not only deal with them...why would they paint a horrible image of me as opposed to allowing that little boy (our son) to keep the happy memories alive in his innocent mind. Then allow him to find out who I was without their hateful influence. Why? Because Kevin Sr. and Melody knew and know that I was NEVER any of those things they tried to concoct in our young children minds to get them to hate me. Kevin Sr. and Melody HAD to do "damage control" because they knew they were lying and were afraid others would find out. Well, that day of reckoning is here and that is why Kevin Sr. and Melody never mention the Landers children anymore. There have been times that the kids have tried to reach out to their father.
He says, "You ONLY call me when you need something. Stop using me. You chose to leave so don't call me again."
Pretty pitiful that somehow Kevin Sr. is the victim in all of this and he is the one who is feeling used after using our children for years in his hate propaganda? Our children were used as poster kids by their father and Melody for years and the billboard read,
"Look at this poor father raising his 4 little kids and his live-in-girlfriend loving and caring for them because their mother is a loser."
But, what happened behind the billboard was that two hateful adults, trying to get 4 already broken children to hate me. From stories that have been shared with me, the raising of my children by Kevin Sr. and Melody was nothing more than a hateful, manipulative and fake atmosphere and as of today, it is the children that suffer the most…pretty sad and very heart wrenching to think about.

Kevin Sr. chooses to embrace his children ONLY if they hate me. He used our children as weapons to try to hurt me (and key word here is USE) but when the children decide to embrace me, he ignores them. Keep in mind that Kevin tells our children to stop calling him. But he will use and embrace them again if they hate me.  Kevin Sr. – always playing the victim to try to gain sympathy - such typical abuser behavior.

As of today, there is no mention of 4 children Col. Kevin P. Landers fathered. You won't hear him praise his sons or daughters for doing the best they can after all they have been thorough. You won't hear him mention his children to his mother Becky Landers or other family members and friends of how happy he is to be their father and that he loves them.  There are no more public postings or loving acknowledgments of the "bonus kiddos" Melody claimed she loved so much. There is no more talk of her "beautiful bonus daughters" or her "handsome bonus son"  that she never treasured to begin with. She now posts hateful things about me and our children in order to hide the lies she created all these years. In one of Melody's most hateful, recent posting she claimed Justin killed his step-brother Kyle Ray. All that were around Justin in the times that Kyle was alive, could see how much Justin loved Kyle Ray.

In a prior blog (see link below), I shared several screenshots that Melody posted on her Pinterest that have since been deleted by Melody. One in particular is where Melody claims that Justin was the cause of Kyle's strokes and inevitable death. After Kyle died, Melody would scream at Justin and tell him, 
"You caused Kyle to have strokes and the heart attack that killed him."
"I don't have a son because of you."
"If your father dies, it will be because you killed him."
The only word I can describe for a woman to say this to a child is EVIL. 
Now, with Melody's habitual antics, she will try to claim that Justin is a liar, but as you can see in the below screenshot  Justin is telling the truth.
Melody's accusation of Justin killing his step-brother Kyle Ray and also the fact that she "will put Justin in jail with me" is in the third picture.

So as I stated prior, there is no proof of the existence of Col. Landers 4 children nor the existence of Melody's only daughter. There are only shrines of Kyle Ray. The reason for this is because too many questions would be asked and Kevin Sr. and Melody will have to come up with more lies to overlap the years of lying they have festering in their 'happy home."

As of today, Kevin Sr. and Melody are doing damage control with other peoples children by inviting them into their home. Fortunately these children/teenagers don't live with the Col. & Melody for long periods of time so they are safe. It is Kevin Sr. and Melody's way of saying,
"See, kids love us."
But this facade is not working with the majority of people. It is obvious what they are trying to do and it is quite sad and disturbing that they think this tactic is going to work when in fact 5 kids (their bio kids) chose to leave them and the home full of lies.
But despite Col. K.P. Landers and Melody's ploy to bully our children into hating me, all 4 children are present in my life and I receive a weekly call from Melody's daughter Kayla.The Col. and his wife are extremely frustrated by the children's choice to remain in contact with me.
As I have done with my older children, Justin and I have walked back into time to those moments of reminiscing. I feel it is healing for him to talk about those happy moments we did share as a family.

What Justin needs right now is to remember those special times. It's when Justin started to learn that his father was lying about me, that his father and Melody's fears surfaced. Fears that Justin would find out the truth and start telling others that his father and Melody are liars. It will only be a matter of time now that John's 4 younger children (who are 16) are going to ask their father John and their mother Kelly about what happened over all these years. When they find out Kelly has been lying, there is going to be hell to pay for her…because how can a child respect a parent that lies?
They can't...and they won't!
I prayed a million times for God to bring my children back to me. He has done that. I no longer need to battle or plead for them. I need to make up for time lost with my kids. Time that was stolen from me by a man that cared more about "winning" the divorce game and hurting me, than compromising with me for the sake of our children's broken hearts.
I am not a perfect mother but my love for my children is perfectly real and no one is going to take that love away from me. They may have taken my kids for awhile, but they never took away my love for them and my children's love for me.
This is where most of my energy goes today. I am trying to focus on reuniting these children with each other and the family members they were forbidden to have contact with. There are no more battles over the young children that I helped raise because they are not young children anymore. They are young adults that need a parent that cheers them on in their pursuits to find out who they are.
What matters is that I want our children to have a loving, guiding, non-judgmental, supporting source that they feel secure going to. Something they did not receive in their father’s home. I want our children to know that they can trust me. That I value their opinions and respect their boundaries. I want our children to know that they can trust me as their encourager and I will try to be the best guidance that I can. I want them to know that they are going to make mistakes and they may fail at a task but it doesn't mean they are failures. That they are important assets to our society and that their lives matter. I want them to be a part of my life no matter what choices they make.

I want to be that parent.
I am that parent.
And whether they choose to embrace their father or not, I will not turn them away no matter whom they choose to love. I want to use my energy to re-build my relationship with my kids and their significant others. I cannot express how thankful I am to have that opportunity today and every day after...

"It’s not only children who grow. Parents do, too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself." 
~Joyce Maynard 

Melody's hatred and lies posted on her Pinterest link
Parental Alienation Defined

Melody Landers, Rest in Peace

 

 Ego says,“Once everything falls into place, I'll feel peace.”
Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.”~Marianne Williamson

Quite a few of my followers have inquired about how things are going in my life these days.
I will answer shortly by saying that things have been going quite well.

My health is stellar and I continue to create a life that is centered around positiveness, thankfulness and Godliness. My daily endeavors are to do the best I can and let go of all things negative. 

Our kids are trying to recreate happy, healthier lives for themselves. Although there have been challenges, I support and do my very best to nurture the choices the children are making in their lives and encourage them everyday to strive for what makes them happy. All these years, I prayed that our children would be free from hate, turmoil, and isolation and each day that goes by, they are getting stronger both mentally and physically. We are all going through a physical and mental healing process together and I am thankful for each day that I can now share with them without battles, hatred or obstacles.

Our children are now free to be whatever they choose to be and I cannot express enough how happy that makes me.

I have also had some recent inquires about things that are still being posted about me and now my children. I do not want to put in too much of my time on the persistent, hateful lies that are starting to be posted again by Melody Landers(my ex's wife), but because some of you have concerns, as appose to me writing to each of you individually-I can reach a broader audience by posting here on this blog.

It was brought to my attention that Melody has decided to post more hateful lies on her recent Pinterest account. She has done this in the past but then deleted her postings after I posted the screenshots on this recent blog entry.
Screenshots of Melodys slander on Pinterest

I have saved the screen shots that have been posted these last several days. I have learned to get screen shots because Melody typically deletes what she writes when she gets exposed for her slanderous postings. Melody will also delete this board called "Lying Cat" and create another one here soon. It's a pattern she has been doing for some time now. She doesn't realize or maybe even care that others see this consistent behavior is very odd, unstable, hateful and borderline evil. I have people ask me all the time why she continues on with all this and quite honestly I think Melody has some issues that need to be addressed with a professional.

I also had to report to the Pinterest Support Team that Melody created a fake Pinterest in my name, started taking screenshots of it and posting to others that I was posting all these hateful things about her and Kyle. Pinterest did investigate, deleted the account and gave Melody a clear warning to follow the rules. But once again Melody has created a new Pinterest account with my picture(one that Melody pulled off my Facebook) and my name. Obviously, Melody chooses to continue on her hateful rampages and I am tired of battling with her. After 10 years, I am choosing to not rebutal Melody any longer and allowing her to discredit herself with all the lies she concocts.  Although I enjoy Pinterest, I am taking a break off of it to detach from Melody's hatred. It is evident that she wants to continue on her path of destroying her credibility and embarrassing her husband(my ex) with her immature, foolish games. I no longer have time to waste on an obviously mean, immature, unstable woman. 

Here is my one and only Pinterest link if you would like to follow me. I have been on Pinterest for about a year now (by encouragement from my daughters) and I will continue in spite of Melody's hatred towards me. 
https://www.pinterest.com/CathieALanders/

Here is Melody's Pinterest board called the "Lying Cat" that was brought to my attention by my sister. As you obviously know the reference to the title "Lying Cat" is directed at me.
Melody's recent Pinterest attacks against me and our kids 
It's the same lies but each time Melody post, she exaggerates more and more. In other words, each time Melody goes into a mental frenzy(for reasons I don't understand), her lies against me and now our children are getting worse to the point of being border line psychotic.

She is now claiming that Justin caused Kyle to have 3 strokes which led to the heart attack that killed him. How can any living human being (especially a mother) accuse another child of killing his step-brother? The same "bonus son" that Melody publicly wrote about for years bragging on what a wonderful, good christian son Justin was to her and what an awesome, protective brother Justin was to Kyle. So which one is it Melody? Justin the sweet, god-fearing boy you claimed you loved all these years-that YOU raised, or the unstable, hateful, disrespectful "bonus son" -Bogey- who is now the last child you are glad is out of your life after you accuse him of aiding in Kyles death? We are all starting to wonder what Melody's truths are and what her lies are. 
Melody obviously lies about everything and everyone- to include herself, our children, her daughter, her happiness and her husband Kevin Sr.
It is swiftly starting to become apparent that Melody years of lies are unfolding rapidly and she is to not be trusted. We have never trusted her before but others that were confused about the lies Melody tells see a side of Melody that we saw many years ago. She tries to hide behind her work, church and shrines of Kyle but for the most part, many are starting to see her instabilities with her words and actions. The transparency that Melody is displaying is obvious-She is mean. She is a bully. She is a liar and she is choosing not to stop. 

Are the below pictures about Justin's love for Kyle a lie or a truth? Please read the description on these photos that are posted publicly on Melody's Facebook Page-Kyle Ray Legacy of Love. You can see in the pictures how much Justin adored Kyle.

There are many more pictures like this that show how much Justin and our other children adored their step-brother Kyle Ray. I do know this for a fact-ALL 4 of my children adored Kyle and would never wish any harm on him. I find it disgusting that while Kyle is dancing in heaven with the angels, Melody continues to use Kyles legacy as a means for propaganda to gain sympathy from others and is now lying about this young man (Justin) that loved Kyle like his own brother.

So on to more lies by Melody-

After 10 years, Melody still claims that I am a felon and now I am going to prison here in Mexico. These are the same lies she has told for years yet I still travel freely from Mexico to the United States because I am a free woman. I have not broke any laws in Mexico. I don't have warrants for my arrest in the states or abroad and I am not nor have I EVER been a felon. 



And, just to make sure-I hired someone to find out if there was something I was unaware of. 
I  have nothing legal against me-Not even a speeding ticket.         

So, please let me stress to all of you that have concerns-and understandably so because Melody is a very consistent liar-

The "legal" documents Melody brags about and post are fabricated lies. 
Anyone can take a blank page and make it look like a legal document.

We are all still confused as to why Melody has so much venom after 10 years. It appears that even her husband(my ex) Col Kevin P Landers Sr. has let things go and wants to move on from the past. Melody claims that my blog has ruined her husbands career, ruined her life and reputation, ruined my children's lives and has affected her health. 

Let me clarify some things:
My ex husband just got promoted to Col and works with the Army Corp of Engineers in Wilmington, NC.  According to Justin, his father just bought Melody a huge, beautiful home right by the beach. Melody claims that she loves her life and the ones in it. As far as the "bonus-kiddos" she claims have caused nothing but stress, drama and turmoil in their lives these last 10 years-our 4 children (me and Kevin Sr.'s) have all chose to leave their fathers home because of all the hatred and anger present there. These same kids have all left Melody's life as of late and are moving on with their own lives.
It appears that the ONLY one who continues to want to live in the past and continues to throw stones, spew venom and spread lies is the one person who is making Melody's life a living hell. This is a "self-claimed"  supposedly extremely happy, very blessed, and Godly woman that has no reasons, according to her, to be unhappy. 
The woman that Melody needs to hold responsible for her unhappiness is:
Melody Morrison Wilson Landers.

My blog has no power over Col Kevin P. Landers life nor Melody's. Kevin Sr. is doing well and it was my understanding that Melody was happy to not have to "deal" with her bonus kiddos-my and Col Landers 4 children any longer. 

As far as our 4 children-my blog hasn't destroyed them. Our children are doing well in spite of me and their fathers issues. 
My blog is my story, my words, my feelings, and my freedom to write. I am not breaking any laws by writing a blog. There are BILLIONS of blogs out there with millions of peoples words and opinions as we are all entitled to use our voices.
Please let me remind you that I started this blog in Jan. 2011 to rebut allegations and lies that Kevin Sr. and Melody were verbally telling others and publicly posting on social media sites.

After 10 years, what does Melody want? Is she out to defame and punish anyone who does not agree with her or dislikes her? I have many out there that don't agree with my choices, my life and some even despise me. I'm not going around attacking them or defaming them, or trying to destroy their happiness because they don't like me. With wisdom and time, my goals today are to seek peace for myself, my loved ones and to help others.

Maybe some of Melody's family members or friends know why she has so much pent up anger, resentments and hatred for those who choose not to engage with her. Maybe they can help Melody through whatever is causing her to continual inner hatred and the constant spreading of lies about John, our children, me and others.

I know Melody's daughter Kayla has been a victim to her mom's wrath in the past and thus is why Kayla has also chose to ignore Melody now for years. But, I wonder how many other people out there have had to deal with Melody's rants because Melody is angry with herself? It appears to be a pattern that when people (to include children) enter into Melody's life, over time she blames them for all her miseries and then attacks them behind their backs. Does Melody thrive from the attention of trying to be a victim more than just being content with her life? I guess only Melody knows the answer to this question.

I truly do pray that Melody figures out why she still wants to run her life off of her hatred and once she figures out what triggers her moods-maybe she will eventually stop. 
I truly hope so....We all do.

There is so much more life to live out there and like it or not, we are connected because of our children. Kevin Sr. and I are the parents to KJ, Megan, Amanda and Justin  and we jointly will have life events that will directly include both of us like upcoming weddings, births, baptisms, and god forbid- deaths. He and I need to act gracefully for the sake of the kids and future grand-kids whether we like each other or not. I do hope that Melody also acts with grace for the sake of the children.

I would like to end this entry by reiterating that all is well in my life. I am very happy and my happiness has been excelled because of the recent connection with my youngest son Justin.
We are all thriving and surviving everyday. I am immensely thankful for all the wonderful people and events that occur in my life everyday. I do not take anything for granted and embrace each day as a new challenge towards a positive outcome.

May all of you be blessed, feel blessed and receive blessings everyday.

If there were in the world today any large number of people who desired their own happiness more than they desired the unhappiness of others, we could have a paradise in a few years.
~Bertrand Russell

Here are some of the screen shots that my sister sent to me earlier. As you can see, Melody's behavior is erratic. She laughs about hurting us even though what she post are lies. What type of kind, honorable, stable person posts things like-
"I can't wait to eat popcorn and watch you suffer?" or writes "lol" after every mean thing she says? 
I am sure as soon as Melody reads this blog entry and sees these screenshots, these will be deleted off of her Pinterest by her.

Melody Landers, Col Kevin P Landers Sr. Transcripts

Once again, I feel I must share information in an effort to defend my name and honor against my liars.

Starting this blog more than 3 years ago has been therapeutic to me but has also been a means for me to defend the lies that are continually still being told by my ex husband Col Kevin P Landers and his second wife Melody Wilson Landers.

After 10 years of choosing to file for divorce from Kevin because of his abuses, I am still being harassed by them.

I like any other person out there have a Twitter, a Facebook, YouTube and recently a Pinterest.

I enjoy the socialization , the sharing with my friends and family, and the detachment we all need utilizing these social sites. I share pictures of myself, my family, and children. 

I have shared pictures of my youngest son from his high school graduation.

This one above-I took a screen shot of off of his public graduation video. Melody filed a false complaint to Facebook stating that I stole it from her. If you look up my son's video on the school website, you will see that I did not steal it from Melody's pictures at all yet she continually lies and gets away with it. 

I don't understand why this woman is so obsessed with me loving Justin openly? She has the right to love my son just as much as I do yet she obsessively tries to get my pictures and videos to him deleted. Why so much hatred for a mom that loves her son Kyle the way I love my children? She understands what it is like to love a child (although she does not claim her daughter Kayla). She knows today what it feels like to lose a child and although my son is still alive, the 10 years I have lost with him can never be replaced. How can Melody spew so much hatred towards me-a mom that loves her children-when she is also a mother herself that should understand that no matter the circumstances, we are mothers whether bonus or biological. I don't view Melody as loving Justin more than me or me more than her. I can understand why she loves him so much. She forgets that I was there everyday and night for the first 8 years of his life before she stepped into the picture. He's a great kid. I know because I raised him the first part of his life. I am not trying to take Justin away from her. I am just a mom that immensely loves all her kids-bio and bonus.

I have made videos on YouTube for my estranged son to let him know in these 10 years that I love him. YouTube was the only avenue I had to communicate with Bogey because his father forbade him to speak to me or his siblings in over 7 years. 

In my advice to other parents that are facing Parental Alienation, I have told them to make videos for their children regularly so the kids will see that have not been left or forgotten.

The ONLY reason why Kevin and Melody can't get those videos deleted is because I do not mention my son's legal name. Pretty sad that these two adults are so afraid that Bogey will see my love for him on these videos. Here is an example of a video that my youngest son siblings and I made for him on his 16th birthday Sept. 28th, 2012. Up to this point, this was the ONLY way we could wish  a Happy Birthday because his father forbid us to have contact with Bogey. Here is one of many videos that you can view on my YouTube channel.

Bogey's 16th Birthday wish from me and his siblings in 2012

I recently decided to post voice mails left by Melody on our answering machine. I kept every one of those voice mails just in case I would need them to once again defend the false claims that I am stalking her. That she is afraid of me. That I made a video that I threatened Kyle and made fun of him. The interesting thing is that Melody cannot produce this threatening video for the courts because I never made a video. Under the laws, any persons that threatens bodily harm to another can be prosecuted to the fullest extent. The authorities can petition for the video to be pulled out of the archives of any company so why can't the authorities find the video? Because I never made one and I have every right to prosecute Melody for slander for this horrific lie amongst others she has concocted. 

I have NEVER threatened anyone in my life especially the life of a child. 

Recently, my father has been very ill. Melody claims that I cannot go back to the USA because of my "Class 4 Felony Warrants" which is a lie.  But before my travels, just to be on the safe side-I contacted Law Enforcement in every city I have ever lived in and every town Kevin and Melody have lived in and there are no warrants, or felony's or bounced checks or even a dang speeding ticket against me. I have legal documentation that I can travel freely anywhere I choose. 

I have and will continue to come and go as I please because I am a free law abiding citizen.

Melody lies about everything and to anyone that will believe her nonsense. However, I do believe that she is in a frenzy right now because the children are older and will not lie for her or their father nor will they stay quiet.

I posted videos of Melody's voice mails to show that Melody called us ALL the time. I also posted these voice mails because Melody has posed as me on the phone, in emails and other social sites. I wanted the general public to know that my voice is VERY different than Melody's. In allowing people to hear her voice, I wanted others to hear what kind of character she really is.

Melody is very concerned about people finding out what kind of person she is and thus is why she has once again achieved deleting her voice mails off of  my YouTube.

So, I am not going to take the time out of my busy life, nor give her power to lie again and get them deleted to satisfy her hunger to harass me once again.

In this transcript below are the voice mails that were deleted, Melody laughs about having police officers being kicked back in her apartment waiting for Col Kevin P Landers and also about getting a restraining order on him as well. A restraining order is no laughing matter yet Melody once again uses the system to lie, intimidate and harass others when she gets angry.

I did file a restraining order against Kevin because I feared for my and my children's lives yet Melody files a restraining order against Kevin because in her exact words-

"I got my satisfaction of the embarrassment of him having to stand there" as she is laughing on the voice mails.

John and I did not find it funny and it was at that point that we knew we were talking to someone that is a liar, mean and will go to any lengths to "make someone suffer" for her vengeful pleasure. It's women like Melody that make it very difficult for victims like myself to receive help by a court of law when Melody uses the courts time as a means to humiliate another. 

Whether Col Landers abused Melody or not-I do not know for sure because she lies so much.

However, there were plenty of times that she shared with me that he was very mean to her and she was afraid of him and because I am a survivor by the hands of Kevin, of course I chose to believe her and console her.

So this is a warning to anyone that is in Melody's circle-if she decides she doesn't like you this is the type of games she plays. Melody is very good at lying, controlling and manipulating peoples friendship for her own gain. She will and has used family members and her child as a shield to gain sympathy for her lies. She has and will degrade, verbally abuse and threaten children with abandonment of financial support, taking them to court or  the refusal her "love" if they don't hate who she wants them to. Ask my children and her daughter. 

She will go to ANY lengths and has to get her way even if that means lying under oath in a court of law. She is the wolf in sheep's clothing.

I must stress that Col Landers is not naive to Melody's tactics as he has also lied under oath. But, if push comes to shove and the Colonel fears that he may get in trouble- in a heartbeat-he will blame everything on Melody because that's the kind of man he is-

A weak, lying, heartless abuser that will go to any lengths, including using his children as pawns for his selfish needs. 

I can't give a more extreme warning than this-

Stay away from Melody Landers and her abuser Col Kevin P Landers Sr.

Below is the transcribed voice mails that got deleted.

If you would like to hear all the audios, feel free to contact me and I will play them for you.

As far as Melody is concerned-

I find her to be a very miserable, lonely, bitter, mean human being that needs to find more outlets than taking so much time out her "happy?" life to continually harass me for her entertainment.

I have shared my story on this blog about my life with domestic violence. My story has come to an end because I became a survivor. I have no more words to share about my past life but as long as Col. Kevin P Landers and Melody continue to harass me whether by using my social media sites, my children, the legal system or otherwise-I will continue to defend myself and write in this blog.

When will Melody realize that EVERY time she tries to get my pictures deleted, my videos deleted, my words deleted and post false accusations against me-I will keep using my voice?

How about I propose this to them-

Leave me alone and move on with your lives. Stop obsessively  looking at my Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, YouTube and harassing me by getting things deleted with your fake legal documents and fabricated, immature lies. It is harassment and makes me wonder why you are so obsessed with me as much as you say you hate me?
Allow me to love our shared children and families openly without harassment. I respect that you love your life so give me and John the same freedom to love ours without the constant lies and threats that the FBI, the CIA, DEA, IRS, ICE, Interpole and whoever else you say you have close ties with is coming to get us. It makes you look quite ridiculous to others that the law doesn't have anything better to do than to "hunt' me and John down. Everyone knows where we live and although we live in Mexico, we are still US citizens that must abide by the US laws as well as here in Mexico. I have never broken a law here or in the states and I don't plan on it. I love my country and I love our soldiers that defend it. Please remember-I was a military spouse for 18 years and taught my 4 children to honor patriotism. 

It's been 10 years since the divorce. 
I am kindly asking that the hatred finally stop.

Leave me alone and I won't have to post anymore in my blog.

Keep harassing me-and my need to defend myself will continue on this blog that now has well over 36,000 views.

It's as simple as that.

Having said all this, our children are all adults now so there is no more custody battles. I have gracefully stepped away and allow the children to make their own choices praying that whatever they choose-they are happy and safe. Whatever path they choose, I will love them without conditions.

My wish is that Kevin and Melody one day find it their hearts to do the same for the sake of the children and our future grandchildren.
The ball is in their court.
Here are the transcribed voice mails.

Voice Mail #1

Hey, It's Melody.
I was just calling
to let you know what had happened (laughing)
It wasn't really anything-really.
Just by the time he got here,
there was like 4 police officers
and they were just like
kicked back in my apartment. (chuckles)

It was just so funny.

So Um,  just give me a call back.
 I've got to get ready in a few minutes
and going to work for a little bit but um,
just give me a call.
If  I don't get a chance to talk to you,
I have my continuing education class tonight
and I won't be home until like 9:30
so um, if nothing else
I will talk to you tonight sometime. Ok? Bye.

Voice Mail #2

Hey Cathie and John
It's Melody, um

I got your check today

I would have called before but um,

I'm on all this medicine

but I did get your check today

and I didn't want you to worry

But, anyway, um,

I'll just give you
a call later.

At 3 o'clock I have to get myself

up to go get Kyle

I feel like shit

I went to the doctor this morning

and he gave me an antibiotic
I'm taking that and NyQuil

I don't know if I will

be going anywhere this weekend

If I don't go with Josh

I'm a gonna get him to take

one of his buddies.

But anyway, um,

I'm sure I'll talk to you

later on this evening.

If I don't call you

It's because I'm knocked out again.

But anyway, um,

I talked to him at work today

about the restraining order on Kevin

I have to wait until Kevin calls me again

and then I just have to
save it on the phone from

where it came from his number
and then they are going to have Kevin served

I told them that I wanted them
to do it at his office

and of course,
they don't have a problem with that
But anyway, um,
I'll talk to you after while

If I don't fall asleep Ok?

Thanks. Bye

Voice Mail #3

Hey, It's Melody

I was just calling
to check in with you guys

Tommy will be over here this evening

He's gonna be here in a little bit

Um, everything in court today
went just like we said it would

Ya know?

They basically just slapped his hands
and told him don't do it again kind of thing
But, I got my satisfaction
of the embarrassment
of Kevin having to stand there (chuckle)

But anyway, um,
I'll call you guys sometime tomorrow

I don't think Tommy's coming over tomorrow evening

so I'll try to call you guys then

I mean, everything was good ya know

and it went smoothly and that kind of thing
and Tommy was there with me
while I was in court

But anyway, um,

I'll just call you guys later Ok?

He's suppose to be here

in like 30 minutes

so um, just shoot me an email

or I'll just um call you tomorrow afternoon OK?

I'll talk to you later. Bye.

 The picture below was shared by Melody with John and I in my personal email.

 The picture to the left was shared by Melody
with John and I in 2006. Note the date.