Col Kevin P Landers Sr. absence as a father continues

In 2011, I started writing this blog. It had been six (6) years since I had filed for divorce from US Army Col. Kevin P. Landers Sr. Numerous years of staying silent came to an end.  Per an extraordinary mentor and the advice of others that knew my “life”  I embraced their direction that I write my story for the public to read.  I had concluded that it was in my best interest and my 4 children’s best interest to share my story. This Blog became my “answer” to  those whom were part of my circle when I was married to Kevin. My ex was spewing lies about me and people were wanting an account from me concerning the false accusations Kevin was directing at me. Horrific lies told to my family, my friends and most importantly our children. I stayed quiet from 2005 until 2011 because I needed time to heal and gain confidence again. When I started to get bombarded with emails and phone calls from strangers and family members, I headed the advice given to me so that I could use my voice and stand up for myself against an abuser(s) and direct people to this Blog.

I chose NOT to write anonymously and to also name my abuser and his current wife Melody Morrison Wilson Landers. I made these decisions after much thought and consideration knowing that Kevin and Melody would more than likely take me to court...which they did in 2012. Because I reside in Mexico, Kevin and Melody thought that I would not be represented over 1,000 miles away in Colorado Springs, CO. Upon being served 48 hrs notice of the court date, I was able to have legal counsel AND use my voice via telephonic conference. While reading the allegations against me that both Kevin and Melody filed UNDER OATH, I was once again appalled at the lies they had written. One in particular is that Kevin claimed that he filed for divorce and won sole custody of our 4 children. After 18 years of his physical, sexual and verbal abuses, I am the one who filed for divorce in April 2005 and we had joint custody at that time. Both he and Melody also swore to the El Paso county court that I had threatened to kill them, burn down their home and kill their late son Kyle Ray Wilson. It amazes me how Kevin and Melody swore under oath yet claim to be God fearing Christians. It is unethical, it is sociopath, it is in violation of the US Army Code and it is against the law.

You can read in more detail what transpired during the court hearing in El Paso County Colorado by clicking on the link:

http://catherinelanders2010-recreatingmyself.blogspot.mx/2012/03/abusers-censorship-request-denied-by.html

Kevin requested that the judge order me to take down my blog and Judge Curtis denied his request. As per his abusive character, he was not happy about her judgement but he and Melody started telling people that they have a permanent restraining order and that I am a felon running from the law and hiding in Mexico. Their lies escalated to such an insane, extreme level and they started posting publicly  that they went to the Supreme Court and I was ordered to remove all my social media sites. I have a screenshot of a transcribed FALSE court hearing that never took place. An acquaintance that reads Melody’s private blogs sent me the fake court proceeding order. Here is a link to Melody’s 2 different blogs that consist of very slanderous allegations against me and John and our children.
http://thelanderssaga.blogspot.com/
http://kevinmelody.blogspot.com/ 

Col. Kevin P. Landers Sr. and Melody Morrison Wilson Landers have stated and posted publicly that I have warrants out for my arrest in both Mexico and the United States. And go on to claim that if and/or when I cross the border, I will be arrested on the spot. As most all of you know from my prior blog entry, I ATTENDED-in-person my son’s wedding in November 2015 and then traveled throughout the United States before arriving to my home in Mexico. I also renewed my Passport while in the USA - without any problem.  I am reiterating this because it is important to see the pattern of how Kevin and Melody live and breathe lies and have been doing so for 11 years now and do not show any sign that they will repent nor stop all this slander and defamation of me, John, our children and our families.

On the eve of our son’s wedding, US Army Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. made false allegations to a local police officer concerning a false document Kevin had produced. The officer contacted me and advised that I was “prohibited” from attending our son’s wedding. I had to involve other judicial persons in New Jersey and Kevin was asked to leave immediately...he left. One would think that the Colonel would learn his lesson and stop all his lies and hatred towards me and our 4 children, but he has not.

Our 4 children want to have a relationship with their Mom and Dad. However, Kevin continues to make it very clear that if our children have a relationship with me, he will ban them from his life; He did so again recently with our 24 year old daughter.

How can any logical thinking human being admire or even respect a man, a soldier, an Army officer that demands his children have nothing to do with their mother and IF our son’s/daughter’s acknowledge their mom, they will be disowned by their father!

I know and mentor to many parents (dad’s included) that battle the courts and with their ex’s everyday in an effort to fight to be included in their child’s life. My John has battled with his ex Kelly for years in efforts to hold his children again. He even offered her sizable settlements and she refused it because she does not want John to be the wonderful father he is to his own children. Children that are now also becoming young adults that will eventually seek John out for answers as my children have done with me. What is going to be devastating to the Baker children is that they were lied to by their mother Kelly about why John is not in their life as of today. John prays about seeing his children everyday because he is a loving father.

Kevin has an unequivocal choice to have a relationship with our children and HE chooses not to be in their life. The children can confirm, that I have NEVER requested that they alienate their dad...I think it would be best for them to have a relationship with their father. Over the years these children have longed to have a relationship with their dad yet he continues to play the victim and disregards them because they want a relationship with both of us.

Kevin hates me more than he loves our children and that is so heart wrenching not only to me...but to 4 innocent children that don’t deserve all the anger he continues to dish out.

In the past, I tried to communicate with Kevin in reference to our children and he refuses to discuss their well being with me. We brought these 4 beautiful souls into this world and whether we dislike each other or not, we have a responsibility to support, love and embrace our children regardless of the past or our divorce. Kevin has a lot of excuses as to why he chose to shun our children but there is not one reasonable excuse to shut out any of the children involved.

Melody ONLY claims love for her late son Kyle Ray. She refuses to acknowledge her daughter.

Our children are not playing cards that we disregard when we don’t like what has been dealt to us. They are human beings that one day become adults and parents as well and because of this, it is our job as loving parents to try to show by example of how responsible, loving adults act and thus far Kevin and Melody display not only hateful actions but also damaging results. We adults brought children into this world and it will forever be our responsibility to ensure that our children are safe, happy, thriving and feel loved by us. Five children don't feel loved by Kevin nor Melody and that is one child too many. To all the readers that interact with Melody and Kevin on a daily basis or have been to their home, is it not odd that there is not one picture or verbal acknowledgment that Kevin has two daughters and two sons. There are only shrines of Kyle Ray...a sweet soul that couldn't speak but he had cognitive thinking. I am sure if he could have spoken, he would have a lot to say about the way his mother Melody and step-father Kevin treat his sister and step-siblings.

So, with permission from my oldest daughter, I must once again expose how truly hateful

Col. Kevin Paul Landers Sr. is towards his children. Below is a text message that our daughter sent to her dad. She is applying for student loans and is required to provide a parent’s home address. That is all she asked. She didn't ask for money...just permission to use an address.

Now let me stress something here, when our daughter was sent away several times by her father in 2008/09 he didn’t pay any child support nor did he even take time to visit her while she was thrown away in a federally funded program for low income households (he was a Lt. Col. in ‘08 ‘09). He just hid her away from me and her siblings for years and did nothing to support nor help her. When I found her, John and I took care of her until she got on her feet. Kevin repeated this same behavior with our 3 other children and hardly paid a dime to help them and it's not because he doesn’t have the money. An Army Colonel averages about over $7,000.00  a month with sizable annual raises:

https://www.military-ranks.org/army/colonel-pay  

The little amount of money he did give was ONLY when the children agreed to not have a relationship with me otherwise he shunned our kids out of his life. Kevin and Melody are so engulfed in their own greed and hatred for me that they punish these children in their process to hide all of their lies. I truly pray everyday that all their hatred would stop but I don't see that coming anytime soon and this is why I will continue to write in my blog. I had a 62 year old survivor tell me some very unfortunate, but honest advice. She said, “The day my abuser stopped his hatred was the day they buried him.”

I fear that with Kevin’s track record he will die a mean and dishonorable son; husband; and father.

“A man's success is measured by what his wife and children say about him. Money and accomplishments mean nothing if you let your home fail.”

I will end this entry with one last thought and advice to my ex and his wife.

If they do not stop their continual mean and abusive behavior towards myself and our shared 5 children I am going to continue to use my voice to expose how truly mean they are. Our children should not feel the need to defend themselves against their parents. We as parents should be defending the children that did not ask for a life riddled with insanity and a divorce. I asked for the divorce because I fell out of love with their father. How dare Kevin fall out of love with his children...he is a very sad man that not only hates me...Kevin hates himself.

He is mean; He is wrong; and He is abusive.

US Army Colonel Kevin P. Landers may wear rank as an outstanding soldier and attend his local church, but what does he want his legacy to be with 4 children that will also remember who he was to them? If he says he doesn't really care what our children think and could care less if they love him or not. Then he doesn’t deserve to be a father to MY children because my children are awesome souls that are doing great things and deserve all the wonderful things life offers in spite of the years of hell they have been through.

Rest...Regroup...Return

Kevin and Melody’s behavior defined ~

DSM-IV Definition. Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules. Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or sociopaths.

I have also included screen shots per Melody’s Pinterest and Facebook accounts

Melody is an evil human being.

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This is a post per Melody Landers Facebook stating that she raised my 4 children. That is a bold faced lie. My oldest son left within 3 weeks of living with his father and Melody, my two daughters were thrown away from different homes because their father didn't want them and eventually they came and lived with John and I. My youngest son was the ONLY child that was raised by Melody and his father and sadly he is the most emotionally damaged as of today. That says a lot about what kind of life he had in his father's home for 10 years.

This is a post on Melody's Pinterest.
Melody's current Pinterest account
A post that Melody will delete as soon as she reads this blog. Melody professes that her and Kevin Sr. don't have any daughters and that her nieces are "the daughters they don't have" but yet on her Facebook page dedicated to her late son Kyle she posts many pictures of "the daughters they never had" which are my and Kevin's daughters.
Kyle Rays Legacy of Love Facebook page
Do you know how horrible that makes Melody's daughter and my daughters feel? Not sure if Melody's nieces nor sister would approve of these posts or behavior.
It shows what kind of person/mother figure Melody truly is-evil at her beautiful nieces expense.

Survivors of Parental Alienation by Col Kevin P. Landers

In the 10 plus years that I have lived in San Miguel de Allende MX, I have frequented the consulate's office several times. Of course I must go there to update my paperwork, but for the most part I have been in that office because of the lies that Col. Kevin P. Landers and his wife Melody concoct.
I have been to the Municipals (Mexican Court) to debate & defend myself against the false allegations made by Kevin Sr. and Melody...I'm still standing. Because I have been to these buildings often, I have made acquaintances and friends. This past Saturday, one of these people told me that my ex-Col Kevin P. Landers is once again trying to file something against me. She said that the service that my ex-husband has hired to find me is becoming very frustrated because the consulates office will not help him locate me. 

I am not sure what this is all about, but Kevin Sr. has been stalking me for the past ten years now and it doesn't look like he will stop this hatred. Once again, this prompts me to write a blog entry as a reminder to my readers that:
>Abusers will always Abuse
>Haters will always Hate...and
>Survivors will ALWAYS Survive!
As I have said before, I started writing this blog for a few reasons. One was to defend myself from all the lies and accusations made against me by Kevin Sr. and his wife Melody. The second reason was recommended to me by a mentor that told me that I needed to tell my story. It felt safe to me to write as I have always been a writer. I didn't want to speak out loud just then, so a blog seemed to be a good avenue for me. And thirdly, so that my children, family and friends could learn more about the lies that Kevin Sr. and I tried to hide for 18 years. My children saw their father beat their mom. They saw the bruises, the blood and heard the cries but there are some things that I protected them from like their father’s infidelities, his excessive porn addiction and his desire for him and I to live a "Swingers Lifestyle." As I have built my confidence up in telling my story, I do now publicly speak about the silent crime of Domestic Violence. My journey has been a long one...but more so...a healing, powerful crusade that has led me to a better understanding of how I ended up being an abused woman, why Kevin Sr. chose to abuse and why he still denies that he has ANY responsibility in our divorce and the instabilities that our children have endured over the years.
It is necessary for me to go into a little bit of the past once again to try to paint a picture of the insanity in my marriage to Kevin. I should have left him years ago and I see that as a stronger woman today. But coming from a very traditional home where women raise the children and "stand by their men" no matter what abuses take place, I was not as strong as I thought I was. I was terrified that my children and I would end up on the streets (as Kevin Sr. had promised) and I truly felt that I had no way out.
Kevin Sr. and I had a very toxic relationship. A relationship that needed help many years ago. I was willing to go to counseling but he was not. I was willing to share all of our secrets but Kevin had too much to hide and he still, to this day, blames everyone else for his problems. Things have run rapidly through my head like, I should have called the police the first time he smacked me across the face. I was 6 months pregnant with our first son, but I didn't report him. I thought it would be the first and last time. I do honestly believe that if I did call the police, he may have decided to get help, but to this day I will never know.

When Kevin Sr. and I were living in England in 1998, he was very stressed. He was failing his Topography masters and came home very angry and unorthodox. The children and I were afraid of him most of the time and I did my best to try to intercept his temper tantrums by trying to calm him down or just making sure the kids were not present when he went into rages.
One incident in particular stands out to me because there was a moment that people were willing to help me. Several times they witnessed Kevin Sr.'s outbursts and they were concerned.

Kevin Sr. was pissed off at life so therefore, he was pissed off at me. He always found a way to make his stresses "my fault." We had been invited to a neighborhood BBQ. The Brits are very much about family and friends and on the weekends, there was always something going on. Kevin Sr. told me and I quote, "I have to go to this family BBQ, but I am not going with your disgusting ass so don't go."
Those words stung me but I held strong and said, "But the kids are excited about this."

Kevin Sr. told me that he would take the kids but I could stay home. Please keep in mind that the home we were invited to was our next door neighbor. I buckled because I knew he was going to cause a scene. I had been crying so I didn't look that great anyways and I didn't want to tell another lie as to why I had been crying. I got the kids ready and told them that Mommy couldn't go because she had a tummy ache. So, Kevin took them and I stayed home and cried.

About an hour later, a Canadian friend (I will call her Dana for her protection), walked through my front door and demanded that I wash my face and get dressed because I was going to this party. Of course, I told her no, but she didn't take no for an answer. Let me stress, that Dana and her husband saw Kevin yelling at me at public functions and knew he was mean to me and the kids.
I did go with her but I was afraid at how Kevin would react. My children were playing outside with all of the other children so I felt comforted by that. Dana took my hand and we walked into the house. Kevin was sitting on the couch along with other officers from the Royal school of Military Survey in Curridge, England 

Col Kevin Landers Masters in England 
When I walked into the room holding Dana's hand, Kevin saw me. And his exact words were, "Well well-the neighborhood whore is here."
Dana gripped my hand and told me not to move. I literally froze and kept starring at Kevin Sr. The entire room looked in his direction in shock that he talked to me that way. He got very nervous and said,
"I have studying to do and as he walked passed me, he bumped me with his shoulder. I was afraid.

After Kevin left, I still just stood there frozen. But, to my surprise, everyone rallied around me and started handing me food and cracking jokes and I started to feel more at ease.

My children had a great time and when they asked, "Mom where is Dad?"
I told them that he had to study and they almost seemed so extremely relived that he was not there.

We had a great evening without him.
I started to forget my fear of Kevin because I thought he had enough time to cool off. It wasn't until I gathered up my kids to go home that I was reminded of how abusive he was. He had locked all the doors. Here I am carrying little Justin and Amanda in my arms with KJ and Meg in tow and we couldn't get in our home. It was 11pm.
Kevin wouldn't answer and my kids started crying. The BBQ was still going on so our neighbors could hear me asking Kevin to open the door...SILENCE from inside our home. Kevin was playing a cruel game at the expense of his young children that were tired & had to pee and now becoming terrified.
I tried to hold back the tears but I was so humiliated. Kevin Sr. wanted to show me and our 4 young children that he was in charge and if it wasn't for him, we wouldn't have a home to go to.
Dana and the rest of the neighbors heard me knocking and the begging for Kevin to open the door. I was trying to be quiet, but I truly think that they knew Kevin was not going to be nice after his display earlier that evening. So, Dana walked over and brought me to her and her husband’s home. They had a son that I babysat quite often so he was thrilled thinking we were having a sleepover.
The children and I stayed overnight at their home and the next day Kevin Sr. came to get me and the kids. He tried to barge through the door, but Dana's husband told him to leave. Kevin snapped his head and sneered at me and said through his gritted teeth, "We are going to talk about this when you get home."
I knew that frightening look in his eyes. That dark face, with his lips pulled in tightly as a little spit came out of his mouth. I had not seen him this angry before and I started to shake inside. If I went home, he was going to hurt me or worse kill me because I believe he was very concerned that I told everyone his secrets. Quite honestly, after Kevin Sr. stormed out of the BBQ, his name never came up.
I started crying and of course the children were concerned. I tried to hold the tears in, but I couldn't. My friend Dana brought the kids outside and her husband told me that if I wanted, a few of the officers were willing to put money towards a plane ticket for me and my children. I looked at him shocked and said, "Why?"
He said, "Because we know how Kevin treats you and we want to offer you a way out to try to get your life together and leave him if that's what it takes."
I was stunned. I thought I did a pretty good job at hiding the abuses, but as I ran scenarios in my mind, there were other incidences where Kevin displayed his abusive behavior and I would cover for him, apologize and tell the neighbors, "He's just really stressed with this Masters program."
Obviously, they didn't believe me as these other officers were in the same exact program & it did not appear that their spouses were suffering the abuses that Col. Landers was inflicting on his family.

I didn't know what to do. I wanted to leave him then and I had free tickets. But a million things were running through my head. He told me many times that if I ever left him, he would take my kids and make my life would be a living hell and I believed him. Kevin Sr. was not threatening me. He was giving me a firm, harsh warning and his warning was inflicted on me years later when I filed for divorce.
I told my friend that I had to think about it but somehow Kevin Sr. found out about it and he begged, pleaded, got on his knees, cried and promised me that he would get help when we got back to the states. God, I wanted to believe him but I had been through this before with him. He promised to be a better father...that he would be more attentive to me and the kids...that he would stop the porn and Swingers addiction...That he would stop bringing his anger out on me....all the things I wanted to hear. So, I did something I regret today. I believed him for the 100th time and chose not to take the free tickets. Every promise he made to me on that day was all a lie. He manipulated me once again and I endured his hatred for another 6 ½ more years. Seven years later, what jolted me to leave Kevin is when he went after my older son (6-7 days before he deployed to Iraq) then I knew I had to do something. His anger was turning onto our children. I knew that if Kevin Sr. was able to break down our son’s door, he was going to hurt him and I wasn't going to let that happen. I would use whatever strength I had inside me to protect my children from their father’s wrath if that meant doing something extreme to stop him I was willing to follow through. That thought frightened me. It was time to end this cycle of abuse and it was going to have to start with me taking extreme, necessary actions to ensure my safety and the children's. Hence is why I waited for him to deploy so that he could not try to stop me from divorcing him. I felt I would be safe if he was a million miles away, but I was wrong. Col. Kevin P. Landers knew I was going to leave him, so he either was suicidal or faked that he was, so that he could get on suicide watch to gain an early release home from the war. He had only been deployed 3 months on a 1 year deployment. He came in under my radar and it was then that he started campaigning against me. He was on a mission to destroy me no matter what hell he put me and our children through.

On April 11th, 2005 I filed for divorce. That was our wedding anniversary and we had been married 18 years.

I did not pick that date but I thought it ironic that day was chosen as my court date to go through the divorce proceedings.
I held pretty strong in our divorce battle but the day finally came...He achieved a promise he made to me many times, "If you EVER leave me, I will take your children away from you."
And he did just that. He concocted a lie that I had kidnapped our children and he feared for their safety because I was abusive to them. That lie didn't hold up with the judge and the judge was extremely disgusted with Kevin Sr.’s plot. What did hold up was the fact that I took the kids across the state line (something I did not know was wrong) and the judge had to follow through with the law. As a matter of fact, the judge reprimanded my attorney Mrs. Heather Nichols for not giving me good legal counsel. Heather had encouraged me to take the children to GA for a visit. I fired H. Nichols on the spot and slowly walked out of the courtroom. I didn't look in Kevin or Melody's direction because I didn't want to see the satisfaction on their faces.
The breath was knocked out of me and I was still in shock as to what happened. When I left the courtroom I was thankful for the wall behind me that was holding me up.
What happened next was one of the most evil moments Kevin Sr. displayed. He went out of his way to seek me out in the hallway and started chuckling...an evil chuckle of victory. My lawyer actually had to ask him to leave me alone so he just walked away still chuckling with a strut in his stride. He wanted to see me crying and in agony and he knew that taking my children from me would achieve more pain in me than broken ribs he gave me years ago after he kicked me repeatability on the ground. Kevin knew where to hurt me, so there were rarely visible bruises and the ones that did show-I lied about. Like the blows to my head that can be hidden by my hair, my broken rib could be hidden under clothes and with my lies of, "I think I pulled a stomach muscle at the gym."  I once again chose to protect Kevin Sr. over protecting myself and our children. But, there was no hiding or lying about the pain I felt that day when I saw Kevin's face and heard that evil chuckle. I knew he wasn't going to back down with trying to damage me any way he could because I finally did what I should have done the first time he struck me-I should have left him and then maybe I could have saved our kids years of pain and insanity. Well, Kevin did follow through with his hateful games of trying to destroy me and he did use our children to try to achieve that.

The mind games of Parental Alienation (read definition below) became Kevin Sr.’s focus of strategy and he recruited a team player, Melody Wilson Landers, to help him try to brainwash our 4 children against me.  I have lost much time with my children. Especially with our youngest son. I lost 10 years. 10 years that were taken from us by a mean, selfish, hateful man/father and his second wife Melody. Milestones were stolen from me that can never be replaced with hugs or words.

In those 10 years, his father made sure our son did not have access to me. Col. Kevin P. Landers and his second wife Melody did everything in their power to try to get Justin to hate me but it didn't work and here are some reasons why-
I spent a lot of my time with my 4 children when I was in their lives and I treasured those moments. I was active in their lives. I made sure that my children knew that I wanted to be a part of their days. I treasured being a stay-at-home mom and I took that role very seriously.
I volunteered at their classrooms. I made sure that I had lunch with each of them once a week.
I created a night called "special night" which meant that each child got to stay up an hour later, without their siblings, and got to choose what they wanted to do and eat.
My oldest son wanted to get on his PlayStation and I learned the fine art of "trying" to maneuver the paddles as he would giggle and say, "Mom, you know I am going to win this game."
Yeah....I knew he was going to kick my butt but that didn't matter. What mattered was the sound of his giggles. I can still hear his giggle and I miss it.

My older daughter was very much into to soccer so she wanted to go outside and kick the ball back and forth. I had some of the best conversations with her as she proceeded to show me her fancy moves with the soccer ball. Let’s just say that I never got fancy like her, but none-the-less, I got to know her just a little bit better on her "Special Nights" and she inspired me with her confidence and strength.

My younger daughter is a fashionista. So, on her special night, it was dress-up time from my closet and makeovers. I was shocked at how brilliant she was with make-up and style. She would tell me,
"Mom, you need to get some fancy high heels."
Being athletic, volunteering in numerous venues and a proud "soccer mom"- I had a couple of pair of heels for formals or events that I had to attend with my ex Kevin, but other than that-it was sneakers, running shoes, flats, and sandals. I asked my daughter, "Where would I wear fancy high heels?
She said, "Walmart."
I still giggle about this.

And then my youngest son...
On his "Special Night" he of course wanted to first eat. Justin loved cookies. I am not a cookie fan but the rules of special night consisted of doing what the kids wanted to do, so I indulged in more Oreos and chocolate chips than I care to admit! Justin showed me how to dunk the cookies in milk. An art I already knew how to do but he took so much pride in showing me. After the cookies, he wanted to read dinosaur books and stuff about outer space.
The reason why I think it is imperative to share this is because I did everything in my power to create happy memories with my children. I wanted to dilute the sadness, anger and fear that was present in our home. I wanted my kids to have happy memories to hold onto. Happy memories that would overcome the scary, sad ones. I tried. I truly tried to be a protective, happy, loving Mom that wanted to create a safe, healthy, happy home for our kids. I thought that I had failed but overtime, my 4 children have told me that they remember my time with them and they treasured it.

My youngest child recently told me, "Mom, I would close my eyes and remember all the happy times I had with you and I never hated you."
He told me that he would look at his baby photo album almost every night and smile. I asked him if he still had that album, but he said it disappeared one day when he was about 14 yrs old. Considering that Kevin Sr. threw away any memory of me to try to erase my existence, I am sure it ended up in the dumpster. What a cruel thing to do to a child that had lost his siblings, all his memorabilia that had anything to do with me, and now the one possession he treasured was thrown away as well.
In order to deflect off of arguing and persecution from his father and Melody, Justin said that he would pretend to hate me so that his father and Melody wouldn't get mad at him. He cried when he told me this because he was afraid I would be angry with him. Quite the opposite. I knew he was just a little boy when his father started to put hateful thoughts in his head to try to get him to hate me. 

Things Kevin Sr. said like,
-"Your mother doesn't love you. She left you"
-"She's just a whore who is sleeping with men to make money"
-"She NEVER cared about you. She ONLY cares about F-ing Uncle John."
-“As far as you’re concerned she’s dead! Don’t you ever mention that skanks name!”
What kind of father would say that to his children?
Things Melody would say were:
-"You don't want to live with your mother. She lives in a shed with bugs and only has beans and rice to eat."
-"It’s a third world country and the only people in Mexico are felons, drug addicts and prostitutes like your mother."
-"All your mom does all day is drink and smoke weed like your sisters do."

I still will never absorb or accept that two grown adults (that are parents) would inflict a little boy, who is already hurting because his parents divorced, to all these lies and abusive actions just to try to brainwash him into hating his mom. Better yet, let’s look at it from a different aspect. What if all these things Kevin Sr. and Melody said about me were true? WHY would two "loving?" parents burden an 8 year old boy with such horrible images about his Mom? Kevin Sr. and Melody have told their friends and families that all they wanted to do was protect Justin from me. Well, if what they said was true about me, how would they expect a child to deal with those adult issues...and not only deal with them...why would they paint a horrible image of me as opposed to allowing that little boy (our son) to keep the happy memories alive in his innocent mind. Then allow him to find out who I was without their hateful influence. Why? Because Kevin Sr. and Melody knew and know that I was NEVER any of those things they tried to concoct in our young children minds to get them to hate me. Kevin Sr. and Melody HAD to do "damage control" because they knew they were lying and were afraid others would find out. Well, that day of reckoning is here and that is why Kevin Sr. and Melody never mention the Landers children anymore. There have been times that the kids have tried to reach out to their father.
He says, "You ONLY call me when you need something. Stop using me. You chose to leave so don't call me again."
Pretty pitiful that somehow Kevin Sr. is the victim in all of this and he is the one who is feeling used after using our children for years in his hate propaganda? Our children were used as poster kids by their father and Melody for years and the billboard read,
"Look at this poor father raising his 4 little kids and his live-in-girlfriend loving and caring for them because their mother is a loser."
But, what happened behind the billboard was that two hateful adults, trying to get 4 already broken children to hate me. From stories that have been shared with me, the raising of my children by Kevin Sr. and Melody was nothing more than a hateful, manipulative and fake atmosphere and as of today, it is the children that suffer the most…pretty sad and very heart wrenching to think about.

Kevin Sr. chooses to embrace his children ONLY if they hate me. He used our children as weapons to try to hurt me (and key word here is USE) but when the children decide to embrace me, he ignores them. Keep in mind that Kevin tells our children to stop calling him. But he will use and embrace them again if they hate me.  Kevin Sr. – always playing the victim to try to gain sympathy - such typical abuser behavior.

As of today, there is no mention of 4 children Col. Kevin P. Landers fathered. You won't hear him praise his sons or daughters for doing the best they can after all they have been thorough. You won't hear him mention his children to his mother Becky Landers or other family members and friends of how happy he is to be their father and that he loves them.  There are no more public postings or loving acknowledgments of the "bonus kiddos" Melody claimed she loved so much. There is no more talk of her "beautiful bonus daughters" or her "handsome bonus son"  that she never treasured to begin with. She now posts hateful things about me and our children in order to hide the lies she created all these years. In one of Melody's most hateful, recent posting she claimed Justin killed his step-brother Kyle Ray. All that were around Justin in the times that Kyle was alive, could see how much Justin loved Kyle Ray.

In a prior blog (see link below), I shared several screenshots that Melody posted on her Pinterest that have since been deleted by Melody. One in particular is where Melody claims that Justin was the cause of Kyle's strokes and inevitable death. After Kyle died, Melody would scream at Justin and tell him, 
"You caused Kyle to have strokes and the heart attack that killed him."
"I don't have a son because of you."
"If your father dies, it will be because you killed him."
The only word I can describe for a woman to say this to a child is EVIL. 
Now, with Melody's habitual antics, she will try to claim that Justin is a liar, but as you can see in the below screenshot  Justin is telling the truth.
Melody's accusation of Justin killing his step-brother Kyle Ray and also the fact that she "will put Justin in jail with me" is in the third picture.

So as I stated prior, there is no proof of the existence of Col. Landers 4 children nor the existence of Melody's only daughter. There are only shrines of Kyle Ray. The reason for this is because too many questions would be asked and Kevin Sr. and Melody will have to come up with more lies to overlap the years of lying they have festering in their 'happy home."

As of today, Kevin Sr. and Melody are doing damage control with other peoples children by inviting them into their home. Fortunately these children/teenagers don't live with the Col. & Melody for long periods of time so they are safe. It is Kevin Sr. and Melody's way of saying,
"See, kids love us."
But this facade is not working with the majority of people. It is obvious what they are trying to do and it is quite sad and disturbing that they think this tactic is going to work when in fact 5 kids (their bio kids) chose to leave them and the home full of lies.
But despite Col. K.P. Landers and Melody's ploy to bully our children into hating me, all 4 children are present in my life and I receive a weekly call from Melody's daughter Kayla.The Col. and his wife are extremely frustrated by the children's choice to remain in contact with me.
As I have done with my older children, Justin and I have walked back into time to those moments of reminiscing. I feel it is healing for him to talk about those happy moments we did share as a family.

What Justin needs right now is to remember those special times. It's when Justin started to learn that his father was lying about me, that his father and Melody's fears surfaced. Fears that Justin would find out the truth and start telling others that his father and Melody are liars. It will only be a matter of time now that John's 4 younger children (who are 16) are going to ask their father John and their mother Kelly about what happened over all these years. When they find out Kelly has been lying, there is going to be hell to pay for her…because how can a child respect a parent that lies?
They can't...and they won't!
I prayed a million times for God to bring my children back to me. He has done that. I no longer need to battle or plead for them. I need to make up for time lost with my kids. Time that was stolen from me by a man that cared more about "winning" the divorce game and hurting me, than compromising with me for the sake of our children's broken hearts.
I am not a perfect mother but my love for my children is perfectly real and no one is going to take that love away from me. They may have taken my kids for awhile, but they never took away my love for them and my children's love for me.
This is where most of my energy goes today. I am trying to focus on reuniting these children with each other and the family members they were forbidden to have contact with. There are no more battles over the young children that I helped raise because they are not young children anymore. They are young adults that need a parent that cheers them on in their pursuits to find out who they are.
What matters is that I want our children to have a loving, guiding, non-judgmental, supporting source that they feel secure going to. Something they did not receive in their father’s home. I want our children to know that they can trust me. That I value their opinions and respect their boundaries. I want our children to know that they can trust me as their encourager and I will try to be the best guidance that I can. I want them to know that they are going to make mistakes and they may fail at a task but it doesn't mean they are failures. That they are important assets to our society and that their lives matter. I want them to be a part of my life no matter what choices they make.

I want to be that parent.
I am that parent.
And whether they choose to embrace their father or not, I will not turn them away no matter whom they choose to love. I want to use my energy to re-build my relationship with my kids and their significant others. I cannot express how thankful I am to have that opportunity today and every day after...

"It’s not only children who grow. Parents do, too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself." 
~Joyce Maynard 

Melody's hatred and lies posted on her Pinterest link
Parental Alienation Defined

Orange is the new snap...

My officer ex-husband claimed, 
"I saw orange."
The officer below claims he, 
"Just snapped."
Abusers are cowards.
Please read this re-post from The New York Daily News...

The New York Daily News reported this story yesterday, June 17, 2015:

A New Jersey cop furious over child custody issues ran his ex-wife off the road, then gunned her down in front his young daughter and fellow officers Tuesday morning, authorities said. . .

"It looks like he just snapped," witness Linda Jones, a neighbor who knows Seidle, told the Asbury Park Press. "I'm sad for the wife. I'm sad for the children, I'm sad for him. . . "

Seidle was a 22-year veteran in Neptune and served four years in the Navy. He split with his wife less than a month ago after nearly 25 years of marriage. . . 

The cop was obsessed with porn and video games, cheated on his wife and often got violent with her. When she was pregnant, he once kicked her in the stomach, and also held a gun to her head and cocked it, according to a divorce complaint obtained by the Asbury Park Press. . . 

He also beat her on her birthday when she fought with him about a charge for pornography on their cable pill, the complaint said. . .

Abusers do NOT "just snap." The implication in that phrase of course is that they are really normal folk who just reach a point where the burden and stress of life is too much for them to handle and they "snap" under the load like an overloaded support beam in a building.  Wrong!  As this news story goes on to say Seidle had a long history of wickedness against his wife. (The justice system obviously grievously failed this lady. Why in the world was he still a police officer??!!)

Abusers do NOT "just snap." Abusers simply keep on doing what they have been doing all along, often with increasing intensity. They are not "out of control" with anger. They specifically and intentionally target the people and objects they want to damage or destroy, bypassing other targets that are important to themselves. They selectively rage in other words.

Notice in this case that this wicked, evil abuser in the end did NOT kill himself. He made that choice. I would suggest that his choice was colored by some notion that the culture he lived in sympathized to some extent with him! "Hey, Sarge, we understand. She just pushed you over the edge. Could happen to any of us." Now that may or may not be accurate about how his fellow officers really think (although let's face it, that kind of mentality is far too common), but the fact is that Seidle chose not to kill himself. He chose, just like all abusers who "just snap", to make a choice. They really are not "out of control" after all and therefore they do NOT deserve our sympathy.

Col Kevin P Landers Melody Landers-Cyberbully Update

My ex-husbands wife Melody Landers has been harassing John and I for years now. I was made aware of lies she quietly told family, neighbors, friends and even lied to our children about me and John. These lies were brought to my attention as family members started to realize she was unstable and from my children who decided they wanted to live with me. My children-now young adults- have told me many accounts of Melody's verbal rages behind closed doors and all the lies she tried to tell them about me and John. The children never believed her which infuriates her even more.
I really could not do anything about what Melody said behind my back quietly, but I am ready to put a stop to her public defamation of me, John, and now the children that want nothing to do with her.

One of her first public attacks was on John's 20th Highschool class reunion website, Facebook page, and University website page in 2010. Melody had created a fake account posing as John and wrote some pretty degrading, horrific lies. John's friends from high-school and college knew it was not John and collectively reported Melody and she was removed immediately from those sites.
Another public attack was on my Mountain Home High school alumni page. She created a fake account with my maiden name(Cathie Seebauer) and once again wrote-posing as me-horrific lies. My friends knew it was not me and Melody was again removed. John and I have screen shots, written letters by friends and family that would be willing to testify and documented proof that it was indeed Melody that was the imposter.

Another public attack was a posting in 2012 as herself here in San Miguel on an online website called Civil San Miguel de Allende, MX. This website allows expats and locals to post questions about our surrounding city. One can find and post rental information, classifieds, and questions about San Miguel. Melody took it upon herself to create a post that degraded John, myself and our daughter "A" who still lives here. People that I had never met here in San Miguel contacted me and asked me if I knew who this Melody Landers was. I asked them-
"Oh no-what has she done now?" 
They told me that they had her post removed because they knew she was spreading horrible lies about me and our minor daughter at that time. I had no idea why Melody would even care to take the time to create a post on a site that doesn't pertain to her at all. I believe her intention was to try to ruin our outstanding reputation as good citizens in this city-yet it back fired on her because now San Miguel, which happens to be a close-knit community-is well aware of Melody Landers hateful actions and it is not tolerated nor accepted in this peaceful, loving community.

Another recent tactic Melody did was to post on John's son Nate's Georgia Southern website. Nate is a football coach at GA Southern and once again, Melody used her own name and posted horrible, slanderous lies about John. John and Nathan are very close and talk everyday. I assume Melody's intention was to try to make John appear in a bad light to Nathan's friends and colleagues. John along with his family and friends follow GA Southern website and John was getting bombarded with messages and phone calls asking John-"What the heck is wrong with this lady?"
Good question and one that will appear more clear as you continue to read below.

Melody has posed as our children. She had hidden keyloggers on the children's computers, phones, x-boxs ect. Keyloggers are good tools to have as long as you don't use them to hack into others social accounts. Melody has a pattern of doing this to ALL 4 of my children and her daughter. She gave her daughter a computer as a "college present" and without "Kay's" knowledge, she put a hidden keylogger on that computer. "Kay" did discover it when Melody also started posing as her daughter. Pretty weird lady. Melody also bought a computer for our daughter "A" in 2012 and "A" was smart enough to ask a computer tech to check to see if there was a hidden keylogger on her computer. There was. Why is Melody so insecure that she has to hack into other peoples personal lives or maybe she is what she claims I am-
A Stalker. 
The most current has been my youngest son. When "J" chose to leave his father and Melody to live with his sister, he did not realize that Melody was hacking into his Yahoo, Gmail, Hotmail, Facebook, Cell Phone and X-box because when "J" tried to log into his media sites after he left, all the passwords and security questions had been changed. All this time-Melody was posing as Justin on his Facebook-something I already knew but my "J" did not. I shared with "J" the copies of private messages from "his" Facebook these last 10 years. He said-"Mom-I never wrote those things."  "J" had to create a new Facebook because he could not get into his old one. The old Facebook still exists so if you receive messages from this Facebook link Justins Hacked Facebook  let me stress it is not Justin-It's Melody Landers. 

An update on my son's "J) old Facebook ubove. "J" reported to Facebook that his step-mother hacked into it so Facebook immediately removed it. "J" has also reported his hacked e-mail accounts and has informed all of his contacts from these accounts that if they receive any correspondents from the email accounts he listed-to delete them. "J" is currently creating new accounts and we are helping him secure these accounts so that Melody will have no access to his private life any longer.

So here is a severe warning to anyone that has communicated with "J" on his media sites up until the time he left his fathers home in Jan. 2015-Some communications may have been Melody and anything that you thought was private-was seen by Melody.  If anyone out there has visited Melody and Kevin's home and used their computers or cell phones-Melody has all your passwords and don't be naive to think she won't hack into your personal accounts. Melody's actions are an Invasion of Privacy or Intrusion of Solitude and Seclusion. This can constitute time and/or a hefty fine if pursued in court.

There are so many more examples but below are the most recent and it is time that I put a stop to Melody's hateful antics I do believe Melody is very angry and concerned that now 5 out of 6 children that were under her care chose to leave her and Kevin. The child Melody is most frustrated about is my youngest son "J." She truly thought that her lies to him about me would stick after 10 years but once "J" was free to talk to me he told me and his siblings-"I never forgot all the happy moments and that's what helped me survive all these years." Justin never hated us. He had to survive until legally he could walk away from his fathers home-and he did just that in January.

Melody knows that we are learning what really happened these last 10 years to him and she is afraid that she will be exposed. Well-I am ready to do just that if she does not stop texting hateful words and threats to my children like-"you are going to court and then jail." Melody is exhibiting behavior of a first class bully. If she does not stop posting defaming, slanderous things about me, John and now the kids I will continue to expose her hateful rants. A woman who has publicly posted for years how much she "loves her bonus kiddos" is now posting horrible things about them. What kind of mother figure does that? Heck-what kind of human being does that to kids?

Melody methodically threw away my childrens books, pictures, memorabilia, toys, holiday decorations, stuffed animals or anything that reminded my children of their past yet she has a shrine of her late son Kyle. Kyle Ray who was a 19yr old boy that had severe disablities that prevented him from speaking or use of physical independence. Kyle's well being relied totally on Melody and he died at a very young age. Melody worships her late son but where are the pictures of her living daughter she carried for 9 months inside her? Where is Kayla's shrine? Why is Melody's daughter Kayla not treasured? Is it because she was not handicapped or is it because Kayla could use her voice. Is it because Kayla was taken away from Melody at a young age and Melody resents her own daughter? It's not Kayla's fault that her mother was unstable.
A very clear picture is evident here. Melody had 6 children(my 4 and her daughter and son) at one point under her care, 5 of those 6 chose to leave her and Kevin's home. Kyle did not have a choice or a voice but the 5 other children did. Melody continues to hide behind her late son's legacy yet she fails to tell the truth about what really happened behind closed doors to my children and her daughter. The kids are now talking because they are not the young children that can be silenced, controlled or bullied into lies to protect their father and now his second wife-Melody Morrison Wilson Landers. These 5 kids are now legal adults and they are sick of Melody's slander, hatred, bullying and threats of-
"I'm going to take you to court and you are going to jail."
How many more times is Melody going to use that "scare tactic?"
It's getting quite old and it's not working anymore.

I have for the most part tried to ignore Melody's harassment and bullying but in all honesty there were times I got caught up in "defending myself" and "firing back". As much as I try to ignore her, it becomes a different playing field when she is now going after my children. Melody being married to a high ranked-high profiled Army officer should impress her enough to act as a spouse of a US Military Colonel. However, Melody's behavior exposes her ignorance. She does not seem to understand that her behavior does affect Kevin and his role as an officer. When soldiers climb the ranks, the military world gets smaller and smaller which means the spot-light gets a lot bigger and brighter. Of course with Col Landers job as commander of The Corp of Engineers, he is also in a significant leadership position. It appears that Melody does not understand nor care that her public defamations and lies against Col Landers children and myself is a direct reflection of her character and her role as a spouse/officers wife. In lou of the fact that Col Landers is married to Melody-Her public display and behavior is a reflection of his personal life. 
With the current events of "J" leaving their home & care, FOR GOOD REASON, Melody and Col Landers emotional cruelty to these chilren comes to light once again...a reflection of the turmoil that exist in the relationship of Col & M. Morrison-Wilson-Landers.. 

Melody, as Col Landers wife, should be presenting herself with grace, dignity, professionalism, class and integrity. She is doing none of these as you will see in the screen shots below. I am not sure if Kevin wants to pursue the rank of General like my brother-in-law Jeff has , but if he does-he needs to have a long talk with his wife Melody. My sister Debbie, General Milhorns wife, is the epitome of not only an excellent wife, but a shining example of a outstanding officers wife. Debbie sets the bar very high. One that Melody needs to try to reach if she truly wants to support her husband Col Landers more than harass me, John and our children.
My brother-in-law's Frocking Ceremony to Brigade General

So below are the most recent screen shots of "postings" by Melody. My friends and family have brought these postings to my attention and the one question is always-"Why is she so hateful?"
Melody is infamous for posting hateful lies and words on social media sites and then deletes them.
I learned many years ago to screen shot and document everything because Melody claims I harass and cyber-bully her. She also states that I have made YouTube videos stating that I will kill Kyle(Melody's son). It's interesting that those videos were never produced in the courts. Why?-Because there are no videos. I have NEVER threatened anyone with bodily harm. Melody also insists that I send emails to friends, families and Col Landers work. I have not and I am sure that if emails have been sent-they can be tracked by IP addresses and I'm confident that it will be traced back to one person-Melody Morrison Wilson Landers. Melody also states on her Pinterest page called Cyberbullying- Melody's Pinterest Page Cyberbullying-that I have a criminal background. Once again, another significant lie or "Perjury". I have never committed of a crime and have a clean slate with law enforcement. I just got my Passport renewed because I have planned trips in the future to travel to the states to visit with my children (to include Kayla-Melody's daughter), my in-laws, Johns son and of course our families. So, after reading the horrible things and lies Melody writes and speaks, you will conclude that Melody is the bully and if she does not stop-we will be forced to continue to make this public and if she still doesn't stop with my asking-we will be willing to stop her legally. Something I'm sure Col Kevin P Landers Sr. does not want, need, nor has time for.

                                                                                                                                 

Here is the original picture of me taken off of my older daughters Facebook. This picture was taken while cooking Christmas dinner with my daughters last year. Myself, and my younger daughter "A" were cooking in my kitchen and Skyped with my older daughter in Montana so we could all feel like we were cooking together. Below this picture is the same cropped picture that Melody stole off of my daughters Facebook and wrote as you can see-
"always calling someone else fat. Why don't you look in the mirror lady. looks like you might have couple of chins going on there. May want to start running again...quit bullying the retards.
Let me stress there is no documentation that I have ever called anyone a retard because I never have. She also states that I called my 2 son's girlfriends fat. Once again-these two girls know that I have not. As far as "bothering" her. I have not had contact nor desire to in years-another lie. As far as the Geneva Convention?-it is obvious that Melody has no idea what this agreement serves.

In this screenshot above, Melody claims that I taught my son how to surf porn(on the far left) because I talked about porn all the time. Lets keep in mind that I had not been in my son's life for 10 years so this is a bold face lie. I have written in my blog that Col Landers had a porn addiction in our marriage(something the children remember) but according to my son "J"-he said he was forbidden to read my blog so he never did. So, if Melody lies about sick stuff like this (especially publicly embarrassing our son) one can only assume she lies about everything.

The next picture below (to the far left) Melody pins a picture that states I'm a whore and that I don't even go to church. Now she doesn't mention my name, but how many people do you know that are in a loving relationship with their EX-brother-in-law? What mature, reasonable woman-especially a Colonel's wife-thinks she is displaying about her character when she goes around calling women whores? That's a term abusers use to degrade their victims.

This picture below is also from Melody's Pinterest account. She changed her name to n, but if you copy the link, it goes directly to her page.
In this picture below she refers to John as "skanky" and me as a "cheater"(far left). To the far right-she calls me a "self-absorbed whore". Once again-a term that mature, respectable, Christian women do not use. Melody also calls me a worthless piece of shit(far left) WOW! Terminology she recently called Justin after he got home from boot-camp. Yet, she says that I call others horrible names?

In this screen-shot below, 
 Melody insults her step-children(my children) by stating that they are just skating by (Far-Left). Quite the contrary. After the children chose to leave their fathers home-they excelled at a very rapid rate.
Something that my youngest son(who just left his father) is doing as well. Then to the far right-Melody writes-"thought they(Col Landers kids) could "spunge" off us forever" Melody is referring to her precious bonus-children. This doesn't appear to be a loving, supportive step-mother. It appears to be an angry, immature, unstable woman. It is understandable why my children couldn't wait to leave their fathers home because if she post this on a social media sites-it confirms to me that when my children tell me-"Mom-she is really mean behind closed doors." I believe them.

In this picture below, Melody writes(far left)-
"4 U Erin. He doesn't want your skanky ass and you only wish you were me" 
Erin is short for Catherine and once again Melody calls me a skanky whore. A word not becoming of an officers wife let alone a woman of class. The "he" she is referring to is Kevin. I think it is obvious that Col Landers and I both decided that we did not want each other anymore.

In this last pic- in the center- Melody writes-
"haters gonna hate bitch please you got nothing to be hated on Nobody cares about a home-wrecking whore that is bi-polar white trash"
Melody claims to be an upstanding Christian woman but I have never heard a Christian woman talk, write or act the way Melody does. Her public words of loving her children to include her bonus appear to be only for show because as you can see in some of her above posts-she says mean things about the kids. Not only is she posting mean things, now she is texting mean things and after 10 years of this-I think Col Landers, myself and our 4 children would agree that it's time that Melody stops with all this slander, defamation and YES-stalking.

Let me stress as I have in prior blogs-I will stop posting in this blog if Melody and Col Landers stop the hate & lies. I am positive that Col Landers is unaware of some of the things that Melody post. I am once again bringing awareness so that Col Landers understands that what Melody tells him and what is reality are very different. 
Society calls that a lie.

I still do not understand why Melody won't stop. My friends and family have brought to my attention many times Melody's hateful rants. She has been reported by me, my family, my friends, the children and even people I don't know. She has gotten her hands slapped a few times by these public media sites, yet she lets time pass and then she starts up again. It is obvious that she has a lot of anger, rage, and instabilities inside of her.  
To this-I don't know why nor do I care but what I do care about is that she stops. There is nothing gained from Melody's hatred and if she truly supports and loves her husband- Col Landers-Melody will consider what is in his best interest. Something she may prove to be incapable of doing.