Kelly Baker Barnes and Col. Kevin P. Landers disown their behavior

I have stayed quiet for some time on my blog. I told myself that as long as my ex and his wife stopped the harassment, then my effort to defend myself and my children would no longer be necessary. However, per recent harassment,  I thought it would be a good idea to use my voice once again.

That moment is now.

My children are now free from their father’s home and this is a good thing. Although they long for their father's love, their father is incapable of giving love without conditions. Conditions that benefit him...not them. One firm condition he insists upon is, he will have nothing to do with them unless they hate me.

John's 4 younger children will be walking away from their mother Kelly's home to go to college, but better yet, a road to their freedom to live outside of their mother’s daily monitoring; monitoring to ensure that Luke, Samantha, Evan and Ethan do NOT communicate with their dad, John. They can think and breathe openly with their own beliefs and choices. What an exciting time for LSEE! We are so happy for them.

John's oldest son just got married on June 24th. John could not attend for reasons that all of you are aware of and although Nate and Katherine also invited me, I gracefully declined. I told Nate that as much as I would love to be there, I thought it best to not attend because it would have caused quite a bit of a distraction from him and his new wife. Nate agreed. However, a dear friend, MaryLou Couch streamed the entire wedding for us so we could see the ceremony unfold in real time. MaryLou is like a mother to Nate and we are grateful that she and her family have also embraced us.

What a lovely gesture from a very sweet woman.

My children were also invited to the wedding but for various reasons could not attend.  When they found out their father Col. Kevin P. Landers and his wife Melody were not invited, that made their inability to attend even more disappointing. As you remember, Kevin Sr. tried to ruin our oldest son's wedding.

(Col Kevin P Landers gets reprimanded by law enforcement) Nate made it very clear that he doesn't respect nor like Kevin and Melody and DID NOT want them at his and Katherine’s wedding. His mom Kelly was insistent that her oldest brother and Melody be invited. However, Nate held his ground to ensure that Kevin Landers Sr. and Melody did not come any where near him or his new wife. Nate is a very kind, forgiving, devoted soul and rarely dislikes anyone and to be honest...if someone doesn't like Nate then you assume that there is something wrong with them, not Nate. However, over the years, things have been said about Nate and things have been done by Col. Landers and Melody that have made Nate put up boundaries with them. Many times, Melody has posted lies about Nate's father John on Nate's social media sites to try to degrade and humiliate John. Nate is very close to his father. Nate and John have one the closest father/son relationships I have ever seen and they are very devoted to each other. So Melody's continued antics to attempt to lie and harass have cost her and her husband to not be invited to not one but now two weddings in the family. If their hatred continues, I dare say family gatherings will not include Colonel & Mrs. Kevin Paul Landers of Wilmington, NC.

Now I'm sure it was said that Col. Landers could not attend because of his job, but that is a lie. The Colonel just retired from the US Army, so his job was of no issue. His behaviors and his wife's are why they were not allowed to attend the happy, special occasion.

Below is a screenshot of just one example of many I possess that shows how Melody tried to discredit Nate's dad publicly with lies. This was very upsetting to Nate that someone this evil was trying to hurt his father with lies. It was also said publicly by Melody and Kevin that Nate is a disrespectful, disobedient child that needs reprimanding. Even worse, when Nate was 15 years old and an excellent student and well behaved young man, his mother, Kelly, threatened to put Nate in a boarding school for unruly boys because he was talking to his Dad. I am sure that Nate’s siblings have heard similar threats from their mother over the years i.e.”your dad is on the run and if you talk to him, you will go to juvenile detention”; or, “my attorney and the counselor said it is against the law for you to communicate with ‘him”.  What kind of mother threatens their children with such atrocities because they want to communicate with their father? Kelly also told Luke, Samantha, Evan and Ethan that they would go to jail if they talked to their father. She started telling them this from the age of 6. Pretty disgusting when a parent forces a child to live in fear because she was afraid that her lies would be exposed. One of the many reasons I write a blog is to stop the liars from continually lying and not taking responsibility for the damage they have caused 10 children(to include Melody's daughter Kayla), myself and John.

As far as the Landers family and their "damage control" to try to preserve & present their reputation as God loving, law abiding citizens...well, their ploy to try to bury years of lies is quickly coming to an end. Society sees them through their fake smiles, made up faces, fancy clothes and material possessions. Looking successful means nothing if your kids, family and others don't admire the person you are behind closed doors. By that I mean, words mean nothing unless you live them in your everyday lives. People can say, "I have changed" or "I want to get better" or

"I have rededicated my life to (my god)" but that means nothing unless you live it and show it to others everyday....especially your spouses and children.

It was brought to my attention by several persons that Kelly is going around telling people that she and her brother Colonel Kevin have re-dedicated their life to their god. First of all, why does Kelly need to defend her brother? He is a big boy that is capable of standing on his own merit and that is for him to share...not her. Secondly, if Kelly is truly repenting then she must admit all the lies she told to the courts, to herself and especially to her children that have lost many pivotal years with their father. Kelly used the courts and Judge Caldwell (he was a judge disbarred for sexual, disorderly conduct: see Judge Johnnie Caldwell perversions with women in his courts ) and claims that she is only following court orders. However, she refuses to cooperate with authorities that have requested that she cooperate with negotiating for John to return to GA to be with his children (these requests were made from 2006 thru 2016). Kelly is adamant that John have his parental rights terminated; charged & convicted with 5 counts of child abandonment and serve maximum time in prison; her reply to attempts to settle CSR arrearage, “All or none; plus time in prison”. Yeah, she’s charming.  No one is making her continue to demand an ungodly amount to money from John. Kelly knows John can't pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to her. Kelly can drop all falsified charges but she won't because if John can travel back to the states and try to engage with his 4 younger children, then Kelly will have to face her demons and lies, something Kelly does not want to happen because - bottom line -  John's children will realize what an awesome father John was and still is. Turning your life over to your god does not mean just parts of you. You must hand over ALL of you. Take a moral inventory of yourself, admit to others your lies and sins, repent and ask for forgiveness and that is what rededicating your life to the one and only God entails. But, I know that Col. Landers nor Kelly Baker Barnes are actively doing anything to help mend the people (fathers, mothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, daughters, sons) they methodically and actively broke. It has to take someone to bring accountability and exposure to their abuses. Otherwise, these abusers will live their lives with no accountability for destroying others because they care more about denying their lies than caring about the people that try to love them.

"The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians, who acknowledge Jesus with their lips and walk out the door and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world finds unbelievable."~Brennan Manning

I am a Christian and I love my God. But, my 4 children are not sure there is a God. Why would they? They have witnessed their father beat me. cheat on me, lie to me, and lie to them. Their father made them lie in a courtroom(or else), lie to neighbors and family, and demanded our children consider me dead...that Melody was now their mother. A step-mother who continually degraded my name, threw away all existence of me once she moved in with Kevin(while he and I were still married) and then abused my kids. Their paternal grandfather(Poppy) who was an elder in 3 different churches but was told he had to resign because of his anger outbursts. Poppy-who was verbally abusive to his wife, and once my children publicly loved me-their Poppy disowned them. A paternal grandmother(Magaw) who acts as if my children don't exist because they love and embrace me and John. An Aunt Kelly who yells all the time, only cares about her looks and material possessions, and cheats on her husband. These listed people go to church every Sunday and point fingers at everyone else. Why would my kids want to embrace our Father when their own father has lied, bullied, and cheated his way through our marriage and his life. Being an officer in the Army is not impressive if your immediate family has fallen apart and fears your anger outburst and abuses.

The Landers, to include Kelly's mother Becky(Magaw) will never admit that they were active in trying to hide their family secrets and knowingly lie, neglect and harm the children involved....especially my children. Becky has chosen to ignore 4 of her grandchildren for over 10 years now. Becky was invited to her grandsons(my son) wedding in November, 2015 and did not attend because she hates me more then she loves her Grandchildren. What kind of loving grandmother does that? My children have lost 3 grandparents over these last few years and Becky is the only living grandparent they have left. A loving grandmother would not alienate children of divorce...NO MATTER WHO SIDE SHE CHOOSES! A loving grandmother would love ALL of her grandchildren unconditionally-something the Landers family to include her late husband Jim(Poppy) are incapable of doing. They are vengeful and mean.

So as it stands today, there are new chapters in our children's lives that are forming and for this we are thankful. John and I love our children and pray everyday that they succeed in whatever they choose and that they live happy, healthy, productive lives. That they find love and give love unconditionally in spite of their upbringings by unstable parents. As you all know, I have re-united with my 4 children even though their father and Melody did everything in their power to convince them to hate me - it did NOT work.

I pray that the 4 younger Baker kids seek their father John out when they feel ready and do so no matter what their mother Kelly threatens or bribes them with. I know that they will find that their dad has loved them since the day they were born and never stopped trying to reach them through phone calls, videos, letters and gifts.

I will close with this thought. Parents that alienate their kids can do it so easily when the children are younger and not as free to think on their own. It's easy to intimidate a child when you are bigger than them. But, one day, those little children grow up and start making choices of their own. They start seeking answers for questions that have been unanswered or worse - lies told. Kelly may think she has gotten away with all her vengeance and lies because years have passed and her god has forgiven her. Maybe God has for I am not one to judge what God decides. But, when the Baker children find out what she has done to try to destroy a relationship with their father, there will be hell to pay and they may have a hard time forgiving her. If she doesn't believe me, she can ask her brother.

“You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”~Matthew 1:36-37

Rest..Regroup..Return and Let It Begin With Me

This picture above was posted by Melody while Nate was a coach at Georgia Southern. She had the audacity to post this publicly because she was upset with a video John had posted to warn his 4 younger children how evil she is. Here is that video-

John warns his kids LSEE

Please keep in mind that John is not a felon nor am I. Another one of many lies produced by the Landers family. It is well known that I have traveled to the states and abroad several times without any legal issues. As far as Melody stating that Col. Kevin Landers cannot lash out because he is a "High Ranked Army Officer" That is also a lie. Kevin and Melody have pursued me in courts many times to try to silence me with their fabricated lies but each time we went to court, the judge dismissed their hearings. Col Landers recieved reprimand by his upper command to control himself and Melody and their hateful, exhausting antics. He also received reprimand from the courts and law enforcement to stop wasting their time and to leave John, myself and John's family alone. Melody, on the other hand doesn't follow authority and I dare say that over Kevin's career has embarrassed him to his soldiers and upper command with her evilness.

In reference to John and the lies being told about him-John is in touch with Child Support and has offered a settlement to Kelly many times. Kelly refuses as stated in this blog.
Melody also mentioned in this Facebook post below that she and Kevin are not alienating because they have no children in their home. At the time Melody posted this-that statement is the truth. But, my youngest son Justin was forbade contact with me or his three older siblings for over 10 years. Kevin Sr. held Justin as collateral to punish myself and my 3 older children for not wanting to be around his abuses. But as soon as Justin turned 18, he left his fathers home. In typical abuser form, Kevin Sr. has now disowned Justin as well. Justin was the one that suffered the most because he was forced to live with his father and Melody's abuses the longest. Kevin Sr., Melody and Kelly are active alienators. Parental alienation is mean, it's wrong and it's child abuse.

My intention with the blog was not to try to destroy lives or ruin careers. Kevin Sr. and Kelly are doing just fine. Kevin Sr. just retired as a Colonel is the military and Kelly is making plenty of money with Chick-fil-a as a corporate secretary. One of my intentions in writing this blog is to ensure that these liars not rest until they admit what they did wrong and fix the children they have broken all these years.

This picture above was taken at Col. Kevin P Landers Sr. retirement ceremony on Friday July, 7th, 2017. It is public record that Kevin and Melody will retire in Wilmington, NC.

Col Kevin P Landers Sr. absence as a father continues

In 2011, I started writing this blog. It had been six (6) years since I had filed for divorce from US Army Col. Kevin P. Landers Sr. Numerous years of staying silent came to an end.  Per an extraordinary mentor and the advice of others that knew my “life”  I embraced their direction that I write my story for the public to read.  I had concluded that it was in my best interest and my 4 children’s best interest to share my story. This Blog became my “answer” to  those whom were part of my circle when I was married to Kevin. My ex was spewing lies about me and people were wanting an account from me concerning the false accusations Kevin was directing at me. Horrific lies told to my family, my friends and most importantly our children. I stayed quiet from 2005 until 2011 because I needed time to heal and gain confidence again. When I started to get bombarded with emails and phone calls from strangers and family members, I headed the advice given to me so that I could use my voice and stand up for myself against an abuser(s) and direct people to this Blog.

I chose NOT to write anonymously and to also name my abuser and his current wife Melody Morrison Wilson Landers. I made these decisions after much thought and consideration knowing that Kevin and Melody would more than likely take me to court...which they did in 2012. Because I reside in Mexico, Kevin and Melody thought that I would not be represented over 1,000 miles away in Colorado Springs, CO. Upon being served 48 hrs notice of the court date, I was able to have legal counsel AND use my voice via telephonic conference. While reading the allegations against me that both Kevin and Melody filed UNDER OATH, I was once again appalled at the lies they had written. One in particular is that Kevin claimed that he filed for divorce and won sole custody of our 4 children. After 18 years of his physical, sexual and verbal abuses, I am the one who filed for divorce in April 2005 and we had joint custody at that time. Both he and Melody also swore to the El Paso county court that I had threatened to kill them, burn down their home and kill their late son Kyle Ray Wilson. It amazes me how Kevin and Melody swore under oath yet claim to be God fearing Christians. It is unethical, it is sociopath, it is in violation of the US Army Code and it is against the law.

You can read in more detail what transpired during the court hearing in El Paso County Colorado by clicking on the link:

http://catherinelanders2010-recreatingmyself.blogspot.mx/2012/03/abusers-censorship-request-denied-by.html

Kevin requested that the judge order me to take down my blog and Judge Curtis denied his request. As per his abusive character, he was not happy about her judgement but he and Melody started telling people that they have a permanent restraining order and that I am a felon running from the law and hiding in Mexico. Their lies escalated to such an insane, extreme level and they started posting publicly  that they went to the Supreme Court and I was ordered to remove all my social media sites. I have a screenshot of a transcribed FALSE court hearing that never took place. An acquaintance that reads Melody’s private blogs sent me the fake court proceeding order. Here is a link to Melody’s 2 different blogs that consist of very slanderous allegations against me and John and our children.
http://thelanderssaga.blogspot.com/
http://kevinmelody.blogspot.com/ 

Col. Kevin P. Landers Sr. and Melody Morrison Wilson Landers have stated and posted publicly that I have warrants out for my arrest in both Mexico and the United States. And go on to claim that if and/or when I cross the border, I will be arrested on the spot. As most all of you know from my prior blog entry, I ATTENDED-in-person my son’s wedding in November 2015 and then traveled throughout the United States before arriving to my home in Mexico. I also renewed my Passport while in the USA - without any problem.  I am reiterating this because it is important to see the pattern of how Kevin and Melody live and breathe lies and have been doing so for 11 years now and do not show any sign that they will repent nor stop all this slander and defamation of me, John, our children and our families.

On the eve of our son’s wedding, US Army Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. made false allegations to a local police officer concerning a false document Kevin had produced. The officer contacted me and advised that I was “prohibited” from attending our son’s wedding. I had to involve other judicial persons in New Jersey and Kevin was asked to leave immediately...he left. One would think that the Colonel would learn his lesson and stop all his lies and hatred towards me and our 4 children, but he has not.

Our 4 children want to have a relationship with their Mom and Dad. However, Kevin continues to make it very clear that if our children have a relationship with me, he will ban them from his life; He did so again recently with our 24 year old daughter.

How can any logical thinking human being admire or even respect a man, a soldier, an Army officer that demands his children have nothing to do with their mother and IF our son’s/daughter’s acknowledge their mom, they will be disowned by their father!

I know and mentor to many parents (dad’s included) that battle the courts and with their ex’s everyday in an effort to fight to be included in their child’s life. My John has battled with his ex Kelly for years in efforts to hold his children again. He even offered her sizable settlements and she refused it because she does not want John to be the wonderful father he is to his own children. Children that are now also becoming young adults that will eventually seek John out for answers as my children have done with me. What is going to be devastating to the Baker children is that they were lied to by their mother Kelly about why John is not in their life as of today. John prays about seeing his children everyday because he is a loving father.

Kevin has an unequivocal choice to have a relationship with our children and HE chooses not to be in their life. The children can confirm, that I have NEVER requested that they alienate their dad...I think it would be best for them to have a relationship with their father. Over the years these children have longed to have a relationship with their dad yet he continues to play the victim and disregards them because they want a relationship with both of us.

Kevin hates me more than he loves our children and that is so heart wrenching not only to me...but to 4 innocent children that don’t deserve all the anger he continues to dish out.

In the past, I tried to communicate with Kevin in reference to our children and he refuses to discuss their well being with me. We brought these 4 beautiful souls into this world and whether we dislike each other or not, we have a responsibility to support, love and embrace our children regardless of the past or our divorce. Kevin has a lot of excuses as to why he chose to shun our children but there is not one reasonable excuse to shut out any of the children involved.

Melody ONLY claims love for her late son Kyle Ray. She refuses to acknowledge her daughter.

Our children are not playing cards that we disregard when we don’t like what has been dealt to us. They are human beings that one day become adults and parents as well and because of this, it is our job as loving parents to try to show by example of how responsible, loving adults act and thus far Kevin and Melody display not only hateful actions but also damaging results. We adults brought children into this world and it will forever be our responsibility to ensure that our children are safe, happy, thriving and feel loved by us. Five children don't feel loved by Kevin nor Melody and that is one child too many. To all the readers that interact with Melody and Kevin on a daily basis or have been to their home, is it not odd that there is not one picture or verbal acknowledgment that Kevin has two daughters and two sons. There are only shrines of Kyle Ray...a sweet soul that couldn't speak but he had cognitive thinking. I am sure if he could have spoken, he would have a lot to say about the way his mother Melody and step-father Kevin treat his sister and step-siblings.

So, with permission from my oldest daughter, I must once again expose how truly hateful

Col. Kevin Paul Landers Sr. is towards his children. Below is a text message that our daughter sent to her dad. She is applying for student loans and is required to provide a parent’s home address. That is all she asked. She didn't ask for money...just permission to use an address.

Now let me stress something here, when our daughter was sent away several times by her father in 2008/09 he didn’t pay any child support nor did he even take time to visit her while she was thrown away in a federally funded program for low income households (he was a Lt. Col. in ‘08 ‘09). He just hid her away from me and her siblings for years and did nothing to support nor help her. When I found her, John and I took care of her until she got on her feet. Kevin repeated this same behavior with our 3 other children and hardly paid a dime to help them and it's not because he doesn’t have the money. An Army Colonel averages about over $7,000.00  a month with sizable annual raises:

https://www.military-ranks.org/army/colonel-pay  

The little amount of money he did give was ONLY when the children agreed to not have a relationship with me otherwise he shunned our kids out of his life. Kevin and Melody are so engulfed in their own greed and hatred for me that they punish these children in their process to hide all of their lies. I truly pray everyday that all their hatred would stop but I don't see that coming anytime soon and this is why I will continue to write in my blog. I had a 62 year old survivor tell me some very unfortunate, but honest advice. She said, “The day my abuser stopped his hatred was the day they buried him.”

I fear that with Kevin’s track record he will die a mean and dishonorable son; husband; and father.

“A man's success is measured by what his wife and children say about him. Money and accomplishments mean nothing if you let your home fail.”

I will end this entry with one last thought and advice to my ex and his wife.

If they do not stop their continual mean and abusive behavior towards myself and our shared 5 children I am going to continue to use my voice to expose how truly mean they are. Our children should not feel the need to defend themselves against their parents. We as parents should be defending the children that did not ask for a life riddled with insanity and a divorce. I asked for the divorce because I fell out of love with their father. How dare Kevin fall out of love with his children...he is a very sad man that not only hates me...Kevin hates himself.

He is mean; He is wrong; and He is abusive.

US Army Colonel Kevin P. Landers may wear rank as an outstanding soldier and attend his local church, but what does he want his legacy to be with 4 children that will also remember who he was to them? If he says he doesn't really care what our children think and could care less if they love him or not. Then he doesn’t deserve to be a father to MY children because my children are awesome souls that are doing great things and deserve all the wonderful things life offers in spite of the years of hell they have been through.

Rest...Regroup...Return

Kevin and Melody’s behavior defined ~

DSM-IV Definition. Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules. Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or sociopaths.

I have also included screen shots per Melody’s Pinterest and Facebook accounts

Melody is an evil human being.

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This is a post per Melody Landers Facebook stating that she raised my 4 children. That is a bold faced lie. My oldest son left within 3 weeks of living with his father and Melody, my two daughters were thrown away from different homes because their father didn't want them and eventually they came and lived with John and I. My youngest son was the ONLY child that was raised by Melody and his father and sadly he is the most emotionally damaged as of today. That says a lot about what kind of life he had in his father's home for 10 years.

This is a post on Melody's Pinterest.
Melody's current Pinterest account
A post that Melody will delete as soon as she reads this blog. Melody professes that her and Kevin Sr. don't have any daughters and that her nieces are "the daughters they don't have" but yet on her Facebook page dedicated to her late son Kyle she posts many pictures of "the daughters they never had" which are my and Kevin's daughters.
Kyle Rays Legacy of Love Facebook page
Do you know how horrible that makes Melody's daughter and my daughters feel? Not sure if Melody's nieces nor sister would approve of these posts or behavior.
It shows what kind of person/mother figure Melody truly is-evil at her beautiful nieces expense.

An Update-Col Kevin P. Landers Admits To Abusing Me

Update: 
I want to bring you to the current events. I have stated that Col Kevin Landers had dismissed our children from his life as long as they were in contact with me.  In 2012, Kevin Sr. had re-engaged with our younger daughter here in Mexico in an effort to bribe her with his money. He wanted her to help aide in his goal to take me to the courts over my blog and degrade me and John's outstanding reputation in society. It didn't work. As a matter of fact, the judge here in San Miguel along with the Embassy basically told Col Kevin Landers and Melody to stop wasting their time on frivolous lies against me and John.

Col Landers got on a new job in North Carolina in hopes that his lies will not follow him. In an effort to do this, he and Melody tried to display on public media sites and to "new friends" that our four children and Melody's only living child have been a part of their lives. It's a lie. Now they claim that I have convinced our children to hate them. I have NEVER brainwashed our children against their father nor Melody. My oldest son chose to not want to be in his fathers home and my two daughters were kicked out of Col Kevin P Landers home and he chose to put them into government funded facilities because he didn't want to supply monetary needs for them. Once he locked them away, he ignored them. I had to track our daughters down and was able to gain custody after a horrendous battle. Bottom line-Col Landers didn't want our kids, but he didn't want me to have them either. 
In the midst of all this insanity, our youngest son Justin was still a prisoner by his father and Melody. Justin was not allowed to communicate with any of us freely for 10 years. Kevin Sr. lost our 3 older children because of his anger so he kept tight chains on Justin who was just a little boy at the time. Why? It was a sick way to torture all of us that left him and his abuses. This is who Kevin Sr. is behind closed doors. He is mean when the blinds are drawn and we are living witnesses as to why he lost the loving family he had in his life. His anger, greed, infidelity and self-righteousness is why he lost 4 kids and a wife that loved him more then he will ever understand.

Justin has been used as a tool by Col Landers to control his siblings and once Justin was out his fathers home, classic Col Kevin Landers did bribe our kids with money, cars, vacations and, material items or worse-"I won't love you if you don't abide by my demands of hating your mother" 
Kevin Sr. hates those who hold him accountable for his behaviors especially if its his loved ones.

Please read this entry below and understand that I am posting public facts based from the internet. Truth speaks loud on these public sites. So do our children, but the children are afraid to talk out-loud. They fear their fathers threats that he will ruin their lives if they ever speak the truth. I can understand their fear as Kevin has taken me to court to try to silence me. A task that he will never achieve. 
Col Kevin Landers Sr. will go to any lengths to hide his secrets and get his way no matter who he hurts in the process.

I cannot paint a clearer picture in this entry as to how unstable, mean and manipulative Col Kevin P Landers and his wife Melody Wilson Landers truly are to the children they claim they tried to protect and loved for. Col Landers in all facts-threw his daughters and son away because they did not fit the mold of the perfect family he has to portray. Our children were becoming outspoken, hurt and withdrawn under Kevin and Melody's care because Kevin and Melody wanted the children to hate me. Col Landers didn't want nor know how to parent our kids after the divorce but now that the kids are healing and doing well after he abandoned them-he tried to bribe them back into his life so he can portray publicly-
"See what a great father I am and have been." 
However, because of Kevin's hateful ways in the past-the kids will not allow him to portray that lie any longer. In typical controlling abusive behaviors and in efforts to hide their lies-Kevin and Melody now only have a shrine of Melody's late son Kyle in their home. Kevin and Melody don't acknowledge our shared children in their lives so that others won't ask questions about what truly happened to the 5 kids they put on display in the past. This is very bothersome to Kevin's paternal/maternal family members, friends and past acquaintances that know our children personally. 
There is no acknowledgment in the Landers home that Kevin has fathered 4 other children and that Melody has given birth to a daughter. A daughter that deserves a nurturing mom and 4 kids that deserve a loving  father. 
How sick and unstable is it that Kevin Sr. and Melody dismiss 5 children because these kids refuse to live with lies and abuse? These now adult children only require unconditional love and stability and deserve(as all children do) to be able to live happy, productive lives with the joint love and encouragement of all parents involved.

It will be said that our children's instabilities are because I left Kevin but in essence-my filing for a divorce in 2005 was a result of a very unstable, abusive 18 year marriage and those are the scars our children carry.

Please keep your eyes wide open when you encounter Col Kevin P Landers Sr. and Melody Landers. They are not what they portray themselves to be and they will continue to "hide" behind any child or the shrine of a child that portrays them as "loving parents" 
The challenged children in Kevin and Melody's lives have no voice or freedom to expose the lies hidden behind the doors of Kevin Landers Sr. home. 
But, others do and we will continue to speak for the sad, lost and abused until we can speak no longer.
"Let it begin with me"

Entry from June, 2013

As I write this next entry, I’m reminded of the shape of Wall Street & private companies and the shambles CEO’s have left them in as they depart. I’m reminded of the demise of our USA government & political offices & it causes me to ponder, “How in the Heck did they get there?”. I wonder how some priests ever became much less remained priest amongst all their abuses? And how a person like Col Kevin Landers, continues to soar in the US Military (specifically US Army). Because I was this officers wife for over 18 years, I am extremely knowledgeable of my ex-husband’s abuses, negligence and lies. I am at a loss as to why a corporation/employer (the US Army) continues to “look the other way & turn their head concerning Col. Landers’s obvious dysfunctions in his performance as a soldier, a husband, a father, an officer and a peer.

I want to begin with Col Landers dysfunction as a father and a husband and how obvious it is that this man neglected & perverted his personal life. He runs on resentment and hate. If you don’t do as he says, and act as he commands-you are nothing to him. My children and I have felt shut down, beaten down and left to feel unloved and alone at least once if not more than once by the temper tantrums from Col Kevin P. Landers Sr.  Let me share with you some public examples.

After Col Landers lied to the court & had our child lie to the court, he succeeded in obtaining physical custody of all 4 children in July 2005 (the children had chosen to live with me). He made it very difficult for me to have any contact with our children but through the world wide web, family and loyal friends I was able to gather whereabouts of my children’s location(s). Although he lied, stole & cheated in an effort to gain possession of our children, he immediately started discarding them as he realized I was not going to return to him…he continues to use our children as pawns to try & silence me.

In this first article dated January 11^th 2008, Kevin accepts a promotion and he claims 6 children.

“LTC Landers and his wife Melody currently reside in Fayetteville, North Carolina. He has 4 children, Kevin Jr, Megan, Amanda, and Justin all of Fayetteville, and two stepchildren, Kyle Wilson of Fayetteville, and Kayla Wilson of Big Springs, West Virginia”-

 http://www.hurherald.com/cgi-bin/db_scripts/articles?Action=user_view&db=hurheral_articles&id=26892

8 months later, Lt. Col Kevin accepts command of the 4^th Engineers Fort Carson, Co. In this article, Kevin claims 5 children.

Col Landers now only claims 5 children

“Landers is married to the former Melody Wilson of Grantsville, West Virginia. They have five children: Kevin Jr., Kyle, Megan, Amanda and Justin.”

I acknowledge that errors & oversights occur but honestly, how could the number of children and the name of a child be mistaken? This is a red flag in the household of Lt. Col. Landers and his wife Melody.

So let me continue further to show you that there were no mistakes in the details of these articles. These articles were approved for printing by a man that is bitter because his mentality as an abuser is to turn away anyone that acknowledges my existence. US Army officer Lt. Col Kevin Paul Landers wants people to hate me because I hold his secrets. When any of our children refused to denounce my existence, Lt. Col. Landers would put them out of his home & into government funded (free) facilities. My children were begging to have contact with me and to silence them in an effort to hide his secrets and lies-he tried to hide them from society and me. This way, Lt. Col Kevin could lie about his own children and me without rebuttals and do what Col Kevin Landers does best-Damage Control. 
He would proceed to tell the people that inquired about his children that use to be in the "happy family portrait" that the kids were having emotional problems because of the divorce but the bottom line is the children were having emotional problems because they were to act as if I never existed. 
This "family" portrait below was made and hung on the wall within months after I was forced out of my children lives. I know this because once the children were in my life again-they started to share the stories of what life was like with their father and Melody. If you look closely, it appears Col Kevin Landers is not wearing a wedding ring but my computer resolution may not be as good as some.

Our divorce proceedings barely started and Kevin is living with a woman, and insisting that our children accept the fact that this woman (Melody) that they hardly know-is going to be their new Mother. According to my now adult children-they shared that their father told them that Melody was going to be a better mother than I ever was and that they better accept that fact without questions. What children wouldn't have rebellious behavior or emotional issues after being told something like this by their father? My children told me they had to secretly cry because if they said one word about me their father and/or Melody punished them by yelling, degrading or locking them away. Once again-how can any logical person not see how unstable Col Kevin Landers behavior is? He had or has no desire to raise our children. His goal in our divorce was to "win" but once he "won" our children-he left them behind while he pursued what he loves best-himself. All he cares about is-himself. No matter how much he has to lie, cheat, manipulate or abuse-his goal is to take care of himself. 
Once the kids were secure within facilities, he would ignore them. By that I mean, he had NO contact with them. He supplied no emotional, verbal or financial support. Our daughters M and A begged for their father to speak to them. M in particular, would asked her father if he would give her permission to graduate early from Job Corps because she was excelling rapidly. His response-"M, you only contact me when you need something." Really Kevin?

Here is the daughter that he manipulated into breaking into our kitchen window to try to steal court documents and then had her lie to a judge on his behalf? Then, after he didn't need her help- threw her away in the world with no support what so ever. A came next. So, conclude that the bottom line is-Kevin hates women even if they are his precious "little girls"
Here is a video that was recorded on January 11th, 2011 at my home here in San Miguel de Allende. My daughter "A" was already living with me and John. "M" had just graduated from Job Corps and wanted to live with me. These two sisters were forbidden to see or speak to each other in over 4 years by the demands of their father Col, Kevin P Landers, How much crueler can a father let alone a human being be? We did not tell daughter "A"that her sister was coming just in case Kevin tried to prevent daughter "M" from living with us. He did try but "M" was of legal age to choose and she chose to be with me.

I have all the emails and hateful responses to both of his daughters that he so carelessly threw away into the world. The allegations of drug abuse and lying by his 2 little girls is Kevin's written excuses in the emails to ignore his daughters. A tactic he used on me as a grown woman-his wife. Really?? An abuser, cheater, and swinger that happens to be an officer, father, and claimed christian that is acting self-righteous and continues to as long as society allows him.  

A little over a year later, in 2009, another article was posted. This article reveals that Lt. Col. Landers is willing to claim NOT 6; NOT 4 but now only 4 yrs after having obtained physical custody of our children, their father has “put 4 of them away”. In 2009, he only claimed 2 children: J Landers & Melody’s son Kyle Ray. How can the US army not question the stability and integrity of a solider that does not even claim his own children publicly or privately? I do believe that in Kevin’s mind, moving to Colorado would enable him to “start anew” where he could lie to a new audience. How sad it is that he would not acknowledge & would lie about 3 of his own children & Melody’s daughter.

“The Landers' reside in Fort Carson, Colorado Springs, CO with their two sons Kyle, 17, and Justin, 12.”
Col Landers now only claims 2 children

In an effort to start over, Melody and Kevin decided to create their own business called Kyles Home Health Care. A business in name & photo’s only.

http://www.kyleshomehealth.org/about_us

above: Melody, Kyle & Kevin

Our Family

In the Kyle’s Home Healthcare website, once again, only two children’s pictures show up-Kyle and Justin. What about Kyle’s sister that adored every breath he took? Why was she not honored as also being a part of a miracle in the life that Col Kevin Landers and Melody claim they want to live? What about Kyle’s other siblings (my & Kevin’s children)?” I have heard wonderful stories shared by my older children about how sweet and funny Kyle was. Where are the pictures of the siblings that became a part of Kyle’s day-to-day life in July 2005?

The words “Our Family” does not apply to those that refuse to lie on their father’s behalf. Does it seem strange that there are no pictures of the other children? If a father is not going to claim his 3 other children and his wife is not going to claim her only daughter, then why should the US Army be upset when their Lt. Col. Landers chose to ABANDON his post & troops in Afghanistan! It is understandable to have a strained relationship with one child that is a young adult. But Col Kevin Landers not only denies one child - he denies the existence of 4 of his 6 children!  Can the military and the public in general not see that this man, husband and father has a lot of internal issues.

Within a year’s time, Lt. Col. Kevin Landers and his wife Melody went from claiming 6 children to acknowledging ONLY two sons-Kyle and J. What happened to Kevin’s oldest son-K.? Where are M and A? What happened to Melody’s daughter Kayla? I can answer those questions and so can Kayla, K, Jr., M and A. But the one child that has much to say but has not been permitted to speak out or allowed to maintain contact with his siblings is the one child that sat back in a dark corner crying and watching his siblings being verbally abused and kicked out methodically one by one. That child is the ONLY child that did not have a choice because of his age. The child that had to say goodbye not once, not twice, but several times to the siblings that refused to allow the hate to continue by their father; a child that was not allowed to speak, exist, or breathe without permission from his dad. Let alone, talk about his mom or brother or sisters. A child that is now 8 years older than in 2005; once an 8 year old that has matured into an almost 17 year old young adult. Yet he, J, is still terrified to pick up the phone or computer and try to contact any of us without his controlling father’s permission. This Lt. Col. father that lost control over me; lost control of his oldest son; lost control of his two daughters. Kevin lost this control because all 4 of us stood up to him and refused to be abused any longer. Our son J (he will turn 17 in September this year) has not been permitted physical contact with his immediate family for 8 years because Kevin Sr. decided that it would be best “for Justin” to: Forget about his mother; Denounce the older brother that he adored (6yrs difference in age); Have nothing to do with his 2 older sisters. Although daddy beat me out of the relationship and kicked his other 3 children out of his life, Lt. Col. Landers insisted that J MUST forget about all 4 of us because,  “They left us and don’t care about us. They don’t love you the way we do and all of our lives are much better without your mother and sisters because they tell lies about me.” Lt. Col. Landers professes to all that will listen, “Your mother is trying to ruin my career!” Kevin has a history with me and our children of treating us like garbage, and then in classic manipulator form, crying on the beaten down person’s shoulder as he (Kevin) tries to justify to himself & convince others that HE is the true victim. This act does have success with one that is scared, hurt & lonely. I observed his game often & can spot it in its infancy. Observation & studies indicate that the abuser is weak, mean and insecure. They only prey on ones that are vulnerable which includes young children-my children.

It is important to set up a clear, honest picture of how a man that portrays himself as a “honest”, “accountable”, “fair”, “caring”, “respected”, “responsible” man/soldier can be a mass manipulator that only cares about one thing in life-himself.

So having said that let me continue with my writings about how one man can abuse a system if that system allows him to do so.

Anymore, our leadership seems to have become more about seniority and not performance. Of course with every situation, there are always exceptions. For instance, I personally know of two officers that stand above many of those with equal rank. Both of my younger sisters(Debbie Milhorn and Sue Benson) husbands are exceptional military officers. These officers are very recognizable and are respected on their own merits. My brother-in-laws stand stable and respected for their performance as sons, brothers, husbands, fathers and soldiers. These two men (both officers in the US Army) take care of their families with pride, protection and love. They transfer these same attributes to the troops that serve with them. These outstanding soldiers that have to share a rank with Col Landers who doesn't deserve to be in the same “arena” as my sisters husbands. It's quite frustrating and disappointing to them, their families and soldiers because all are well aware of Kevin's unmeritable life with me, our 4 children and the soldiers that don't respect him yet under the ranking system-must keep their mouth shut-or else. It is evident that Kevin leads his troops the way he leads his children and wives...shut up-OR ELSE!!

“In the military there is no distinction between conduct in personal life and that of the military life. The two are one.”  
Military Code of Ethics | eHow http://www.ehow.com/about_6825168_military-code-ethics.html#ixzz2WZFGhaD4

It is unfortunate, that our country has embrace the mentality of, “the pursuit of power at any cost including the abuse and neglect of our colleagues, peers, communities and worst yet, of our own children…success at any sacrifice!” What is happening to integrity, pride and accountability? Where is the feeling of accomplishment that comes from making an “honest living”. How can one find fulfillment knowing that their successes and promotions are bogus & not warranted?

In every high ranked position or company, there are certain ethics that are expected.  As a society, we are starting to lose the expectation that people are to earn excellence through hard work, honesty and respect. Respect from their families; respect from their peers; respect from co-workers; respect from one’s competition. In this case, respect from the soldiers you command as well as your peers & upper command.  No matter what position one holds, the ethics are universal, simple and obvious.  Yet my frustration is that we are losing our pursuit of accountability for leaders that abuse their rank and power.

“In my 39 years in the military, I have learned that you are not a profession just because you say you are,” he said. “You have to earn it and re-earn it and re-evaluate it from time to time.”~ General Demsey

As an Army officer’s wife, I am very familiar with The Code of Conduct and Ethics. As you all know, I left my ex-husband on Monday January 17, 2005 after years of abuse. We had lived a secret life behind the walls of our homes and our children witnessed years of verbal hate and physical beatings/abuse of their mother at the hands of Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers. I had been raised to “stand by my man” period. I agree that I should & would perform my responsibility to support, protect and stand by my man-my solider. I did my best for 18 years to protect Lt. Col.  Kevin Landers in an effort that would allow him to appear to be one of integrity, accountability, respect, caring, fairness and promise keeping.  Yet Lt. Col. Landers chose not to control his anger. Anger directed towards me and our children.  I knew that I had to make some changes or all of us were headed for disaster. I feared that I may not wake up one day after a classic episode of rage because Kevin hates himself. After a “typical” beating, with blood coming from my nose, and hand prints embedded on my neck, I asked Kevin (who at this time was in a panic crying state – he panicked when I lost consciousness from his strangling me) as he cried and held me stroking my forehead with a wet cloth, I asked, “Why do you beat me?” Without missing a tear, he said, “I see orange”??? Back then, I didn’t know that no matter what I did to try to please Kevin, he would never be happy with me, no happiness with his kids nor has he found fulfillment with himself.

The only time that Kevin appeared to be happy is when things were going his way. I knew Kevin had anger issues but I truly thought I could help him control his anger if I would just do what he asked... “Stand by your man” at any cost was expected and I did the best I could. Unfortunately, this perverted relationship has caused my children to conclude, “Dad will stop if you (mom) will stop…(whatever demand his current mood presents)”.

I questioned what role Kevin thought I should perform. “What can I do as Kevin’s wife to make him happy?” When I asked him this question, he immediately took this as an opportunity to share with me his “late night work” of surfing porn & video chatting with other men & women. I was devastated and felt humiliation. It was at this time that I was introduced to my husband’s porn addiction.  Now I knew what role he wanted me to play as his wife. I longed to make him happy & decided to support and please him at any cost. Please read this blog entry. It will explain Col Kevin Landers infidelities and eventually his pursuit of the "Swingers" lifestyle that he secretly wanted to do with me.  
Col Landers Infidelities, Fear of an STD, and Swingers 

Col Kevin Landers has stated that he NEVER surfed porn and states that all the things I write about his sex addiction is a lie. However, I have the hard drive to the computer he used to surf porn. Screen shots of him exposing himself to women & men. Photo’s of others doing the same, along with names, locations, etc. I can produce all if ordered to do so.

In 2005, Kevin tried to break into our home in Fayetteville, NC after I was granted a restraining order against Kevin. He was going after a few things but primarily the hard drive.  I have hours and hours of Kevin’s infidelities and addictions

“Anyone who approaches an abuse situation with the notion that somehow through kindness and love, through behavior changes by victims, etc., the "good part" of the abuser can be reached and appealed to, needs to step down off of their high horse and just stop it! Stop giving advice to victims of abuse. Stop counseling abusers or even listening to them. This kind of thinking is foolishness at best and rank arrogance at worst. And it is dangerous.”~ Jeff Crippen

As John’s father once said to me when I could not grasp WHY my ex was and is still so hateful, “Sometimes there are just mean people in this world and we will never make sense of it. Mean is just mean. It can’t always be explained.”

Col Kevin Landers does not care if I or we think he is mean, UNLESS it affects his career or ambitions. If he starts to be exposed, as I have done with this blog, he goes to great lengths to 
(1) Try to bully me to stop talking by taking me to court with his 5 inch binder of lies, or 
(2) play the victim to his peers, family, township or worst of all his kids.Col Kevin Landers has and continues to display typical behaviors of an abuser. 
One of Kevin’s main characteristics of a classic abuser is that he blames everyone else for his anger, abuses, neglects…pretty much does not take accountability for anything. And when confronted with “no way out”, it’s because of the “orange”. He has tried to convince society that I was unstable and he had to protect himself.  
Note that Kevin has never denied beating me and he justifies it in a court order. According to Kevin’s falsified court order filed February 17^th 2012, he states that I would throw things at him, antagonize him and he “may have restrained me physically” in an effort to protect himself. A typical excuse by an abuser, “He” had to beat me in an effort to protect me from harming myself or him so punching me in the face, slamming my head against the wall or throwing me across the room was acceptable? Keep in mind that my children knew of his abuses. Kevin also states in this court order that because no police reports were filed it clearly proves his innocence. What terrifies this abuser the most is that our children witnessed beating after beating…too many for them to count.  After conversations, some counsel and support our children know that a man should NEVER strike a woman; a man should never strike his children in anger; heck a person should NEVER strike another…ESPECIALLY a person that is an easy target – a 180# officer punching, kicking, choking, raping his 125# wife. Good example Lt. Col. Landers. Sad.

"Abusers lack empathy which is why they can bloody your face and throw you a towel in disgust – “Clean yourself up, you are a mess!”  They will never admit fault for your pain, because you – according to them – “Brought it on yourself!” Abusers are very capable of fake empathy, especially when the abused threatens to leave them. The false tears only serve to melt the heart of the abused, and the cycle of torture will repeat itself. This is how the crazy making stage begins."

Col Landers knows this and he knows that the kids understand this. He cannot bully our kids into silence anymore because of their ages & lack of dependence on his “orders”. But abusers like Kevin will always find antics to protect the lies they continue to live by. Kevin’s biggest fear - now that our “young adult children” are free to speak – is their voices that confirm the “Family Picture” I have blogged. Voices that he silenced as minors…voices he continues to try to silence with unfulfilled promises of: financial assistance with college, cars, payment of future weddings, all paid joint vacations, down payments for a home…and then the worst of all – you can see/talk to your brother if you silence your mom & help me expose her “lies”. I call these “The Bribes of Silence”.

 “…you can have someone who is intensely competent, who is steeped in the skills of the profession, but doesn’t live a life of character.” General Dempsey

It has also been stated by Kevin’s second wife that Lt. Col. Landers is suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) caused by “the war.” Hence, he has severe anger issues according to Melody. I would dare say that Kevin may have or will try to convince his peers, family and children of the same-“War has changed me…I have anger and abuse issues because of my battlefield exposure.” I do agree that the horrible acts in war do have unimaginable effects on soldiers & I know that PTSD is legitimate and a huge concern for our men & women. BUT, please keep in mind that civilian Kevin Paul Landers of Hicksville, L.I. New York started beating me in 1987…well over 2 years of beatings were taking place before Kevin in 1989 joined University of Georgia ROTC.  As a matter of fact, according to the Dept. of Veterans Affairs (http://www.ptsd.va.gov/) Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and my personal experience in helping others with PTSD, this disorder can occur following a life-threatening event like military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious accidents, or violent personal assaults like rape.  In our 18 years of marriage, Kevin never experienced any of these. Being that 15 of my 18 years of marriage included the US Army, I supported officer Landers through every deployment. I was involved in family support groups and saw first hand what facing combat close up can do to a solider and family. Kevin never faced any combative situations or imminent dangers in the 18 years we were together. The only deployment in our 18 year marriage was when Kevin was part of Operation Restore Hope. We were stationed at Fort Benning, GA under Col. Robert (Larry) Davis’s command. However, no deaths, shootings, or the “theater of war” ever occurred in Kevin’s company. It would be very insulting for Lt. Col. Kevin Landers to dilute other soldier’s experiences of tragedy by comparing his decision to beat women & denounce his children as being a result of PTSD & combat. No matter how one tries to justify Lt. Col. Landers behavior, this/his behavior is NOT becoming of an officer. Not the measure of a man -period.

It is common and well documented knowledge that after I filed for divorce in 2005, Kevin eventually was given command of the 4^th ENG. (engineers) Fort Carson, CO and there were unfortunately casualties within his unit/command. I note these casualties because I want to acknowledge my awareness of my children’s father being in harm’s way since their parents’ divorce. However, Lt. Col. Kevin P. Landers needs to be very careful in blaming circumstances for his treatment towards his children. Lt. Col. Landers carried his lack of leadership within the household with him to the volatile environment in Afghanistan…perhaps it was a “orange” sighting that prompted Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. to abandon his troops In 2010 while being the commander of the 4^th Engineers, Fort Carson, CO.  

FACT according to this news article written by family members from the 4th ENG Batallion, it is a direct slam against the role as commander by Lt. Col. Landers. 
Please read comments from very distraught families and soldiers in below link-

LTC Kevin Landers abondones troops in Afghanistan 

You can quickly assess that the families of the soldiers Lt. Col. Landers was suppose to protect were very upset with his leadership and selfishness. According to the news, Lt. Col. Kevin Landers arrived 2 weeks prior to the planned return of himself & the 500 troops under his command…he left behind his troops (.) Lt. Col. Landers left behind the very soldiers that followed him into combat!

The comments on this article caused a lot of turmoil. In their “5 inch binder”, Kevin & Melody claim that I set up fake accounts and all 23 comments were from me. The US Army is a small enough community that I am quite certain Kevin’s peers can determine the truth of these articles. Once again, abusers will go to any lengths to manipulate and lie to hide their true colors.

Having said that, no apology or explanation was issued; nor were there any logical excuses for this commander to abandon his troops. How can the military continue to allow this US Army officer to wear the uniform and excel in a military that prides themselves on “taking care of their own”; “An Army of one” – unless you’re Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers? Sickening.

“Some wonder whether its top officers have forgotten the lessons of Bathsheba: The crown of command should not be worn with arrogance, and while rank has its privileges, remember that infallibility and entitlement are not among them.”

Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. is paid to be a leader. He is paid to be respected. He is paid to play a role as a soldier leading soldiers. Kevin does well performing tasks he is being paid to do. At one time I claimed Kevin to be a good soldier even though he lacked in the unpaid role of husband & father.  Yet with his 2010 “troop abandonment”, he has proven to be an unworthy officer/soldier as well.

One may ask, “Catherine, who are you to judge what Kevin’s qualifications are?” I have answered that question in this entry. 

So, here I end with this paragraph. Our military leadership is to be based on the below attributes and are required of the US military & its members:

Honesty, Integrity, Accountability, Fairness, Caring, Respect, Promise Keeping, Responsible Citizenship, Pursuit of Excellence

Col Landers has not proven that he is capable of any of these. His pattern of abuse, lies and continued slander against me and his kids is obvious.

I know Kevin very well. Better that anyone. I was married to him for 18 years. I can predict his moods, his moves and his motives. He currently is working towards a new position and he will go to any lengths to ensure that his lies are not exposed. His tactics will once again include an attempt to use our children in an effort to “protect him” by convincing them that he was the victim all along. I dare say that as I write this, in Kevin’s mind, he is already planning on blaming Melody for all the horrible things that happened to our children after I was out of the picture. I can hear him now, “I had no idea what was going on because I was always deployed”; “Melody has a lot of psychological issues and I didn’t know that when we married”; “I just love you so much and I am sorry Melody was so mean to you”; “Your mom really hurt me when she left me for ‘Uncle John”.  Blah Blah Blah-

Melody has never had legal say in any of our 4 children’s lives. My daughter’s could have not been sent away from facility to facility without their father’s approval. There is not one power that Melody has or has ever had to determine the suffering my children endured during these past 8 years. Their misery was at the hands of one person- their father. Hurt per the choices of a father that only contacts them when he needs something. My children do not understand how far their father will go to try to use them to help him gain a goal…he will turn on the crying while on his hands and knees professing his victimization. Oh how I have seen him do that time after time after time. He does not stay on his knees long. He is like a wolf crouching for the next hunt. All that come in his presence need to keep their eyes wide open. Do your own background check on his history (personal & military). Beware. You have been informed. 

A recent side note as of 2014:
Col Kevin Landers and his second wife Melody are trying to convince society that our children were aloud to have contact all along but they chose not to. I can produce emails where our children begged their father to permit them to speak to each other and me. Col Landers is a mass manipulator and if all else fails, he threatens to take our now adult children to court if they speak openly. He is the meanest, most unstable man I have ever met.

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