A quick update on my Court proceedings that took place this morning March 19th 2012:
As many of you know, my abuser continues to try and censor this Blog. When my abuser Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. and his wife Melody Morrison Wilson Landers found that they could not suppress my Freedom of Speech, they filed for a Permanent Restraining Order. My abuser and his wife claim in their written complaints that they “fear for their life”. They also introduced false information claiming I had verbally threatened them. I have NEVER threatened anyone. Kevin and Melody also claim that I post this Blog on other 3rd party sites such as employer’s websites, children schools, places of worship, etc. Both Plaintiff's signed their sworn complaints advising the court that I lived in Webb, County Texas. This was an effort to ensure that I had no knowledge of their filings. If you ever want to find me, look at my FaceBook as it will always provide contact information and I will provide you with my physical San Miguel de Allende address. Kevin always knows my location since we share joint custody of two minor children and therefeore I provide our daughter's location to him and as you have read in Melody's public posts she is obviously aware that I am "in that 3rd World Country Mex-EEE-Koh!" All intentional lies and fabricated “evidence” on their part. Not too becoming of an officer, although a practice he knows well. Please note, My Blog originates here and a link is provided on my Face Book page. PERIOD. Also, recall that Melody worked closely with the District Attorney’s office in North Carolina and Kevin and Melody started living together in May 2005. When you read the criteria for Cyber-Stalking and grounds to file a Restraining Order, it is quite apparent that they have went “down the list” to insure they introduce cause/evidence in an effort to obtain a ruling in their favor. Both are very sad, bitter, miserable people- not just with each other but also with those whose life they encounter.
As I consulted with legal counsel, it was determined that since I have no desire to see my ex-husband and since I have never met Melody and because I have not been to nor desire a visit to Colorado much less their home town, why would I put my health in additional jeopardy and spend the additional thousands of dollars needed to travel to and from Colorado Springs plus legal fees necessary to defend these lies just to have them “100% dismissed”. As my counsel put it, “Why does it matter to have a no-contact order involving a man that wants to continue beating you down?” Counsel’s question was soothing for me and offered much clarity. Why would I spend the money and risk additional seizures just to fight a man that physically, emotionally and sexually abused me? I have been in Mexico since 2005. I have no desire to have contact with Lt. Col. Kevin Landers or his wife of 5 years. So, “Why would you (me) fight for your right to be in touch with ‘the bully’s?” Wow! So basic a question, yet so liberating for me. And why in the world would I execute my right to be in contact with Melody Landers…someone I have NEVER met and have no desire to meet.
Based on the information above, I agreed to “concede/not object” to a Permanent No Contact being entered/executed. It is KEY to note the court's wording that, "your conceding to this Order being put in place is 'WITHOUT admission of wrong doing." Thank you Plaintiff Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. and Plaintiff Melody Morrison Wilson Landers for not wanting contact with me nor are they allowed contact with me. And I can assure everyone that I will not seek contact with either Plaintiff and I have no plans to ever travel to Colorado so that pledge should satisfy the “100 yard” no contact distance from their residence and employer. No calls. No emails. Nothing.
Let me and my readers move onward. Now, the next part of my story.
I want to take a step back in time to when Kevin was deployed to Iraq. When Kevin started to sense that I was leaving him, I got a phone call from a Chaplin Brock who was in Iraq with Kevin. He told me that Kevin very distraught and his mental stability was questionable. The Chaplin asked me if I would counsel with him over the phone. I told him kindly, that I already had a counselor and I was happy with him. The Chaplin seemed to become frustrated with me when I stood my ground and told him that I did not want his counsel. I told him that I was supportive of Kevin seeking out help however I was happy with my current counselor. I never heard from the Chaplin again. Kevin called me and told me that he was on suicide watch and that he had to surrender all of his weapons and command. I am not sure if Kevin was trying to manipulate me or if he was actually on suicide watch. Today, I know that abusers will use ANY type of manipulation they can to control. Kevin is the master of manipulation. Whatever emotional state he claimed to be in while in Iraq, was not the state he was in when he arrived back in the USA 8-14 months early. He was a self proclaimed “evil man” and he was ready to destroy me anyway he could…including lies by him and false promises to his 12 year old daughter in an effort to have her lie on his behalf- HIS EVIL HAD NO LIMITS.
So, let me continue with Kevin being served with the No Contact Order.
The day after Kevin arrived to our home unexpectedly and unannounced-the same evening he was escorted away by the police- I got the kids ready for school and I headed straight for the courthouse. It was a long process, but I was able to have Kevin served with the restraining order. You have no idea what a sense of relief it was. I had a temporary moment of feeling safe. But, “temporary” is the key word here for my feeling of being safe ran out pretty quick. I would wake up in a cold sweat after a nightmare and I felt like someone was in my bedroom with me. I did not sleep. I thought I heard someone walking on the grass outside, or creaks on the back porch. During the day, I could feel someone starring at me in the distance, but when I turned around, I could not see anyone. I would be shopping and the hair on the back of my neck stood up. I knew Kevin was close to me, but I could not see him. He was taunting me, but he made himself invisible. I could feel his eyes on me everywhere I went and I was terrified that I would wake up and he would be luring over me with that evil face filled with anger. I started to realize that a restraining order really could not stop him if he REALLY wanted to penetrate our home and if he took that chance…I feared what he was capable of doing to me. At this moment, I feared my own death was a scary possibility. I was convinced that Kevin would not care what his consequences were if he killed me. I did not sleep. I did not eat. I was treading on a very fine line with my abuser and he did not like the lack of control over me. It was evident and clear that he was insanely furious and I had pushed beyond his anger capacity.
Kevin pulled all the money out of our joint bank account. My AAFES credit card was cancelled. Our emergency credit card-cancelled. I had bills to pay and children to feed and Kevin had taken all the money. My water had been turned off. My electricity was scheduled to be turned off, but I begged the electric company to give me another week and I would find a way to pay the bill. When the court hearing for child support was held, Kevin was instructed to pay $466.00 total a month for 4 kids. I had asked my lawyer why so little? My lawyer instructed me that Kevin’s lawyer included the mortgage of our home which was $1190.00 a month in the child support. I was responsible for Utilities, food and clothing. Basically, Kevin was keeping a roof over his children’s head. I was stunned. Keep in mind, that I was a stay-at-home mom. I had worked to “put my man through college”. I was the officer’s wife of 16 years plus the 2 non-military years. I had no income, little education and 4 children to care for. Kevin was Captain Promotable to Major making in excess over $70,000 a year. I also received a phone call from my life insurance agent that told me Kevin was trying to retrieve my life insurance. He basically screamed at her and told her that he was the one that paid it all these years and he wanted his money back. I was instructed to cash my small life insurance policy and use the money to try to survive. The cash value was all of about $2,500.00. Everything was happening so fast and I had no idea that Kevin would punish me by depriving our children of monetary needs. So hence, things started to get really crazy in the courtroom. At one point, my lawyer took me to a room and told me that I should drop the restraining order to a lesser one. The restraining order I had stated that Kevin was not allowed to be anywhere near me but now my lawyer was telling me that I needed to drop it. I just looked at her and said “Why would I do that?” My lawyer told me that Kevin’s lawyer was going to put me on the stand and tear me apart. I told my lawyer that I did not care because I was telling the truth. My lawyer persisted and said “You have no idea what hell they are going to put you through in that chair-they actually have a pair of your underwear that you sent to Kevin in Iraq sealed in a plastic baggie.” I just looked at her and said-“What are you talking about?” My lawyer proceeded-“Kevin is claiming that you still love him and that John is brainwashing you otherwise you would not have sent him your panties.” I could not put my mind around this whole thing. In my mind, I was thinking- “What the hell is going on and what sick freak seals up a woman’s underwear in a plastic bag?” I told my lawyer that I still wanted to go on the stand, but she persisted that I did not. So, I trusted my lawyer’s judgment, and I lowered the restraining order. But pressed forward with the divorce I had filed. One of the first ill-advised decisions I made per my lawyers instruction was to drop the current Restraining Order. I do believe today, that my lawyer was afraid to litigate against Kevin’s lawyer who was a keen, experienced attorney. Basically, I got what I could afford and it hurt me in more ways than I could ever imagine. Kevin bought his innocence and I had no money, time, or energy. I was losing more than a marriage. I had no idea how bad things would get. I was starting to drown quickly in Kevin’s insanities. My fear of his evil was very real and strong. It was not just good enough that Kevin wanted the home (which is why he was paying the mortgage and not child support), Kevin was on a mission to take away the only 4 things that I asked for - my children that I immensely loved and wanted to co-parent with my abuser.
I know this is a brief blog, but it is enough for today. I will write more very soon.“Do not think lightly of evil that not the least consequence will come of it. A whole waterpot will fill up from dripping drops of water. A fool fills himself with evil, just a little at a time.”~The Buddha
REST…REGROUP…RETURN
As many of you know, my abuser continues to try and censor this Blog. When my abuser Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. and his wife Melody Morrison Wilson Landers found that they could not suppress my Freedom of Speech, they filed for a Permanent Restraining Order. My abuser and his wife claim in their written complaints that they “fear for their life”. They also introduced false information claiming I had verbally threatened them. I have NEVER threatened anyone. Kevin and Melody also claim that I post this Blog on other 3rd party sites such as employer’s websites, children schools, places of worship, etc. Both Plaintiff's signed their sworn complaints advising the court that I lived in Webb, County Texas. This was an effort to ensure that I had no knowledge of their filings. If you ever want to find me, look at my FaceBook as it will always provide contact information and I will provide you with my physical San Miguel de Allende address. Kevin always knows my location since we share joint custody of two minor children and therefeore I provide our daughter's location to him and as you have read in Melody's public posts she is obviously aware that I am "in that 3rd World Country Mex-EEE-Koh!" All intentional lies and fabricated “evidence” on their part. Not too becoming of an officer, although a practice he knows well. Please note, My Blog originates here and a link is provided on my Face Book page. PERIOD. Also, recall that Melody worked closely with the District Attorney’s office in North Carolina and Kevin and Melody started living together in May 2005. When you read the criteria for Cyber-Stalking and grounds to file a Restraining Order, it is quite apparent that they have went “down the list” to insure they introduce cause/evidence in an effort to obtain a ruling in their favor. Both are very sad, bitter, miserable people- not just with each other but also with those whose life they encounter.
As I consulted with legal counsel, it was determined that since I have no desire to see my ex-husband and since I have never met Melody and because I have not been to nor desire a visit to Colorado much less their home town, why would I put my health in additional jeopardy and spend the additional thousands of dollars needed to travel to and from Colorado Springs plus legal fees necessary to defend these lies just to have them “100% dismissed”. As my counsel put it, “Why does it matter to have a no-contact order involving a man that wants to continue beating you down?” Counsel’s question was soothing for me and offered much clarity. Why would I spend the money and risk additional seizures just to fight a man that physically, emotionally and sexually abused me? I have been in Mexico since 2005. I have no desire to have contact with Lt. Col. Kevin Landers or his wife of 5 years. So, “Why would you (me) fight for your right to be in touch with ‘the bully’s?” Wow! So basic a question, yet so liberating for me. And why in the world would I execute my right to be in contact with Melody Landers…someone I have NEVER met and have no desire to meet.
Based on the information above, I agreed to “concede/not object” to a Permanent No Contact being entered/executed. It is KEY to note the court's wording that, "your conceding to this Order being put in place is 'WITHOUT admission of wrong doing." Thank you Plaintiff Lt. Col. Kevin Paul Landers, Sr. and Plaintiff Melody Morrison Wilson Landers for not wanting contact with me nor are they allowed contact with me. And I can assure everyone that I will not seek contact with either Plaintiff and I have no plans to ever travel to Colorado so that pledge should satisfy the “100 yard” no contact distance from their residence and employer. No calls. No emails. Nothing.
Let me and my readers move onward. Now, the next part of my story.
I want to take a step back in time to when Kevin was deployed to Iraq. When Kevin started to sense that I was leaving him, I got a phone call from a Chaplin Brock who was in Iraq with Kevin. He told me that Kevin very distraught and his mental stability was questionable. The Chaplin asked me if I would counsel with him over the phone. I told him kindly, that I already had a counselor and I was happy with him. The Chaplin seemed to become frustrated with me when I stood my ground and told him that I did not want his counsel. I told him that I was supportive of Kevin seeking out help however I was happy with my current counselor. I never heard from the Chaplin again. Kevin called me and told me that he was on suicide watch and that he had to surrender all of his weapons and command. I am not sure if Kevin was trying to manipulate me or if he was actually on suicide watch. Today, I know that abusers will use ANY type of manipulation they can to control. Kevin is the master of manipulation. Whatever emotional state he claimed to be in while in Iraq, was not the state he was in when he arrived back in the USA 8-14 months early. He was a self proclaimed “evil man” and he was ready to destroy me anyway he could…including lies by him and false promises to his 12 year old daughter in an effort to have her lie on his behalf- HIS EVIL HAD NO LIMITS.
So, let me continue with Kevin being served with the No Contact Order.
The day after Kevin arrived to our home unexpectedly and unannounced-the same evening he was escorted away by the police- I got the kids ready for school and I headed straight for the courthouse. It was a long process, but I was able to have Kevin served with the restraining order. You have no idea what a sense of relief it was. I had a temporary moment of feeling safe. But, “temporary” is the key word here for my feeling of being safe ran out pretty quick. I would wake up in a cold sweat after a nightmare and I felt like someone was in my bedroom with me. I did not sleep. I thought I heard someone walking on the grass outside, or creaks on the back porch. During the day, I could feel someone starring at me in the distance, but when I turned around, I could not see anyone. I would be shopping and the hair on the back of my neck stood up. I knew Kevin was close to me, but I could not see him. He was taunting me, but he made himself invisible. I could feel his eyes on me everywhere I went and I was terrified that I would wake up and he would be luring over me with that evil face filled with anger. I started to realize that a restraining order really could not stop him if he REALLY wanted to penetrate our home and if he took that chance…I feared what he was capable of doing to me. At this moment, I feared my own death was a scary possibility. I was convinced that Kevin would not care what his consequences were if he killed me. I did not sleep. I did not eat. I was treading on a very fine line with my abuser and he did not like the lack of control over me. It was evident and clear that he was insanely furious and I had pushed beyond his anger capacity.
Kevin pulled all the money out of our joint bank account. My AAFES credit card was cancelled. Our emergency credit card-cancelled. I had bills to pay and children to feed and Kevin had taken all the money. My water had been turned off. My electricity was scheduled to be turned off, but I begged the electric company to give me another week and I would find a way to pay the bill. When the court hearing for child support was held, Kevin was instructed to pay $466.00 total a month for 4 kids. I had asked my lawyer why so little? My lawyer instructed me that Kevin’s lawyer included the mortgage of our home which was $1190.00 a month in the child support. I was responsible for Utilities, food and clothing. Basically, Kevin was keeping a roof over his children’s head. I was stunned. Keep in mind, that I was a stay-at-home mom. I had worked to “put my man through college”. I was the officer’s wife of 16 years plus the 2 non-military years. I had no income, little education and 4 children to care for. Kevin was Captain Promotable to Major making in excess over $70,000 a year. I also received a phone call from my life insurance agent that told me Kevin was trying to retrieve my life insurance. He basically screamed at her and told her that he was the one that paid it all these years and he wanted his money back. I was instructed to cash my small life insurance policy and use the money to try to survive. The cash value was all of about $2,500.00. Everything was happening so fast and I had no idea that Kevin would punish me by depriving our children of monetary needs. So hence, things started to get really crazy in the courtroom. At one point, my lawyer took me to a room and told me that I should drop the restraining order to a lesser one. The restraining order I had stated that Kevin was not allowed to be anywhere near me but now my lawyer was telling me that I needed to drop it. I just looked at her and said “Why would I do that?” My lawyer told me that Kevin’s lawyer was going to put me on the stand and tear me apart. I told my lawyer that I did not care because I was telling the truth. My lawyer persisted and said “You have no idea what hell they are going to put you through in that chair-they actually have a pair of your underwear that you sent to Kevin in Iraq sealed in a plastic baggie.” I just looked at her and said-“What are you talking about?” My lawyer proceeded-“Kevin is claiming that you still love him and that John is brainwashing you otherwise you would not have sent him your panties.” I could not put my mind around this whole thing. In my mind, I was thinking- “What the hell is going on and what sick freak seals up a woman’s underwear in a plastic bag?” I told my lawyer that I still wanted to go on the stand, but she persisted that I did not. So, I trusted my lawyer’s judgment, and I lowered the restraining order. But pressed forward with the divorce I had filed. One of the first ill-advised decisions I made per my lawyers instruction was to drop the current Restraining Order. I do believe today, that my lawyer was afraid to litigate against Kevin’s lawyer who was a keen, experienced attorney. Basically, I got what I could afford and it hurt me in more ways than I could ever imagine. Kevin bought his innocence and I had no money, time, or energy. I was losing more than a marriage. I had no idea how bad things would get. I was starting to drown quickly in Kevin’s insanities. My fear of his evil was very real and strong. It was not just good enough that Kevin wanted the home (which is why he was paying the mortgage and not child support), Kevin was on a mission to take away the only 4 things that I asked for - my children that I immensely loved and wanted to co-parent with my abuser.
I know this is a brief blog, but it is enough for today. I will write more very soon.“Do not think lightly of evil that not the least consequence will come of it. A whole waterpot will fill up from dripping drops of water. A fool fills himself with evil, just a little at a time.”~The Buddha
REST…REGROUP…RETURN
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